When I was in college, I got scolded by a guy for not caring enough about my clothes. He took it upon himself to tell me that I’d be so much prettier if I’d just put on a dress once in a while. He was an acquaintance, not a friend, and he felt it was important to let me know that my lack of interest in fashion was affecting his perception of me. And potentially the perceptions of others. I did not care enough about fashion.
The receptionist at my old job was an older gal and famously grumpy. She was one of those people whose compliments always felt backhanded and acidic. She made a point of commenting whenever I wore something she perceived to be new – items that, nine times out of ten, I’d had for years but not yet worn to the office. When I told her I was writing a book, she lit up. When I told her what it was about, she pulled a grimace. I cared too much about fashion.
Originally posted 2013-09-26 06:04:47.
I’d love to see you post on how to incorporate constant pieces (be they ink, wedding bands, or friendship bracelets) into personal style.
I’ve had many people ask me if I give thought to matching my outfits to my visible tattoos and honestly? I don’t. Ever. It’s great when the ink is harmonious with the ensemble, but when they clash I’m never fussed. My tattoos are like part of my skin and I often don’t even see them. Which is, perhaps, careless because I DO give thought to how clothing plays off my skin, eye, and hair color. Why not the visible body art? My only real answer is that my tattoos are among the most emotional of my aesthetic expressions, and I don’t want to limit their color palette based on my dressing preferences. And I wouldn’t be comfortable telling anyone that dressing to match her tattoos should be a stylistic priority.
Originally posted 2011-01-07 06:18:59.
A goal that arises again and again with my style consult clients is feeling “pulled-together.” It’s an interesting phrase, no? As if the wrong outfit keeps our bottom half at the office, while our top half visits Aunt Martha in Detroit … and the RIGHT outfit will reunite those pieces. But then, my brain likes to be amusingly literal. And, clearly, many women feel that their dressing choices can create a disjointed or unpolished appearance, and seek ways to create looks that help them feel sophisticated and chic. So here are three items that constitute shortcuts to pulled-together-ness.
Originally posted 2013-09-10 06:38:07.