We talk a lot about figure flattery around here. There are more requests for posts related to traditional figure-flattery priorities than just about any other topic, so many discussions point in that direction. But I hope that this message is always clear: YOU get to choose your own figure-flattery priorities, even if they go against the traditional grain. You are the one wearing the clothes and feeling the feelings, and that means you get to make the choices.
Originally posted 2013-05-13 06:07:44.
When I was in college, I got scolded by a guy for not caring enough about my clothes. He took it upon himself to tell me that I’d be so much prettier if I’d just put on a dress once in a while. He was an acquaintance, not a friend, and he felt it was important to let me know that my lack of interest in fashion was affecting his perception of me. And potentially the perceptions of others. I did not care enough about fashion.
The receptionist at my old job was an older gal and famously grumpy. She was one of those people whose compliments always felt backhanded and acidic. She made a point of commenting whenever I wore something she perceived to be new – items that, nine times out of ten, I’d had for years but not yet worn to the office. When I told her I was writing a book, she lit up. When I told her what it was about, she pulled a grimace. I cared too much about fashion.
Originally posted 2013-09-26 06:04:47.
Reader Erin e-mailed me this request:
Every style blogger makes blazers look great, but I find them hard to style. They seem so versatile on the rack, but then seem frumpy (I’m 24), too dressy/formal, or occasionally too equestrian when I try to create an outfit with them. I’ve asked some stylish friends and several of them have run into the same issues. Do you have any tips or suggestions for styling blazers well?
It took me a while to feel like I could make blazers work within the context of my style, so I can relate to Erin’s frustrations. Blazers get a lot of play in fashion mags and advice columns, but they CAN feel a bit challenging. Especially if you’re still exploring your own personal style while trying to embrace the flattering and eschew the formal.
Originally posted 2012-01-30 06:23:06.