Posts Tagged: androgyny

Fears of Androgyny

My e-mail conversation with reader Lianne – the one that sparked a post on dressing with a touch of butch – unearthed a very personal issue for me. Personal, surprising, and definitely relevant, so I wanted to share my quirky little epiphany with you folks.

I hit puberty in the late 80s, and went through high school in the early 90s. Girls my age didn’t really do skirts and dresses back then, at least not in my area. It was all about jeans. Over-sized jeans. Baggy tops, too. And that suited me just fine because pretty much the moment I became aware of my body, I became self-conscious about it.  I wasn’t slim or traditionally pretty, I couldn’t afford the schmancy baggy jeans that the popular girls wore, and even if I could have I wasn’t popular anyway so I’m sure I would’ve just taken flak for being a poseur. Boys mostly avoided me … or adored me from afar, then expressed their feelings in obnoxious and infantile ways that just irked me. And I was a smart, driven over-achiever, which made me the target of teasing from all sides. I did everything I could to be invisible, and over-sized clothes were instrumental in my quest to go unnoticed. READ MORE

Originally posted 2011-06-27 06:25:21.

Reader Request: How to Wear Vests

How to wear a vest stylishly

Shannon popped this guy into the suggestion box:

I’d love a tutorial on wearing classy vests. I have a very menswear style vest in my closet that I love, but have no idea how to wear it. White button-down shirts look awful on me for a number of reasons and would look too “suit-like” besides. Any ideas?

I’ve got a couple of menswear-ish vests myself, but they don’t come out to play often because, like Shannon, I find them a bit tough to style. In fact, I’ve drawn upon looks from my fellow bloggers to illustrate some successful vest ensembles! READ MORE

Originally posted 2011-07-20 06:45:31.

This Week I Love …

… Janelle Monáe.

This high-energy, super talented songstress burst onto the scene back when I was still feeling hesitant about androgynous looks for myself. But even back then, I could tell she was bold, smart, and unique, and now that I’ve done a tiny wee bit of dabbling in androgynous dressing on my own, I am just wild about her sleek, sophisticated, monochrome looks.

Talk about dedication to a defined aesthetic! Clearly, Janelle favors suits and tuxes as her staples, but I love how other eye-catching garments, fun textures, and unusual accessories work their way into her looks. I can’t imagine wearing any of these looks just as she does, but they inspire me to no end. READ MORE