Reader Request: Fashion as Crutch

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My girl The Budget Babe sent along this truly puzzling question:

can clothing give you a false sense of security? and if so, should we be relying on that “it” bag or those high heels or that red lipstick to make us feel secure? or should we work up to the point where we’re completely confident looking like crap and then start adding the layers?

I had to think about this for a damn long time before I could formulate any kind of response, and I’m still a little wobbly about it. But here are my initial thoughts: read more

Originally posted 2009-09-29 05:49:00.

Reader Request: Necklaces and Necklines

How to wear necklaces and necklines

Read the updated version of this post here!

Readers Pranita, Meli22 AND Jingle Bella all requested some advice on how necklaces and necklines interact. How can I say no to three lovely readers?

This is a tricky subject, as the various styles of necklines sit differently depending on your shoulder width, bust size, and rib cage span … not to mention the fact that my opinions vary from those of some experts. But I think I can illustrate my reasoning with a few do and dont photos, and let you make your own choices from there!

My overall feeling is that a necklace must: read more

Originally posted 2009-09-23 05:47:00.

A Plea for Bodily Diversity

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I am not the first to make this plea, and I certainly hope I won’t be the last.

I don’t actually want my fashion magazines to show photographs of women who look like me from cover to cover. I also don’t want them to show photographs of women taller or heavier or curvier or older or more muscular or longer-waisted or more petite or higher-cheekboned or bigger-breasted than me. Not exclusively.

I want it all.
I want diversity.

Countless studies have proven that magazines packed with images of rail-thin models have screwed up our daughters’ ideas about bodies. That the constant barrage of waif-like celebrities scrambles and scars our own ideas about bodies. Decades of damage have been done, across age, geographic, sexual, religious, and political boundaries. And it’s downright sickening. read more

Originally posted 2009-09-22 05:49:00.