Posts Categorized: style

What is Sophistication?

What does it mean to dress in a sophisticated way?

Reader Deb wrote to me with this fabulous question:

As a middle-aged woman, I often hear style gurus advise women of my age that we can wear trends as long as we “wear them with sophistication.” I’m happy that age-related style rules (no long hair after 35) are no more, but I’m floundering a little with the sophistication bit, especially sophistication on a budget.

Would wearing just solid colors be more sophisticated? Have you helped any of your clients with this issue? Is sophistication just one of those things that you recognize when you see it, or can it be described? read more

Originally posted 2011-01-14 06:05:21.

Reader Request: Constant Pieces


Esti said:

I’d love to see you post on how to incorporate constant pieces (be they ink, wedding bands, or friendship bracelets) into personal style.

I’ve had many people ask me if I give thought to matching my outfits to my visible tattoos and honestly? I don’t. Ever. It’s great when the ink is harmonious with the ensemble, but when they clash I’m never fussed. My tattoos are like part of my skin and I often don’t even see them. Which is, perhaps, careless because I DO give thought to how clothing plays off my skin, eye, and hair color. Why not the visible body art? My only real answer is that my tattoos are among the most emotional of my aesthetic expressions, and I don’t want to limit their color palette based on my dressing preferences. And I wouldn’t be comfortable telling anyone that dressing to match her tattoos should be a stylistic priority. read more

Originally posted 2011-01-07 06:18:59.

Reader Request: Outside Opinions

What do you do if you have an item of clothing that everyone else seems to dislike, but you love?

Reader Louise e-mailed this question to me a couple of months ago:

What do you do if you have an item of clothing that everyone else seems to dislike, but you love? Do you wear it? Keep it in the closet, but wear it rarely? Get rid of it?

Here are the specifics of my case, but in a way they aren’t really important as it is a style philosophy that I’m interested in: I just bought a denim skirt to replace one that wasn’t fitting comfortably anymore. I wear the old skirt at least once a week as it is a staple of my wardrobe. The new skirt is fairly long (mid-calf), full, buttons all the way up the front, washed/faded denim with the classic faded gold stitching/pewtery hardware. I thought it was classic, but when I showed my husband, he said it was matronly. He rarely has any clothing opinions, so that alone gave me pause. read more

Originally posted 2010-12-21 06:09:37.