Monthly Archives: May 2019

Fears of Androgyny

My e-mail conversation with reader Lianne – the one that sparked a post on dressing with a touch of butch – unearthed a very personal issue for me. Personal, surprising, and definitely relevant, so I wanted to share my quirky little epiphany with you folks.

I hit puberty in the late 80s, and went through high school in the early 90s. Girls my age didn’t really do skirts and dresses back then, at least not in my area. It was all about jeans. Over-sized jeans. Baggy tops, too. And that suited me just fine because pretty much the moment I became aware of my body, I became self-conscious about it.  I wasn’t slim or traditionally pretty, I couldn’t afford the schmancy baggy jeans that the popular girls wore, and even if I could have I wasn’t popular anyway so I’m sure I would’ve just taken flak for being a poseur. Boys mostly avoided me … or adored me from afar, then expressed their feelings in obnoxious and infantile ways that just irked me. And I was a smart, driven over-achiever, which made me the target of teasing from all sides. I did everything I could to be invisible, and over-sized clothes were instrumental in my quest to go unnoticed. read more

Originally posted 2011-06-27 06:25:21.

How to Wear Eye-searingly Bright Colors

Big, bold brights are on the docket for spring, and I’m guessing that scares the PANTS off some of you.  And even if you don’t care about trends and are, therefore, still in possession of your pants, I’ve got some tips for ways to wear fabulously bright shades without looking like a Rainbow Brite doll.

TAMP ‘EM DOWN WITH DARKS

Yes, I love to wear intense, bright red right next to my face. It is my favorite color, after all. But in this outfit, I’ve paired it with a dark navy dress, which turns that blaring brightness down considerably. Utilize dark jewel tones, deep blues and navies, or really any deep shade to tamp down your brights. read more

Originally posted 2011-03-15 06:32:40.

Shopping Pitfalls and How to Avoid Them

Shopping for clothing, shoes, and accessories can be incredibly fun and rewarding … but it can also be hazardous to your health. Your mental health, emotional health, financial health, ALL of your healths can be menaced by the mall. Because when you shop, you become vulnerable: Influenced by ads and marketing, nudged by sales associates or friends-in-tow, convinced by your own inner voices that you absolutely do need orange platform sandals that are half a size too small. Or yet another black cardigan. read more

Originally posted 2011-03-16 06:31:44.