Like most of the best things in life, learning to love yourself takes time. Committing to self-acceptance and cultivating tenderness toward your own body are both fantastic initial steps. Acknowledging that the definition of beauty does encompass you can kick-start the process. But don’t expect to rewire your brain overnight. Most negative body thoughts take time to eradicate, and patience is key.
And even after you’ve made tremendous strides, even after you feel that you’ve done the brunt of the work, even after you know that you’ve drastically improved your self-image, you will still struggle. Do not expect to love yourself completely and wholly every day of your life. It may sound like a worthy goal, but it’s actually a trap. Because if you hold yourself to that standard – the standard of consistent, unwavering, holistic self-love – you are quite likely to fail. And when you catch yourself wishing your upper lip was less hairy or your thighs a bit slimmer, you may feel guilt or shame. Since the goal of striving for self-love is to abandon guilt and shame, this is counterproductive. You will have tough days, moments of frustration with your body and inner self. You will doubt.
Originally posted 2015-07-02 06:48:40.
Instead of tackling one question with a long-winded answer, here are a few that have come in over the past few months that pertain to related topics!
I’ve heard that many leaders choose a “work uniform” to avoid making decisions about what to wear each day. I love the idea, but I’m stuck on what my options might be. What work uniform options would you recommend I consider? (I’m a professional in my thirties, and my work environment is business casual.)
Originally posted 2016-02-10 06:17:19.
An anonymous reader put this question into the suggestion box:
… you talk a lot about shoes here, and it’s hard to get excited about shoes when one’s shoe choices are limited. Any words of encouragement for people whose medically necessary shoes seem to ruin the best constructed outfit?
Since shoes can make or break an outfit, it can be incredibly frustrating when your shoe choices are limited by comfort, health, or even budgetary reasons. There are more options than ever before for those of you who wear orthotics – see Kirsten’s guest post for proof – but you may still feel like your shoes are holding back the rest of your wardrobe. I’ve been a shoe lover for ages, and I can only imagine how aggravating this must feel. I don’t think I’ve got any universal solutions, but here are a few suggestions that might help you feel less discouraged about working with limited shoe options:
Originally posted 2013-10-10 06:13:28.