Before I became interested in dressing and style, I avoided thinking about my body. At all costs. I didn’t look in the mirror if I didn’t have to, didn’t focus much energy or attention on how my outfits interacted with my figure, and did my utmost to think about anything besides my own physicality. Because of this choice, the information I was given about my body came almost exclusively from external sources. And none of it was good news: I was chubby, disproportionate, my breasts were too small and my hips were too big, my arms were flabby and so was my stomach. Virtually all of this information was comparative: I was flabby compared to Gwyneth Paltrow, my breasts were too small compared to Victoria’s Secret models … you know the drill. I studiously ignored my body, hoping its perceived inadequacies would diminish if I pretended I was a brain in a jar. And yet this comparative information still crept in and made me feel inadequate.
Originally posted 2013-09-16 06:02:50.
Reader Dina sent me this question via email:
I bought myself a seersucker blazer [with gray and white stripes]. I’ve been trying to incorporate more blazers and office appropriate summer cover ups for the over air-conditioned spaces and this seemed perfect for the summer. I went out to see a play over the weekend and put the blazer on with a black skirt and coral tee. My husband looked at it with a big “No, you may not wear seersucker with black,” and that comment (which was very loving!) plus the fact it was a bit too boxy for that particular skirt made me change my outfit. But I was left with a burning problem: How do I wear the blazer?! Most of my bottoms are darker in color and I tend to not wear jeans to the office. I had dreams of adding this to a black sheath dress and now I’m left unsure!
Originally posted 2014-05-14 06:28:56.
I offered closet consultations and personal shopping services for nearly eight years. Know how many clients hired me to do personal shopping only? Less than 20. Know why? Because I insisted on doing the closet consult first, and every single closet consult client I’ve worked with has finished up with more than a dozen complete outfits, many of which incorporate underutilized pieces, closet orphans, and long-forgotten items. I adore shopping, and my personal shopping excursions were a BLAST. But I believe quite firmly that before you buy anything new, you should be certain you’re making the most of your existing wardrobe.
Originally posted 2012-10-18 06:18:13.