Lovely Links: 11/8/13

Although my heart and soul belong with LOTT, Girl Rising is a pretty spectacular organization, too.

Do you “save” your good clothes or wear them as often as you can? (I’m in the wear everything all the time camp myself.)

Love this retro-tinged outfit and the amazing embellished bag that ties it together.

Barking Dog Shoes rounds up seven comfortable closed-toe wedges. Great for fall and winter stability and height.

We are just starting season two of “Scandal” here at Chez McGraw, so I was thrilled to see this roundup of plus-sized coats inspired by Olivia Pope’s enviable collection.

“Not everyone is going to understand a person who is happy with their body. Actually, most people won’t. You see, most people are focused on being something different than what they are. It’s not the fight of skinny versus fat. It’s learning to love being in the skin you are in. That’s a lesson that is not normally on the curriculum.” (Swears.)

Aya’s fascinator is the perfect finishing touch for this Victorian badass ensemble.

A new style of mannequin is influencing how Venezuelan women feel about their bodies. If you watch the video, there is footage of a liposuction/augmentation procedure in there, so be warned. (Thanks, Laurel.)

85-year-old model Daphne Selfe explains her philosophy of aging in eight words.

Turns out, the fancy sweatpants trend isn’t for everyone. And Lisa gave it a fair shake.

In this piece, Nathan Palmer discusses how we manipulate our voices to perform gender and asks us to think about what our vocal performances say about patriarchy in our culture.

This mix of stripes and dots – all in black and white – comprises one of my favorite printed mash-ups EVER. Well played, Allison.

“Highly capable, intelligent, and confident women are also often perceived as the most threatening, especially to insecure men who find their own identities by either attacking or protecting what they perceive as needy, vulnerable, and dependent women. That is why the girls in ‘Am I Pretty or Ugly?’ videos need to hear that they are smart and capable. Insisting that they are indeed pretty will, in contrast, only exacerbate the situation.”

Slouchy floral pants are the perfect complement to a simple mustard pullover.

Although this article doesn’t present any breaking news, it does a great job of summarizing how new and social media are changing the fashion landscape, especially in terms of business tactics. (Cheers, Garrett.)

I’m amazed and inspired by these images of unconventional ways to wear pearls. Especially the hair adornments. OK, especially all of them.

This vibrant pink moto and leopard print pencil skirt were clearly made to be worn together.

“Astonishingly, Twigg found that companies that make a lot of money out of older shoppers, designing garments specifically to fit older women, didn’t want them labelled as targeted at this market – or even modelled on older women – because it’s so stigmatised.”

Will leather work for the office? It depends. Several style experts and bloggers weigh in.

Cheers to Peggy at Buzzfeed for the shout-out in her post about tights! Which you should TOTALLY read, as she has about 10 billion suggestions for making tights less torturous.

Melissa looks so fabulous in her flippy skirt, printed tee, and smart jacket. And bike, of course.

I contributed to the Idea Harvest at Giant Steps. Love ALL of the contributions from attendees and speakers.

“I wasn’t sure I was the right person to do so because growing up tall wasn’t really a struggle for me. But, then, I realized that maybe that’s why I am the exact right person. Because I didn’t agonize about fitting in or adopt terrible posture to seem shorter or worry about being taller than all my friends.”

Wondering why you’ve got so many black cardigans in your wardrobe? The answer may be shopping by ease. This post offers some ways to be more mindful of this pattern.

You all know I’m a feminist. Forever. But as someone who works hard to keep an open mind – and who loves this man unabashedly – I found this speech by Joss Whedon about the word feminist and its meaning fascinating and challenging. My main objection? His references to racism. He isn’t terribly clear on this until the end of the speech, but he appears to be saying that racism represents a set of behaviors that was once socially acceptable but is no longer acceptable, and that racist people are viewed by the general public as being wrongheaded and backward-thinking. At times, it ends up sounding like he believes we’ve “moved past” or “solved” racism. I don’t think he means that, but if he does, that’s a pretty naive perspective on the world. Still found his analysis of the problematic nature of the word “feminist” both interesting and unusual.

And from the Department of Random: I give you cats wearing tights. Tis the season.

Additionally: Five things you should know about the ancient Godzilla platypus. Also features a video of a modern platypus being TICKLED.

And finally: Feline Friday, cats on coats edition.

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  • Kim

    I watched the Joss Whedon speech the other day. I think his point is not that we have moved past racism, but we have found a way to identify and describe it as a set of behaviours that we can condemn, and by characterizing the attitudes and behaviours concisely as something negative, it is easier to advocate for the opposite in an equally concise way. I think it is constructive for him to attempt to characterize gender equality in the same way. Instead of describing the a set of attitudes and goals as the promotion of one gender over others, as the current term feminism does, he is arguing that the movement toward gender equality would be better to shift its identifiers to terms that concisely condemn outdated norms which effectively suppress the rights or opportunities of one gender in favour of another.

    I think he fairly recognizes that the fight for racial equality is in many ways more a more mature movement in the US and hopes that a characterization would allow gender equality to catch up. But that does not say that the fight for racial equality is at all complete.

    Perhaps by provoking subsequent discussion, he has accomplished the most such a speech can. Change can get a shot in the arm with awareness and discussion.

  • Cats in tights, I am dying from laughter — well-needed after a long work week! Great links as always; lots of good reads here for my Saturday morning.

  • So timely of you to link to Aya — I’m celebrating her today with a blogging award. Your description of her outfit as a “badass ensemble” is right on target. That insouciance is a big part of why I like her style.

  • Hi Sal! That was a fascinating post about the mannequins. I found it disturbing in so many ways. At my store, I have a mannequin (her name’s Maxine!) and her proportions are unrealistic enough (about 5’11” and a size 2) but those mannequins in the article would be impossible to dress (unless the clothes were lycra-based). I think it looks cartoonish and/or pornographic. My .02!

    Thanks as always for the Lovely Links – I look forward to them every Friday!

  • A.B.

    Re: the Whedon speech

    He’s not saying anything that women have not said over and over and over again. Especially recently and by women of color. But he’s a privileged white male so get gets the press for it as if it’s some great newfangled idea that he’s spouting.

    • MKPhx

      1. Gross.

      2. But true.

    • Amanda

      Quite right. I’ve always found his adoration of the teenage superheroine a tad creepy, his lack of non-white characters unrealistic and frustrating, his lack of gay male characters lame, and his reputation for being some sort of white male crusader for diversity undeserved. I love several of his shows enormously, and he crafts brilliant characters, but I think it’s fair to expect more. He might at least point out that he speaks because people only listen to white dudes and that there are many far more qualified to speak than him.

    • Annabeth

      Very well said. Except that Whedon simplified/glossed over a LOT of stuff he shouldn’t have. Joss Whedon does well with some aspects of female representation, but he’s also written some appalling stuff for women (“Dollhouse,” UGH), and yet people keep acting like he’s the most amazing feminist voice out there. That can only be believed if you’re not listening to very many feminist voices, IMO.

  • Thank you Sal! So appreciate the link:). I hope people get a kick out of my sweatpants:).

  • MKPhx

    I found the voice article especially interesting. As a woman with a low voice, I’ve always been found vaguely threatening by some people. I try to lighten it a little without sounding fake, but I don’t know how much good it does. I took a cat handling class at the shelter, and learned that cats respond better to low voices. Women in particular will raise their pitch when talking to animals and babies, but while dogs and babies will eat that up, it just makes cats anxious. Since then I’ve been practicing at home, and I’m surprised at how often I catch myself just as my voice is going up.

    Also, I think it was completely unfair of the writer to say that Lake Bell is blaming individual women for the “sexy baby voice virus”. She’s frustrated by it, yeah, but I’ve heard her talk about it several times now, and she’s clearly pointing to the dominant culture as the source.

  • Thanks for including me in your Lovely Links, Sally. Much appreciated.

  • K

    I appreciated the links to cats in tights (silly) and getting tights to fit better (useful) the most. For the second, I already knew of the brand Commando and I love their comfortable & no-line-show products (tights & underwear) but I’m excited to explore the FootTraffic site too with their warmer wool and cashmere tights to see how they’ll hold up.

  • A couple commenters mentioned Joss Whedon’s white male privilege. I don’t think this qualifies him for any special feminist awards, but it does feel like progress that someone with privilege is pointing out the inequality.

    It’s heartening because I see a lot of millennial white males who believe that sexism is over, they they can’t possibly be sexist, and yet still act out these oppressive gender norms because they’re not examining the effect of socialization.

    P.S. Thanks for the link!