Reader Nancy e-mailed this question to me:
I think it would be great if you would write an article about shopping with others. I have problems with this, stemming from shopping with my mom as a teenager. I have had more body issues from those awkward times than from most other experiences. What made me uncomfortable were the comments about clothing that didn’t fit or flatter. If I tried on a pair of pants that didn’t fit, she would say something like “your hip to waist ratio is off, those pants make you look out of proportion”, or if a shoe made my legs look stumpy, she would tell me I should go for a narrower shoe so I don’t look so short. Those ways of saying certain garments looked terrible on me did quite a number on my self-image when I was a teenager. After I moved out of my parent’s house and started to shop by myself, I realized I am completely smokin’! I look great with my own personal hip to waist ratio, and I don’t have to be tall with long legs to be pretty.
Originally posted 2010-11-23 06:06:00.
When it comes to shopping, I’m the first to acknowledge that I’ve got it pretty easy. I’m a 10/12, or medium/large in just about everything and a size 8M shoe, which means my biggest woe is that my size is often sold out. But I’m not petite or plus-sized or tall, my feet aren’t small or large, my calves aren’t wide or narrow … I’m shaped more or less how manufacturers want me to be shaped.
But I know that many, many, MANY women are challenged to find quality, stylish clothing that fits their marvelously unique forms. Many of you are petite or plus-sized or tall, or have feet that are small or large, or calves that are wide or narrow … and while I can’t help you out with brick-and-mortar recommendations in your hometowns, I can certainly round up a few online resources for those who require specialty sized clothing and shoes. (The Insomniac Sale Picks series also includes specialty sizes as often as I can possibly find them!)
Originally posted 2010-11-17 06:36:00.
Although I spend an inordinate amount of time and energy thinking about my body, cultivating awareness of my body, and trying to love my body exactly as it is, I have a confession to make: If I’m in a good place, body image-wise, I DON’T think about my body. After I’ve been feeling good about myself for a decent chunk of time, my body becomes invisible to me. I get dressed effortlessly, see myself in the mirror and feel utterly neutral, give nary a thought to my physical self unless I stub my toe or get a paper cut.
Originally posted 2010-11-15 06:13:00.