Reader Request: Defending Disinterest in Style

Reminder: It's 100% fine to NOT CARE about fashion + style

Mrs.M in MI asked:

I was recently sent through the intellectual looking glass, and when I was reflecting on it, I thought that I would be interested in hearing what you might have to say. It’s a long story, so here goes…

I recently suggested the book The Thoughtful Dresser, by Linda Grant, to my book club. We did not end up reading it as a group, but one of the more prolific readers read it on her own and she and I discussed it casually.

Her main comment about the book was that the author made her feel bad for NOT caring about what she wore or what she looked like, and NOT spending scads of time and money on her clothes, or thinking about them much at all. READ MORE

Originally posted 2011-08-01 06:17:46.

None of Your Business

What’s the matter with your life? Why you gotta mess with mine? Don’t keep sweating what I do Cuz I’m gonna be just fine. ~ Salt-n-Pepa, “None of Your Business

A dear friend of mine teaches fitness classes out on the West Coast. She e-mailed me recently to say that someone stopped her at the gym to ask if she’d put on weight. And as I lay on the floor gasping in horror at such an invasive, rude, and insulting question, I realized something: THAT question is socially inappropriate, as we all know. But so is it’s mirror image, “Have you lost weight?” Your weight is nobody’s business but your own. Fluctuations in your weight are nobody’s business but your own. Ever. Why on earth do people feel so free to inquire about weight, or express concern and dismay over someone’s weight loss or gain, or pass judgment so openly about weight-related matters? Changes in weight can be caused by a vast array of circumstances, and a perceived change tells the observer virtually nothing about those circumstances. READ MORE

Originally posted 2010-03-22 06:50:00.

Tricks for Styling Button-front Shirts

So. I know that many of you will never enjoy the wearing of button-front shirts no matter how I cajole and no matter how many alternatives and workarounds I offer. But JUST IN CASE you’re willing to give these shirts another try, or in case you’re in the button-front-loving minority, here are a few of my favorite ways to make these classic garments feel fresh and fun.


At this point, I feel odd if I HAVEN’T cuffed my button-front’s sleeves. So sleeves worn long can feel awfully conservative to me, hearkening back to my office-working days. Also, I find 3/4 and cuffed sleeves to be more flattering since they draw the eye upward a bit toward my waist. READ MORE

Originally posted 2012-09-28 06:30:52.