Posts Categorized: psychology

No Woman is an Island

We all dress ourselves.

A while back, a reader wrote to me to weigh in on an older post about outside influences on style choices. She asserted that, as a teen, she dressed as she wished and ignored the opinions of her peer group. She also felt that the generations moving through puberty and into adulthood right now are considerably more immune to peer influence … that kids these days don’t care what people think about how they look or dress. Furthermore, she stated that she felt no impact from outside opinions at all, be they negative or positive. read more

Originally posted 2009-11-25 06:43:00.

The Industry

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“Every woman dreams of having longer, fuller, thicker lashes.”

So proclaimed a voice that echoed forth from the mondo flatscreen as I bounced along on my stair climber at the gym. And I thought, “Not true. I don’t dream of having longer, fuller, thicker lashes. And I’m a woman.”

And then I thought, “Hm. But maybe I should consider mascara. Would I look better if I learned to apply and wear it? Do I look like a stumpy-lashed weirdo¬†now, and not even realize it?” read more

Originally posted 2009-01-09 07:12:00.

Reader Request: Fashion as Crutch


My girl The Budget Babe sent along this truly puzzling question:

can clothing give you a false sense of security? and if so, should we be relying on that “it” bag or those high heels or that red lipstick to make us feel secure? or should we work up to the point where we’re completely confident looking like crap and then start adding the layers?

I had to think about this for a damn long time before I could formulate any kind of response, and I’m still a little wobbly about it. But here are my initial thoughts: read more

Originally posted 2009-09-29 05:49:00.