I am not the first to make this plea, and I certainly hope I won’t be the last.
I don’t actually want my fashion magazines to show photographs of women who look like me from cover to cover. I also don’t want them to show photographs of women taller or heavier or curvier or older or more muscular or longer-waisted or more petite or higher-cheekboned or bigger-breasted than me. Not exclusively.
I want it all.
I want diversity.
Countless studies have proven that magazines packed with images of rail-thin models have screwed up our daughters’ ideas about bodies. That the constant barrage of waif-like celebrities scrambles and scars our own ideas about bodies. Decades of damage have been done, across age, geographic, sexual, religious, and political boundaries. And it’s downright sickening.
Originally posted 2009-09-22 05:49:00.
Try this out.
- Write a list of words that describe your body, both good and bad. Include anything and everything that comes to your mind, and keep going for at least 25 adjectives. Are you “strong,” “short,” “disproportionate,” “sexy,” “huge,” “clumsy,” “stocky,” or “delicate”?
- Next to each word, put a + if you feel that it’s a positive attribute, and a – if you feel that it’s a negative attribute.
- Now, examine your negatives. Next to each negative,write the reason you feel this adjective applies to your body. Be honest, and take your time doing this. (You can feel free to do this for the positives, too, but this is mainly meant to reverse ingrained negative body thinking.)
When forced to articulate your reasoning, you’ll see how much you’re unconsciously exaggerating negative perceptions of yourself. For example, let’s say you wrote “wrinkly.” What’s your reasoning? Are you seriously and deeply creased all over your body? Do passersby yell, “Raisin!” at you, and then scamper off, laughing? Say you wrote, “out of shape.” Are you comparing your current body to a body you once had? Or the body of someone else? Are you so out of shape that you can’t climb a flight of stairs, or lift a bag of groceries, or walk your dog?
Originally posted 2009-09-09 05:58:00.
Don’t have time for a 5-mile run? Can’t seem to find a damn thing in the closet that makes you feel like electric sex? Feeling run-down, beat-up, and worn-out? Here are some quick, easy ways to make yourself INSTANTLY feel better about your body:
Put on some lip gloss. Preferably something that smells yummy.
Press the thumb of one hand into the palm of the other and massage. Switch.
Take off your shoes and do 7 jumping jacks. You decide if this should be in public or private.
Give yourself a 30 second head-massage. Just scritch your scalp with your nails very gently.
Go into a private room, look into the mirror, and smile. See how gorgeous you are?
Roll your shoulders back. Do it at least three times.
Macarena. Electric Slide. Bunny Hop. Something easy and rote and SUPER fun.
Take a peek at your boobs. Go on, do it! Man, aren’t they sexy?
Skip. Like, skip your way to your next meeting.
Flex a muscle. Any muscle. Look at it, pass your hand over it, feel proud of it.
Mentally list the three most fantabulous things about your very own bod.
Stretch. Arms, back, legs. Take a deep breath. Repeat.
Ask for a hug from the best hugger you know.
If you’re wearing a skirt, twirl. But don’t forget to spot, or you’ll getdizzyfalldown.
Say this, out loud: “I don’t have to change a thing. I’m already pretty. Right now, just as I am!”
Originally posted 2009-08-19 05:50:00.