Lovely Links: 12/6/13

Quite possibly my favorite outfit featuring a tulle skirt EVER.

In case you didn’t already know, here’s why the Geena Davis Institute on Gender in the Media rocks. Can’t see it, can’t be it.

Kelly Knox was born without a left forearm. And she’s a model.

“It would seem that a tectonic shift is happening in after-eight wardrobes. While ripped boyfriend-jeans with a velvet jacket, or a fisherman sweater with a sequin skirt qualified as evening chic for the last several years, dressing up—in the fullest and most feminine sense of the term—is cool again.”

Need a little extra sparkle for your holiday party outfit? Whip up a few gem cluster hairpins. (Via Dollar Store Crafts)

OR you could whip up some Victorian-inspired hair jewelry. Which is jewelry made from hair. For really.

Over on Twitter, I asked petite, tall, and plus-sized women how they refer to non-petite, non-tall, non-plus sizes. I’ve been saying “standard”  because “straight” sounds odd to me, but still not sure it’s the best term. Join the conversation!

This mix of greens and teals looks so gorgeous on Mia.

“A new study by U.S. researchers published in the journal Sex Roles reaffirms the uphill battle parents face. Here’s the headline: ‘Looks are all important for girls on tween TV.’ And the not-so-subtle messaging, according to the researchers: ‘Girls can participate in everything that boys can, but while doing so they should be attractive.'” (Via Skepchick)

Torrid is rebranding and moving away from its edgy, alternative, punk-influenced roots to become more mainstream. Will you miss their old looks and the variety they added to the plus-sized clothing market?

The Pantone color of the year for 2014? Radiant Orchid. This piece gives some insight into how this shade was chosen, too.

Anyone else explored demi camis as a way to make cleavage-revealing clothing work-appropriate? Darlene weighs in on a few styles from Second Base in her post.

I adore every single song on this self-love playlist. Especially P!nk. No, wait, especially all of ’em.

I don’t have much use for most gift guides. but I’ll admit to loving Alicia’s Goth Girl Gift Guide. And everything on it.

Tanasha looks incredible in her foulard-print top and self-made burgundy pants. Oh, to have those skills …

“If I knew what her thighs looked like, I might begin to care—I mean, not really care, not care enough to measure her as a person by it or anything remotely that distasteful. But I’d care in my own, private, ugly little way. I’d know whether her thighs were as large as my own, or larger; I’d know whether they were firm and muscular or soft and fleshy. I’d be able to add it to the enormous resource bank of thigh-images that I’ve catalogued in a dark part of my psyche for as long as I’ve recognized that women were supposed to think thighs were A Problem.

This week on the Fox 9 Morning Show, we talked about how to make classic stripes work.

Glitter and polka dots do not negate intelligence and strength. You preach, Jess.

I’d be willing to bet many of you have seen the Pro Infirmis mannequin video already. I love the concept, but something about the execution doesn’t quite sit right. And I can’t put my finger on it. What did you think of the campaign and film?

This post on how various sleeve lengths and styles impact your silhouette is concise and helpful.

Angie offers four great ways to liven up a winter wardrobe.

The photos from Kinfolk magazines Aged Issue titled The Grace of Grey are just stunning.

“He said that for someone who loves style as much as I do, the colors I prefer – slate blue and soft grey – are “urban camouflage” and that I still dress an awful lot like I don’t want to be noticed. I thought about it, and I realized that while I dress to be confident and happy, that I am very gunshy about dressing sexy. Part of it is I am paranoid about looking inappropriate/trashy/tasteless, but part of it is also a reaction to the male gaze.”

There is always hope: What bad body image days can teach us.

And from the Department of Random: The Blues Brothers mall chase scene, as reenacted by Legos.

Additionally: Simon Kitty vs. The Menorah

And finally: 12 Obvious Things Confirmed by Science. For some reason this pleased me. Includes “pigs love mud” and “meetings suck.”

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  • marsha calhoun

    I don’t Twitter, but I usually refer to “ordinary” sizing – since I’m a tall, that may be a bit passive-aggressive, but it works for me.

  • Mia

    Now I know what foulard means! Thanks to you and Tanasha, I’ve learned something today. And thanks for linking to Reading in Skirts, I’m so tickled!

  • Cindy M

    Re: the mannequin video, the “because who is perfect?” tagline that doesn’t really make sense is that the bodies were still “perfected” – sanded and smooth, with no lumps, wrinkles, hairs, or moles. They’re modeled after real bodies, but they’re still idealized.

  • I enjoyed your Fox segment on stripes!

  • Annabeth

    I dislike the self-congatulatory cast of the Pro Infirmis ad/video – and the assumption that everyone who saw the mannequins would be irritated or judgmental, meaning that they were sort of setting up disabled bodies as sources of staring/ridicule, i.e., the exact opposite of the stated purpose. However, I think I liked it overall, principally because I could tell all the volunteers were genuinely into it and obviously pleased and even moved to see their bodies accurately represented. If they had such a good experience, then that saves it for me.

  • lbtepa

    the women in the ‘grace of grey’ photos all have very wide eyes and firm jawlines etc – no flabby arms, jowls or spread midriffs – really just ‘conventionally attractive’ women with non-young hair and some nicely-lit wrinkles.

  • Mary

    Regarding average/regular size language, off-the-rack sizing usually covers it for me since, as a petite, the proportions will likely be “off.”

  • Natalie

    As Annabeth said further up in the comments, the volunteers did seem happy about the project and I’m glad they enjoyed it. However, the video bugged me.

    I’m never going to see a mannequin and ever think that it looks anything like a real person or even much of a representation of a real person. It seems to me like they’re just plastic figures that are often missing limbs from wear and tear anyway. Mannequins often get placed so that they look funny, or people mess with them so they’re facing the wrong way or clothes are falling off or something. They are objects.

    Without seeing them as humans, passers-by wouldn’t have any qualms about laughing, making faces, or pointing at a mannequin, just assuming the store has set up some ridiculous display. While there, sadly, are people who would make fun of a handicapped person even to their face (doing things like the lady bending sideways to match the handicapped mannequin), I’d certainly hope that the majority of people would have the decency to not mock an actual handicapped person.

    Long story short, I don’t feel like people’s reactions to a mannequin and their reactions to a human are going to be the same at all, and to use mannequins to judge how people would treat that handicapped individual is ridiculous.

  • Dangit, Torrid. I’m too small to shop there for anything but accessories, but I love their site and their present branding, and where are the big beautiful goth ladies going to clearance-rack shop (and then never admit it because nobody in the scene admits it, but we all do it) now that they’re trying to mainstream-shift even harder than their straight-size counterpart, Hot Topic?

    • Jen

      Huh, Torrid went mainstream a while back, I thought. In fat fashion communities I’m a part of, we talk about “pre-pink” Torrid, as in the Torrid before their logo went pink. I’m not a goth, but I understand the need for alternative plus-sized fashion. I used to buy tons when they had their 50% off their clearance price sales. (For those who might want to know, it usually starts a day or two before any major holiday . . . Thanksgiving, Christmas, July 4th, etc.) But over the last couple of years, I haven’t really seen anything I had to have. The quality is generally crap, and the prices are crazy expensive. I don’t need another $50 polyester top, thanks. But I gotta admit, I’m curious to see if their designs improve.

  • Thanks for including me Sally, hope you’re having a lovely weekend.

  • Re the Pro Infirmis mannequin: probably because they are doing it to get more attention to ultimately generate more sales.

  • That thigh essay was interesting… and also disturbing. I can honestly say it never never ever crossed my mind that another woman might look at my thighs and see them in a judgemental way. I was actually kind of shocked at that link. Is that a thing? Do people DO that? Do others recognize that behavior in themselves and say, yes I do that too?

    But I think maybe it’s bc I don’t have a “thing” about my thighs. I have a “thing” about other “things”. Like, I bite my nails so I always notice other womens’ hands, especially if they have nice nails.

    So I guess thighs could be swapped out for a bunch of other “things” and I think the “thing” is determined by what makes one insecure. I never really notice another woman’s hair unless it really is gorgeous and then I might admire it but not feel badly. However I DO notice the upper arms of other women, bc I hate mine and always have.

    That was kind of a weird mental trip I took. Now I will be wondering if other women are in fact looking at my thighs of all things….!