Comments on Already Pretty: Who Are You?

I don't want to be who I think I am right now!!!!!...

2009-11-09T16:33:41.925-06:00

I don't want to be who I think I am right now!!!!!!
Who am I????

Food for thought!!!

xoxo

This post really moved me. I want to print it out ...

2009-11-05T16:36:35.631-06:00

This post really moved me. I want to print it out and stick it on my fridge or maybe rather on my bedroom mirror.

It puts the control and yes, the responsibility squarely in the right hands: mine.

Awesome!

Amelia M: Well put! Isn't it funny how people ofte...

2009-11-05T08:01:13.113-06:00

Amelia M: Well put! Isn't it funny how people often feel like they can only control one or the other? Either appearance OR life path. We do have a hand in controlling both.

As someone who has tried hard to "craft" herself i...

2009-11-05T06:58:44.102-06:00

As someone who has tried hard to "craft" herself in the image I want to project (in this case, 1940s/50s and modern-artsy. It's a weird mishmash! ;)), I love how you put this. It is so true that our appearance is no passive matter. Even if we deem fashion too frivolous to care about, or don't give a thought to our appearance, those are still active decisions that ultimately determine our appearance. Even the most uncaring person is projecting a certain look, persona, physical presence to those around them.

Is it weird that I feel the same way about food? I...

2009-11-05T04:22:50.725-06:00

Is it weird that I feel the same way about food? It honestly thrills me every day that I get to pick everything I eat!

My closet on the other hand is in shambles. I honestly do not wear a single piece of clothing that hangs in my closet. What is wrong with me?!

Very well put! I guess the question is also, how m...

2009-11-05T01:09:21.941-06:00

Very well put! I guess the question is also, how much importance do you want to give to your appearance? It is, undoubtedly, the main component of the first impressions you give. But sometimes I see people who control their appearance to such a fine degree and forget that they have a great degree of control over the rest of their lives and indeed, who they are as a person, if they choose to take it. We can be who we want to be on the inside and out!

great post.. i want to be that person with their h...

2009-11-04T22:21:29.840-06:00

great post.. i want to be that person with their head held high.. but sometime IRL is different from online.. haha

I love how you explore this topic in various ways ...

2009-11-04T21:53:41.254-06:00

I love how you explore this topic in various ways throughout your blog! Thank you for creating such a thoughtful post. :-)

i'm me. and i enjoy it. the other day my sister ...

2009-11-04T21:16:32.894-06:00

i'm me. and i enjoy it. the other day my sister asked if i could be anyone, who would i be?

i realized for all my bitching and moaning about my job, absolutely hating traffic, trying to lose weight, thinking i wasted 4 years in college in the wrong subject, being scared of the future, etc... i am generally happy and i like myself.

if i could be anyone, i would stay me

Love this post. So, so very true. I've not decided...

2009-11-04T21:07:43.611-06:00

Love this post. So, so very true. I've not decided exactly what image I want to project, but I do know that I always want to be classy! You're a great writer, my dear.

It took me a long time to throw off the injuries t...

2009-11-04T18:25:10.990-06:00

It took me a long time to throw off the injuries to my self-esteem from childhood and to just be "me". I am a woman and I can choose to express my femininity in whatever way I wish. No one can dictate to me what to wear or how to wear it. No one can make me feel bad or ugly or not worthy. I am good enough and pretty enough and smart enough. I am me.

Once I realised that I felt ever so much better *smile* Then I could have fun with fashion and not worry about what other people thought.

I AGREE. wE ARE WHO WE WANT TO BE OR THAT TO BELIO...

2009-11-04T17:18:18.167-06:00

I AGREE. wE ARE WHO WE WANT TO BE OR THAT TO BELIONG YOU HAVE TO ACT LIKE YOU BELONG. (UGH CAP LOCK. I want to be a girl who is stylish, but approchable. in the real world you have to be liked and admired and I feel the balance is important!

this is so very true!!!!

2009-11-04T16:50:35.915-06:00

this is so very true!!!!

Preach, sista! Love this post. I want to be and ...

2009-11-04T14:32:19.057-06:00

Preach, sista! Love this post.

I want to be and be seen as friendly, , fun, confindent, intelligent, approachable, caring...the list goes on.

Portraying those attributes in my style is just another element of my journey.

I love your blog, and I might sound like such a st...

2009-11-04T13:45:56.601-06:00

I love your blog, and I might sound like such a stan because I'm sure I comment here way too much. :)

This is quite a liberating post that actually relates to several issues simultaneously and quite effortlessly to be honest. To name a few, conformity, self-confidence, independence, responsibility, and mostly importantly, getting away from the pressure of the Media.

I love how you write too!

bekster: You are quite right. There are many, MANY...

2009-11-04T13:30:01.601-06:00

bekster: You are quite right. There are many, MANY people all over the world who do not have the luxury of choice about food/exercise, grooming, clothing, any of it - women and men both. In this post, I sought to address my reading audience, though. I'm assuming that anyone with access to a computer and the interest to seek out a style and body image blog DOES have the control of which I speak.

But your point is well taken. Not everyone is so lucky. Yet another reason to celebrate our freedom to shape our bodies and images as we choose.

I totally agree with this principle (actually, I h...

2009-11-04T13:12:53.004-06:00

I totally agree with this principle (actually, I have been thinking about it a lot lately), but I wonder how the idea translates to people without our general level of resources. Do peasant farmer women in China have the same ability to make themselves who they want to be? I know that, regardless of material resources, everyone can decide what to do with their spirit (whether to be happy & confident or to be resigned to bitterness). But, what happens when the person you want to be wears red lipstick and long, polished nails, but you can't even afford lipstick or nail polish (and these things are totally unpractical for your lifestyle)? I'm not trying to undermine your point, I just want to examine the different sides of it to find the heart of the matter.

Great thoughts for any day of the week :) Appeara...

2009-11-04T12:59:02.409-06:00

Great thoughts for any day of the week :) Appearance is a way to express ourselves in all of our complexities...and it's fun! Some days I'm a tough professional, some days I'm an athlete, some days I'm a siren, and some days I'm a slob...but those are all sides of ME.

thank you for this! it's a good reminder that i h...

2009-11-04T12:30:17.356-06:00

thank you for this! it's a good reminder that i have a lot more control than i think i do. i like to play the victim sometimes and wallow in all the uncertainty i feel about various things i WISH i could control. now instead, i can take my life and identity back from those things i would have let define me. . . which really don't. good talks.

futurelint: I can TOTALLY see that. I know the sec...

2009-11-04T10:48:48.358-06:00

futurelint: I can TOTALLY see that. I know the second I met you, I wanted to hug you. I bet a lot of folks feel the same way, but just restrain themselves. ;)

The main thing my appearance says about me somehow...

2009-11-04T10:45:14.353-06:00

The main thing my appearance says about me somehow, is that I seem approachable, nice, and that people can relate to me. I get asked for directions, bus info, change for a dollar, and chatted up by strangers more than anyone I know (my friends can attest to this!) It think it all boils down to this - I don't look intimidating. To anyone. Guys looking for a date, kids in trouble, lost tourists... Short frecked girl with red hair, cute without being crazy hot, interesting but not scary outfits, generally wearing a dumb smile on my face - you want to talk to her!

I don't want to be the person with ill fitting sla...

2009-11-04T09:55:18.258-06:00

I don't want to be the person with ill fitting slacks!!

Wow, what a powerful, amazing post! I'm pretty sur...

2009-11-04T09:41:05.880-06:00

Wow, what a powerful, amazing post! I'm pretty sure that this is the thought that keeps me going most of the time.

this is so true, so true. i've always thought to t...

2009-11-04T09:09:20.662-06:00

this is so true, so true. i've always thought to that 'being gorgeous' was a matter of treating yourself as though you were a gorgeous person. yes, there might be 'cultural ideals' but more often than not, the real beauties have a thing about them that goes beyond the color of their eyes and the size of their nose. which means, that our actions, how we are as people, our personalities play a MUCH bigger role than we give credit.

I love this subtle reminder :) We are who we 'want...

2009-11-04T07:45:23.264-06:00

I love this subtle reminder :) We are who we 'want to be' (or at least, who we make ourselves into) in the end.