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Weekly Kitty:

Back porch season has begun.

Paper bag waists are all the rage, and Chioma wears her chambray pair with an equally trendy yellow crop top.

6 Affordable Ethical Clothing Brands That Don’t Compromise On Style

I don’t want my body’s age or changes to stop me from embracing it every step of the way. No matter what I look like or can no longer do, I want to keep finding things to appreciate and celebrate. I can have goals, but they should not become idols I sacrifice too many of my thoughts or too much of my energy to.” READ MORE

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Reader Request: Styling Era-specific Items

Tips for making past-era clothing and accessory styles look modern and updated.

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Reader Krysta posted this question in a comment:

I’d love to see a feature where you give suggestions on how a “dated” item – a sweater duster, a superfringey bag/jacket, etc. – could be styled/worn so that it reads less “dated” and more “updated.” Or something. We all have items we love that look like their year of provenance, and minimizing that look would be useful and interesting…

So. For starters, there’s a fine line between pieces that are recognizably retro, like this vintage printed dress: READ MORE

Originally posted 2012-03-26 06:20:57.

Compliments, Stewardship, and Control

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Compliments are controversial around these parts. I’m a fan of both giving and receiving them, and feel that doing so is beneficial. But I’ve heard you folks say time and again that compliments can be tricky, confusing, even painful depending on how they’re presented and how the person receiving them interprets them.

Since I am fascinated by all things style and body image, the compliments I tend to encourage have to do with those two topics. And what I’ve learned is that when some people are told, “You look great today,” what they hear is, “You look better today than you usually look.” That when some people are told, “You’ve got gorgeous hair,” they feel uncomfortable accepting praise for something that is genetic, inherited, and mainly beyond their control. That when some people are told, “You look fabulous in that dress,” they feel the underlying implication is, “You have conformed to social beauty norms. Good job.” READ MORE

Originally posted 2012-09-11 06:20:25.