Figure Flattering Clothes: Yes or No?

Plus size blogger Joi @InMyJoi

I cannot count how many fashion related articles I read throughout the past year (you know, way back in 2015) that discussed the concept of dismissing the importance placed on and or value of wearing figure flattering clothing. Like a whisper constantly in my ear, the crowd said: ‘Disregard how clothing looks on your body. Focus on how the clothing makes you feel’. Everywhere I turned, the same mantra seemed to be on repeat over and over again: ‘Who cares how it makes you look? Wear it anyway’.

So, I pose the question to you: Do you care whether or not an article of clothing flatters your shape? What do you think about this shift in priorities?

Plus size blogger Joi @InMyJoi

For as far back as I can remember (I’m older than I may look), and even in my grandparents’ style eras – the goal was the same: Aim to look your personal best. Back then, that meant wearing clothes that flattered your shape and size in “traditional” ways. Now it seems that the culture of thought is shifting (or perhaps has already shifted) all the way to the other extreme: ‘Who cares what’s flattering? Wear whatever you please!

Plus size style blogger Joi @InMyJoiGranted, some items that you may initially feel will not be appealing on your particular frame can in fact turn out very well. We’ve all had those moments: You love the way an item looks on the rack in the store, but you assume that it won’t work on you. Then you hesitantly take it into the dressing room, you know, ‘just to see’. Surprise, surprise!!! It looks fantastic on you! You hurry to the sales counter to purchase the item, not caring whether it is on sale or not.
But…what happens when you try on an item and can tell right away that it makes you look bigger or wider, clashes with your skin color, or highlights features that YOU don’t care for on YOUR own body? Is the new culture of thought that regardless of how an article of clothing looks on you personally, or how it makes you feel while wearing it- just as long as you ‘like’ it, you should wear it, and proudly? This thought process gives me cause for pause…

Plus size style blogger Joi @InMyJoi

I am an advocate of stepping outside of your comfort zone, and applaud people who do. But when it comes to my own choices, I choose to exercise limits along with personal discretion. As you can see, I am a plus size woman. I am thankful for the many clothing styles that are currently available in my size. However, it is my personal choice and right to steer away from wearing certain cuts/styles of clothing. Anything that has me feeling uncomfortable in the warmth of my private dressing boudoir will not make it out to the cold harsh world.

Plus size style blogger Joi @InMyJoi

To sum it all up simply: I wear what is flattering to ME, according to my personal (See examples here, here, and here). Although I love seeing others rock various styles of clothing, particularly genres that are vastly different than my own, I know that certain styles are not in line with my personal discretion. I am intrigued by this new philosophy and quite interested to see how it plays out, but speaking for myself personally, I will always take into consideration my size, height, body type, and even skin color when it comes to clothing choices.

It’s your turn: Does wearing figure flattering clothes have any import to you?

Until next time, catch me over at InMyJoi and on social media @InMyJoi.


Jacket: Michael Kors (also worn here)| Dress: Vintage| Belt: Eliza J.

Socks: Nordstrom| Shoes: Nine West


I’m Joi and I blog my personal style via In My Joi. I’ve always enjoyed dressing up, yet notably, my personal style took on new dimensions when I hit my 30’s. You’ll find me saturated in bright colors, draped in vintage, and topped in hats. Occasionally I venture off to black and white combinations or take a playful dabble in mixed prints. It has been said that style is a way to express who you are, without having to speak. I wholeheartedly concur. Each day of life offers up a blank canvas, a fresh opportunity to use style to express different dimensions of my authentic self. Join my style adventures via Instagram, Tumblr, or Facebook!

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Having struggled with ‘weighty’ issues most of my life, I made the decision to stop hating my body and to embrace it when I turned 30. Curves Become Her is where I talk about plus size fashion, being body positive, encourage female empowerment, and share personal anecdotes. 

I am a first generation Singaporean with Indian origins. My academic background is in psychology and psychotherapy. I consider myself a writer, feminist, and activist aside from being a plus size blogger.

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You locals will no doubt recognize that this is a pre-Thanksgiving outfit. Yep, we’ve got snow on the ground now. But the moment Thanksgiving wrapped, I got spectacularly sick, so you’ll have to bear with me while I post a few older outfits!

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