- This blog is about the intersection of body image and style. Some posts will lean more in one direction than the other, but I am primarily interested in showing where the two overlap. Some aspects of personal style aren’t 100% harmonious with the quest to cultivate positive body image, and vice versa. But I think that’s just fine. It’s not my intention to be eternally consistent or singularly focused. It’s my intention to explore two topics that have some fascinating and beneficial common ground.
- I do my utmost to be all-inclusive, all-encompassing, and all-loving because I want everyone who reads this blog to feel welcome and respected and important and gorgeous and worthy. If I write a post and omit your body shape, your height, your weight, your age, your preferences, it is not an intentional, malicious, or judgmental exclusion. I am human. I do my best to consider all the angles, but I can’t always see them.
- When I post about loving yourself, I’m asking you to aspire as I aspire. I don’t expect you to pull it off every single day because I know it’s hard and personal and fluctuating and a lifelong battle. I can’t pull it off every single day either.
- I get daily requests for figure flattery advice posts, and I enjoy writing them, and I will continue to post them here. Not a single one of them should be considered gospel, and I fully expect you to read them with a grain of salt. Style “rules” are merely guidelines no matter who is dispensing them. I trust you to use your judgment. And I trust you to take what applies to you, discard the rest, and assume positive intent.
What this blog is about
I started this blog because I used to utilize so much energy hating my body that I exhausted myself into depression. For years I tried to change my body with diets and exercise, believing that its shape and size were the root of the problem, but I just kept on hating it. When I began exploring fashion and style – dressing in fun, flattering, and form-fitting clothes – an unexplored universe opened up to me. For the first time, I respected my body. I realized that there was nothing wrong with my body. I saw my body as integral to my identity. I wanted to show it off, and decorate it joyously, and hone my personal style so that I could understand it on new levels. THAT is how this all began. That connection between looking good and feeling good, as it relates to style, is what inspired me to launch Already Pretty. Because when I started to dress in a way that made me look amazing and feel amazing, I finally stopped actively, continually, exhaustingly hating my body. And I immediately wanted to show other women how to make that connection so they could stop hating theirs.
I love debating social norms and influence, feminism and the media, all of which are relevant and contributing topics. I will always be interested in the psychology of shopping, organizational techniques, and fluctuating trends. But most of what I want to and will write about is how style impacts body image and how dressing well expresses self-respect and self-understanding. I want all women to utilize any available means to accept and adore their bodies. I want all women to contribute to a more diverse definition of beauty. And I will touch on those general goals frequently and with tremendous passion. But my primary mission is to show that body knowledge gained through explorations of personal style can foster self-love and self-respect.
Nearly a decade of blogging has taught me a lot and changed my views on many topics. I no longer believe that there are fashion faux pas or “wrong” ways to dress. I no longer believe that every woman longs to create a tall, thin, balanced figure. I no longer believe that any clothing-related choice is entirely autonomous. I no longer believe that any piece of clothing is universally flattering. But I still believe that stylish dressing can both empower and transform.
I want you all to believe me when I tell you how gorgeous you are. I want you to see how unique and sensual and graceful and elegant and funky and radiant you have always been. I can help you explore that through personal style, figure flattery choices, and expressive dressing.
That, my friends, is what this blog is here for.