reader requests

This suggestion came from Eternal*Voyageur:

I would love suggestions for finding warm winter tops / knits. Most of the stuff is sooo boring: either simple figure-hugging long-sleeved blouses, or knits that are either shapeless or again body-hugging.

When I graduated from college, I had a vast collection of long-sleeved t-shirts. I was so self-conscious about my body’s shape that I shied away from layering, assuming that adding more garments to my outfits would automatically add more bulk to my frame. Since then, I’ve learned to layer without lumps and also discovered that my own favorite cold-weather looks are generally layered: Jacket or cardigan, inner layer, scarf, skirt, tights, boots. Most of my winter tops aren’t terribly exciting on their own because they’re meant to be part of a group! But I do have some ideas and tips for finding eye-catching, cozy winter tops.

Prints and patterns

There are loads of beautifully constructed, cleverly designed, solid colored winter tops out there. But if your aim is to be fun, funky, and unusual, going for prints and patterns can be a fabulous shortcut. Simple spots and stripes have more movement and interest than many solids, and the more varied or quirky the pattern the more fun it may be to wear. This skull-print sweater – a generous gift from gorgeous Sheila – is a definite conversation starter, and ever so warm and cozy.

Distinctive sources

You can TRY the Gap for fun, warm winter tops. And sometimes you’ll totally score. But if you’re looking for something a bit more inspired, steer clear of vendors who focus on solids, basics, and classics. Desigual, Anthropologie, Sundance, Prairie Underground, Boden, and of course Etsy, Fab.com, and your own local artisans are all good bets for interesting and unusual clothing, including winter tops. The top pictured above was bought in San Francisco from local designer Gr.dano.

Fabulous fibers

Many of the world’s tops are made from cotton. I love cotton. It’s soft, washable, and easy to wear. But it’s NOT the warmest of fibers. When scouting out winter tops, keep an eye on fiber content. Silk – especially in knits – does a marvelous job of trapping body heat. Wool – the fiber from which the blue sweater above is made – is a winter standby. Cashmere is heavenly if you can afford it. Relying on cotton or flimsy manmade fibers can bite you in the butt, warmth-wise.

Thrift!

If part of what bores you is the prospect of wearing the same Target sweater that half your friends are wearing, consider thrifting. First off, older goods are often heavier, better constructed, and sturdier than newer, and that goes especially for blazers, coats, and sweaters. So thrifting for wintry garments is a good bet. And, of course, by buying used you have a better chance of snapping up a unique item, like this past-season argyle sweater I nabbed for $3.

What other tips would you offer for finding fun and warm winter tops? Any other brands to recommend? Fibers you love? Thrift tips? Tell us!

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Jenn threw this one into the Suggestion Box:

I would love some tips and ideas for transitioning into wearing business casual and more heels/pumps/dressier shoes. I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for 2 decades – and most of my “dressing up” has been for church or military functions. On a daily basis, I normally wear casual clothes – because doing errands, cleaning, volunteering, and taking care of my children (6!) requires casual (but no pj’s or yoga pants allowed – my rule).

However, I am starting my master’s in education and will be student teaching and teaching for real soon – all which require business casual every day! How do I make the transition without feeling overdressed? Especially in the southwest, where super casual is the norm (seriously – people wear shorts to the opera and theater here!)? I love to wear heels/pumps, but I always feel overdressed…

So Jenn is thinking shoes, but also looking at a shift in her daily clothing choices and dressing habits, too. Since she’s in an environment that skews very casual and is worried about feeling overdressed, I’d recommend she do some mental prep for any clothing commentary that might come her way. Not a bad plan for anyone on the brink of a distinct change in personal style, as you never know who might pop out of the woodwork to ask questions or give opinions!

But if virtually everyone in her area is going super casual to everything, here’s another plan to consider: Arrive for those first few days of student teaching in smart business casual, and take the sartorial temperature of the environment. Maybe business casual will be too dressed up for that workplace and a drastic shift won’t be necessary.

But assuming that school advisors have suggested a business casual dress code or peers have recommended the same, here are a few tricks for easing into the shift from super casual to slightly dressy:

Identify some inspiration

Troll Pinterest, flip through a few catalogs, bookmark a blog or two. If you’re building a business casual look from scratch after spending years in nothing but casual duds, keeping some inspirational images on-hand will help you feel focused. Who dresses how you wish to dress? What items do they wear that you already own? Any key pieces that you might want to purchase? How do they style and accessorize their outfits? That last one allows me to segue into …

Accessorize

Many super casual outfits lack intentional accessorization, so consider focusing some energy on those all-important finishing touches if you need to start dressing dressier. Many of the basics from your casual wardrobe may be able to migrate over: Solid colored tees and tanks, dark wash jeans, cardigans and pullovers, even a few basic dresses. An easy way to make those pieces look more sophisticated is to add belts, scarves, jewelry, hosiery, and other accessories. This older post on how to make simple outfits sparkle shows some great examples of how adding accessories can completely transform a seemingly plain group of garments. You may want or need to purchase a few new accessories, but overall …

Don’t shop

OK, that’s harsh. But don’t feel obliged to run out and purchase an entirely new wardrobe. The transition from casual to business casual is a bit easier to do than the transition from casual to corporate or vice versa. As I mentioned above, much of what you already own may be ideal for the outfits you now need to assemble and wear. As you peruse inspirational images, you may land upon a few key pieces that you’ll definitely need to acquire, but before you go on a bona-fide spree give yourself some time to live inside your new look. This will help you pinpoint items that will be truly useful. Even if you keep garment purchasing to a minimum at first, you’ll probably want to …

Invest in comfortable, quality pumps AND flats

Jenn asked for shoe advice, so here’s my main thought: Pumps are generally perceived to be dressier than flats, but most women cannot and will not wear pumps all day every day for a job that requires lots of standing. So pick up a quality, comfy pair of pumps … and a quality, comfy pair of flats. I recommend the Tsubo Dufay to virtually all of my clients plus everyone who asks for good, comfy pumps. It’s classic without being showy, it’s sturdy, and the style goes with everything. For flats, try Naturalizer or Clarks. Buy versatile neutrals – black, cognac, and gray are all good bets – so these shoes can work with a variety of outfits.

If transitioning to dressier footwear feels awkward, try a few crossover outfits: A cute top, jeans, and the pumps for a weekend outing or a casual jacket with a dress and the flats. Break them in a bit before wearing them to work. In fact …

Practice with crossover outfits

Before you dive into a new job, environment, and set of dressing norms, practice a little. Don’t feel obliged to wear business casual while playing messy games with the kids, but if you’ve got errands or less active tasks on the docket for the day, try a crossover outfit like the ones listed above. Work dressy footwear into otherwise casual outfits and adorn with accessories. Practice bringing dressy, polished elements into your ensembles so that you know what feels and looks good to your eye.

Discussions of work wear are always controversial because “business casual” means different things in different industries. Heck, it also means different things in different regions of this country, and in different parts of the world! So bear in mind that this post was meant to help someone moving from casual to business casual in an environment where SUPER casual is the norm. Additionally, none of my advice posts should be considered gospel, including this one, and I fully expect you to read them with a grain of salt!

Have any of you made the switch from super casual to business casual? Did any of your casual clothes make the transition well? How did accessories play in? Did you end up buying loads of new stuff? Immediately or eventually? What other advice would you give to Jenn?

Images courtesy Nordstrom.

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Natalie put this request into the suggestion box:

I have seen you cover this a little but, but I would love to see some more ideas on where to get QUALITY accessories. I love the leather belts and scarves you feature, but I never find them at thrift stores, and they cost a fortune at department stores. I would love to see some of your strategies on when and where to shop for them.

Weeellll, there’s no easy answer to this one, I’m afraid. I’ve been thrifting, Etsying, DIYing, antiquing, art fair-ing, and otherwise collecting my accessories for many, many years, culling and evaluating as I go. I have some marvelous stuff now, but I’ve had some utter crap over the years, too. And it’s taken me a while to train my eye. I’m happy to share a few tips for sourcing and spotting quality accessories, but definitely hope you’ll share more suggestions in the comments, too!

If thrift fails you, try consignment

The Twin Cities thrift environment is really, truly fabulous. I’m a lucky gal in that respect. But I understand that many towns, cities, and areas either lack thrift entirely or offer meagre pickings. If thrift has failed you AND you’re in a locale where consignment shops are available, try them out. You won’t find $0.25 silk scarves or $1 belts – prices will be slightly higher – but you may still encounter quality, used goods at affordable prices. Why buy used accessories at prices that rival Target’s when you could buy new FROM Target? Because a quality used item will endure better than an affordable but cheaply made one. And how an item has aged and worn after a previous owners’ use may give you a preview of how it’ll hold up as you begin to use it.

Support artisans

If you’re on a truly tight budget, this option may not pan out for certain accessories. Handmade, unique, artisan-crafted accessories are almost guaranteed to be better quality than mass-manufactured, so shopping local art fairs, boutiques, and open studios in addition to trolling sites like Etsy and Big Cartel will give you access to a better class of goods than you’ll find at mall stores. Additionally, buying from the person who made an accessory means you can contact that person if you have questions or concerns. I’ve never met a craftsperson who was unwilling to talk with a customer post-purchase about anything related to the product. Again, buying handmade goods can be pricey … but you’re getting superior quality and craftsmanship.

Consider antique fairs, malls, and stores

OK, buying decades-old, cracked leather belts from antique stores might be a bad plan. But many antiques vendors and dealers stock items that are relatively new, including scarves, hats, jewelry, handbags, watches, belt buckles, and loads more. Again, this is a case of observing how a used item has fared against previous wear and tear to predict how it’ll do in the future. While it’s not universally true that older, vintage items are better made, many of them were crafted from better quality materials in a time before “fast fashion” even existed.

In terms of spotting quality pieces in person? I’m a little ashamed to admit this, but much of the time I go with the “heavier is better” philosophy. I KNOW. But I’m just being honest. I know from experience that heavy leather belts, thick silk scarves, and other accessories with some heft to them last longer and take abuse better. Both in person and online I check material content and am more apt to purchase real leather and pure wool than synthetics. And, finally, unless I can handle an accessory myself I make sure to purchase from vendors who accept returns.

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I’d love to hear some other suggestions for resources and tactics for tracking down quality accessories! How do you spot quality? What are your favorite resources for good accessories, both new and used? Do you have luck at thrift, consignment, or antique stores? Online? Share links, if you’ve got ‘em!

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Reader Jenni sent me this question via e-mail:

is there such a thing as a perfect garment off the rack? and if not, what aspects are more or less important to not compromise about?

for example, when i shop maybe i’ll see a great print that expresses my personal style, but the neckline makes me look dumpy. or i’ll find a dress in a great cut for my figure, but the color is not right for my skin tone or a match for my wardrobe. or there’s a shirt with a super flattering neckline, but has details at the shoulder or waist that don’t look good, or pockets on the boobs (not good for me!). it can definitely be frustrating!

i’ve been educating myself a lot about what to look for in clothes that will work for my figure and coloring. now instead of going to a store and feeling overwhelmed by choices, now i find that there is nothing exactly right because of having so many criteria. is there a way to effectively prioritize those criteria? or is it going to be different for each person?

First things first: For some people, there are loads of perfect off-the-rack garments. If your body is in the sweet spot where mass-marketed clothing brands want and expect it to be, you can waltz into any mall store and buy anything. My experience leads me to believe that the people who fall into that sweet spot are a very small subset of women aged 17 to 23. I don’t mean to say that anyone over the age of 24 will never find a perfectly fitting, pre-made garment. I’m 35 and curvy, and I’ve hit the jackpot plenty of times. It’s possible. But it’s not the norm.

There’s a lot of style rhetoric out there decrying the purchase of imperfect garments. And I get that. Why the heck should you spend your hard-earned money on something that doesn’t quite fit or flatter or work?* This becomes especially important if you’re on a tight budget or if you have a very defined personal style, but it’s a shopping maxim that most people take to heart. Almost-right just isn’t good enough.

So how do we reconcile a desire to spend on ideal items only, with the decidedly not-ideal available inventory? What if our bodies are tricky to fit? Long where manufacturers expect short? Round where clothing designers prefer flat? And what about Jenni’s example of a gorgeous printed garment with an unflattering neckline? If there seem to be approximately zero perfect-for-us garments for sale on planet earth, where do we compromise?

Jenni has guessed correctly: It’s going to be different for each person. If you know how to hem, you’ll be more likely to compromise on pant, skirt, and dress length than those who must take long duds to the tailor. If you have a body part that you adore and want shown off at all times, you’ll likely buy garments that highlight that part and work around the rest. If you are a stickler for how colors work with your complexion, you’ll focus on color and create some fit-related work-arounds. And if you’ve got a large clothing budget and a great tailor, you can pick your battles.

One way to deal with this potentially overwhelming conundrum is to consider your dressing priorities. What is most important to you in a garment?

  • Does it need to be comfortable? Comfortable in a certain area of your body?
  • Washable? Easy to care for?
  • Is color a biggie? What are your best shades?
  • How about fiber or construction?
  • What do you have plenty of in your closet right now? What’s lacking?

Then consider how you want to present your body through clothing. What are your figure flattery priorities? List out your top five and rank them in order of personal importance.

If you find shopping to be frustrating due to lack of perfect options, tuck these two lists into your wallet. Then, when you come across a garment that just about works, you can remind yourself how it fits into your dressing priorities.

That’s just one option, though. I’d love to hear how you all deal with the lack of off-the-rack perfection available to us as shoppers. Do you tailor everything? Even make your own clothes to avoid the disappointment of shopping? Do you have areas in which you’re always willing to compromise? Never willing to compromise? Do tell!

*Quick reminder: Should you slip into a dressing room, try on a heap of goodies, and find that every single option makes you feel awkward or frumpy or wrong, remember: It’s not you, it’s the clothes. Your body is not wrong. Ever. Evereverever.

Image courtesy PlayfulLibrarian.

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Reader Request: Picking a Leather Jacket

by Sally on October 10, 2012 · 24 comments

Sorry for the programming mix-up this morning! That post isn’t meant to be live yet. Here’s today’s!

Reader Krysta e-mailed me this request:

I’d LOVE a post on how to choose a leather jacket–they’re so cool, and so varied, and yet so expensive, that I have a hard time committing. What if this AWESOME one I love now looks irritating and dated in two years?

I adore leather everything, but it took me a while to collect my thoughts for this particular question. As is the case with many investment pieces, it’s tough to generalize. Some women will require one set of characteristics, while others may have entirely different needs! But if you’re in the market for a leather jacket yourself, here are some ideas to mull:

Which style suits your climate and lifestyle?

If you live in Mississippi, a Thinsulate-lined leather jacket isn’t the best choice. If you work with animals, super-soft and extremely-delicate lambskin will just exasperate you. If you dress casually most days, a highly detailed, formal-feeling style will languish unworn. Think about what you need in addition to what looks pretty, and do a little research about leathers, finishes, linings, and weights.

Which style suits your figure?

Look at your other coats and jackets. Which ones get worn most? Why? How do they work with your body and affect your proportions? Head out to a department store, a Burlington Coat Factory, or a Wilsons and try on as many leather jacket styles as you can find. Most leather jackets are fairly short, but some come in longer lengths. And although most options will be zippered, there are some with buttons, belts, snaps, and other details that can make all the difference. It’s worth tracking down a length and cut that suit you.

Have you checked the thrift store?

Krysta is concerned both about budget and about looking current. Thrifting for a leather jacket will hit point one, but you may be surprised to find that it’s a great way to nail point two as well. A 10-year-old leather jacket that still looks and feels current today is likely to endure beyond next year. Many of the leather jackets available at thrift stores are a bit crunchy and crusty, buy you can strike gold. I thrifted this gray leather moto for $9.99 and it’s in amazing condition.

Have you considered vegan options?

I’m generally a stickler for genuine leather, but the faux options that are on the market these days are amazing. They’re also surprisingly spendy, but the real deal is even spendier. If your budget is tight but you’re hoping to nab a certain look, check stores like Target, H&M, and Urban Outfitters for faux leather jackets in on-trend styles.

Have you checked eBay and Etsy?

As always, buying from eBay isn’t risk-free. But if you check measurements, photos, vendor ratings, and return policy, you should be able to make an informed decision. Etsy is also a great source for vintage and handmade leather jackets at decent prices. If you don’t mind buying used but strike out at the thrift store, both of these are great resources for leather jackets in a huge variety of styles, sizes, and prices. Both also feature vendors who can custom make a jacket to suit your needs and figure.

What color will work best for you?

I’ll be honest: I can’t really recommend leather jackets that aren’t black, cognac brown, or gray. And in reality, I think black is going to be the most versatile for the most women. But if you look dreadful in black or hate it, consider your other color options. An easy way to determine your best choice is to consider your handbags. What colors are they? Do you want to “match” or “go”? Look at your other coats, too. Which colors get the most wear?

Now, in terms of picking a style that won’t date … ugh, such a tough one! Leather jackets do seem to date quicker than many other pieces, and a blazer or scuba style from 10 years ago will look older and less contemporary than the slightly tweaked new versions of those same styles on sale now. It’s down to details, hardware, length, and very subtle styling shifts. In mulling this over, I’m surprised to find that the leather jacket style that seems to endure is the motorcycle style – asymmetric zip, triangular flaps, and all. This doesn’t mean that YOU will want to wear a moto or that it’s the only style worth buying. Just that it doesn’t matter if your moto was made in 1972 or 1992 or 2012, it will look good now and it will look good later.* Aside from motorcycle/asymmetric styles, my opinion is that plainer designs are more likely to work years into the future. Studs, buckles, zippers, and quilting may look fantastic today, but they also may tie that jacket to this point in time. Go for something clean and relatively unadorned.

And although it’s no excuse to buy a metallic bronze moto for $700 today, always remember that if you purchase a jacket that you end up hating three years from now, you can sell it on eBay or consign it. Even dated leather jackets can typically earn back some of their original price.

Do you own and love leather jackets? In the market for one now? Do you own any that seem dated now? What do you think gives them away as older models? What other advice would you offer to Krysta about buying a budget-friendly leather jacket that will serve her well for years to come?

*There are certainly some exceptions. A few motos from the 80s have big padded shoulders. This feature looks amazing on some women, makes many others want to run for the hills. I’m a hill-runner on that one myself.

Image courtesy Nordstrom. Jacket pictured is vegan!

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Already Pretty outfit featuring floral dress, Frye Campus 14L boots, camel blazer, boot socks

Kaitlin threw this doozy into the suggestion box:

Knee socks and leg warmers!!! I love them, but how to wear them? They’re great casually, but I’d like to figure out how to work them a little more professionally–can I? I like them with tights or leggings, but then they tend to make my legs look really weird.

And let me tell you, friends, I had to scour the archives to find an outfit in which I’d utilized knee socks. I also unearthed this one, which is pretty similar to the above, and this one which I feel juuuust misses the mark. All this to say that I don’t consider myself a bona-fide expert on knee socks OR legwarmers, and hope you can all chime in with your own suggestions.

I’ll get the ball rolling.

Can knee socks and legwarmers look professional?

Well, that depends. If you’re working as a VP in a corporate office, probably not. If you’re working as a VP at an ad agency, maybe. Kaitlin is already doing her knee socks with tights and leggings, which I think is a good bet for making them appear a bit more sophisticated. When incorporated into a mix of hosiery, these pieces seem like finishing touches rather than afterthoughts. Dark, dusty colors will likely feel more office appropriate than brights, metallics, neons, or prints.

How should they be styled?

In my biased opinion? Knee socks look great worn over a pair of tights or leggings (as we just discussed) and under a pair of boots. I like to let mine just peek out the top of a pair of tall boots, and scrunch them a little for a casual-chic vibe. I can’t say I’m fond of the pulled-up-knee-socks with non-boots look myself, as I think it reads a bit schoolgirl and/or soccer player. If you’re either of those things, go for it. If you’re trying to get a more grown-up look, try boots instead.

I generally prefer to do knee socks just below my knee cap or grazing it, paired with boots that hit an inch or two below. I’ve also done scrunched knee socks with calf-high boots, but that tends to cut my calf at its widest point, making it look even wider. Adding socks to the leg-boot equation can monkey with your proportions, so if you try it and it looks off, try some adjustments: Scrunch the socks lower or pull them higher, add a low-contrast tight underneath, try a higher or lower shaft boot. Play around until you hit on a combo that works. It’s all gonna depend on your proportions and figure flattery priorities.

Leg warmers are pretty foreign to me. I bought a pair on a whim, thinking I’d wear them with a specific pair of shoes, but just never did. They’re languishing in a drawer somewhere. I did, however, come across a photo of leg warmers that I thought were styled well on the MaxStudio website.

Of course, this gal is a model so virtually everything will look amazing on her. But note: It’s a monochrome look, with black leggings layered over black tights for a nice, long leg line. Her fingerless gloves mirror the scrunched leg warmers. Can’t say as I think this would fly at the average office, but for Casual Friday or weekend wear? Why not?

How should they fit?

On models, knee socks and leg warmers always seem to slouch into loose, rumpled perfection. I’ve got 14″ calves and most knee socks pinch the crap out of me. My solution? Lop off the sleeves of ruined or thrifted sweaters, tuck them into my boots with the cuff side peeking out, and pretend. Socks aren’t generally sized, but sweaters are. If you have trouble fitting actual socks or legwarmers, DIY your own!

Where can I buy them?

Sock Dreams is always a favorite and carries a fairly wide range of sizes, but I’ve gotten the majority of my knee socks at good ol’ Target. Amazon is another good bet. Or you could always join Ravelry and learn to knit/crochet your own.

And that, my lovelies, is the extent of my woefully small knowledge of leg warmers and knee socks. So I’m turning this one over to you: Do you wear them? How do you style them? Any photo examples you can share, either of yourself or someone you believe did a bang-up job of styling these pieces? Tell us in the comments!

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Reader Jenni threw this one into the suggestion box:

the next time you post about jewelry, could you share some thoughts for drawing attention to the face for those of us who can’t wear earrings? i may be in the minority here, but my ears have been terribly allergic for years (i’ve tried it all).

So I’m gonna assume that Jenni’s ears are sensitive enough that clip-ons won’t work either. So we’re going 100% earring-free here, friends. Let’s see what we can come up with.

Printed scarves

Yes, I am totally wearing earrings in the photo above. YOU CAUGHT ME. However, the main attraction is that floral infinity scarf, isn’t it? The busy but regular pattern, its proximity to my face, and the fact that it’s being worn with a solid dress in a darker hue all mean that the eye will be drawn upward toward my face. Printed scarves worn relatively close to the neck provide a great way to bring the observing eye into the facial realm.

Bold makeup

My guess is that Jenni was mostly thinking of accessories and clothes, but there are loads of other ways to keep the focus on your face. Bright or dark lipstick, smoky eye makeup, and flattering blush all help attract attention to your complexion. If bright eyeliner and false lashes feel too bold, stick to lip color. Find a shade that’s flattering but noticeable, and wear it proudly.

Hairstyles and hair ornaments

Another non-accessory option! Intricate braids, eye-catching updos, fun or colorful barrettes, fascinators, and headbands all grab attention. Especially if the rest of your outfit is relatively plain, any of these options will bring the observing eye upward.

Statement necklaces

Now, obviously a giant, funky necklace is going to bring attention to your neck and collarbone … but that’s within range of your face. (Right? Double checking … yep. Mere inches away.) Don’t feel like you need to go choker in order to bring the party up higher on your frame. In my opinion, any statement necklace will do the trick.

Chic eyeglasses

Naturally, this suggestion only applies to those of you who WEAR glasses, but a great pair of specs is one of the best ways to show off your gorgeous visage. I’m a fan of colorful frames myself, since they appear modern and bold, but even neutrals and metallics in interesting and modern shapes. (Here’s an older post about finding great glasses, with a link to advice from Angie at You Look Fab.)

What other suggestions do you have for Jenni? How would you draw the observing eye to your face if earrings were simply not an option?

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Reader Request: Guidelines for Tucking

by Sally on September 21, 2012 · 28 comments

Reader Elizabeth sent me this question via e-mail:

… lots of curvier women tuck in their tops, which feels totally daring and, frankly, scary to me, but they look fantastic. While I know it can be frumpy, I usually leave tails out in an effort to get some flowyness (is that a word?) going and gloss over my belly. Could you talk about the way tucking in tops or leaving them out affects proportion, and what it helps to emphasize (or not)?

When it comes to tucking, I believe the three main factors are proportion, desired aesthetic, and comfort.

Proportion

Tucking a top into pants or a skirt alters your perceived silhouette. If you’re wearing low-rise pants and want to create a long-torsoed look, tucking your shirt may help. Since the pant waistband falls below the natural waistline, tucking fools the observing eye into thinking that the waist point has moved downward. If you’re wearing a high-waisted skirt and want to shorten your torso visually, tucking will work toward that end. High-waisted bottoms put the perceived waistline higher than it occurs naturally, so women who are self-conscious about their lower abs/bellies often gravitate toward them. With the emphasis moved upward, the tum is downplayed.

Desired aesthetic

Some outfits look more polished and finished if a top is worn tucked in. Some outfits feel more natural and complete if a top is worn untucked. In my experience, tucking a top fully into a skirt or pair of pants creates formal, retro, and curve-hugging looks. Wearing tops untucked feels more casual, modern, and curve-skimming. Unfortunately, there aren’t any truly useful “rules” when it comes to tucking. Each outfit is different!

Comfort

Tucking generally brings tops closer to the torso than leaving them untucked does. If you’re gonna feel self-conscious and anxious all day with a tucked top, skip it! Find a top that works worn untucked instead. Yes, it’s true that some outfits will just look better if the top is tucked in. Doesn’t mean you have to wear those outfits. Or, at least, doesn’t mean you have to wear them this second. Play around with half-tucks, belting untucked layers, and other methods for adjusting the fit of your top. Work your way up to tucking, but don’t force it before you’re ready.

How do YOU decide when to tuck and when to leave your top untucked? Is it all about the individual outfit? Do you keep an eye on proportion? Do you feel like tucked-in looks are more revealing? More conservative? Any other input for Elizabeth? What’s your take on tucking?

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