Posts Categorized: lovely links

Lovely Links: 10/31/14

Happy Halloween! Here’s one of my favorite late fall, rustling leaves, early darkness songs:

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There is a compartment in HM’s camera bag that is perfectly Harriet-sized.

Some fun tips in this post about how to tuck, tie, roll and twist your clothes like a stylist.

Layers of plaid and windowpane with red accents make this outfit eye-catching. Also love this sheer windowpane dress with tough accents.

“Technicolor hair is mainstream now, but back then, it was reserved for freaks and weirdoes. Dyeing my hair pink felt like claiming the label my classmates had given me for my own. I was done trying to change the strangeness that made other kids hate me. Now I was embracing it.” (Discusses self-harm)

Great reminders about the complexities and impact of fat talk, and suggestions for re-routing those thoughts and conversations.

I love the look of split-back tops, but loathe the fussiness. Style Crone found one with a built-in contrasting insert that looks phenomenal on her.

I’m a proud Capricorn, and swooning over these super subtle zodiac rings and necklaces.

“So while the man mentioned in the first paragraph may feel as though he’s doing a good thing by sharing his appreciation for the way women look when they are out for a run – and some women might actually appreciate that too – for me personally, I’d rather not hear it. I’m not out there to look pretty. I’m out there to run.”

E. is all about the cozy knits these days, and I’m right there with her.

At long last, Gap has some high rise skinnies on offer. And they come in three inseam lengths as well as tall and petite cuts. Hoping to try these soon and will report back.

Chastity gives her thoughts on the Kelly Osbourne for HSN line.

The implication is that dressing in a more conventionally feminine way is somehow more frivolous, and can undermine perceptions of a woman’s intellectual and professional skills. Dressing in order to be taken seriously indicates that the spectre of older, more explicit forms of sexism still hovers over us: a woman who adopts a more feminine style is too preoccupied with pretty things to be a serious academic, because a woman can’t be both attractive and intelligent – if indeed she can be intelligent at all.”

What’s the difference between a tint and a tone? Learn more about color terminology right here.

I love everything about this outfit of cognac leather, stripes, and distressed denim. Well played. Jean.

“Sometimes I say chubby or curvy but today I’m going to say it. Fat. There are so many assumptions that come with that word, or when people see fat bodies. That you don’t take care of yourself. That you don’t love yourself. That you are ashamed. That you are not healthy. That fact doesn’t mean that I don’t love myself, that I don’t take care of my body or that I am not worthy. You see, I’m slowly learning how to not be ashamed of it. I’ve spent 15 years of my life bullying myself in the mirror and I’m done. I’m not playing that game anymore.”

Such a fantastic interview with Mode-sty founder, Zahra Aljabri.

I’ve purposely avoided most of the media storm that arose when Renee Z was photographed after drastic plastic surgery, but found LPC’s musings on ageism, beauty obsession, and the need to be recognized compelling.

The sassy asymmetric closure on Jyoti’s sunshine yellow coat makes it even cuter.

Break in case of fabulous.

I made it my fall mission to track down a fabulous metallic leather handbag. This one from Boden turned out to be far too shiny and cheap looking. This Vince Camuto one, however, is perfect – a little weathered, slightly metallic, and wonderfully roomy. (It was 50% off on 6pm when I bought it … fingers crossed it still is by today!)

17 promises to make to your body today. I’m especially fond of #3.

Burgundy and black is such a sleek, chic pairing, especially when there’s a little bit of leather involved. Though black and gold is pretty rockin’, too.

Never forget that you absolutely can wear sleeveless clothes regardless of your size, shape, age, or anything at all.

“I have a feeling that without Rei Kawakubo’s clothes, it would have taken a much longer time to realize I was queer. I identify with her designs because she queers fashion by destabilizing the meaning of clothes and creating her own ideas of what they stand for. I queer sexuality through my incapacity for picking one gender to be attracted to, or assign to myself. Kawakubo’s clothes made me feel brave enough to accept the parts of myself I otherwise thought were too strange to explore.”

Stasia is working on an extensive exploration of body proportions over on Thrift Me Pretty. Parts one and two both have some truly useful tips.

Completely agree that color can be an important element of flattery, but what matters most is how colors make you feel. Black is tough on most complexions, but if you love it, by all means wear it!

And from the Department of Random: A serenade.

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Lovely Links: 10/24/14

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Harriet is FASCINATED by the printer. As soon as it starts to whir and hum, she comes streaking into the office, jumps on my desk, and stares up at it. Last weekend, she finally attempted to get a closer look. (First seen on Instagram)

“Everyone told me — my family, my school, my church. When I got older, magazines and salesgirls and boyfriends (told me), even if they didn’t say so out loud. The world’s been telling me for 75 years that my body is bad. First for being female, then for being fat and then for being sick.” (This is a narrative about illness and death, and may be upsetting)

The fabulous gals at Rhodesian of Edinburgh are now selling a truly stunning messenger bag. Three gorgeous colors, and I want one of each.

The Dear Kate lingerie line is getting lots of love from plus sized fashion bloggers. They carry regular sizes, too!

I truly do NOT need another pair of tall black boots, but this moto/cowgirl hybrid from Born is calling to me nonetheless.

Kelly’s before and after alterations posts are always great, showing exactly how much a skilled tailor can do to change a garment.

This post explores why calling “How to Get Away with Murder” star, Oscar nominee, and all-around powerhouse Viola Davis “less classically beautiful” reinforces colorism.

Vaguely related: Mindy Kaling is constantly being asked to talk about being a Hollywood outsider because she isn’t tall, thin, and white. And she is starting to push back against that, saying she’d rather focus on keeping her show going than being some sort of industry pioneer due to her other-ness.

Despite my shift to neutral clothes, I’m still a sucker for multicolored scarves and these ones from Blazon are gorgeous.

Locals! Maiden Minnesota is coming up, and I can’t wait to go. I’ve also donated a personal shopping trip to the silent auction!

Angie explains the difference between wardrobe essentials and wardrobe basics, and lists out her current essentials.

Loved this interview with one of the “Advanced Style” movie stars Tziporah Salamon.

Green, black, and gray are such a chic combination, and an unexpected grouping.

Women in their sixth and seventh decades are enjoying the peace of mind and self-assurance that comes with growing older, but we are not sharing this. We should stick our noses over the barricades, stop being quite so prickly and defensive, and pirouette out to show the next generation that it’s all going to be just fine. And maybe take a selfie or two while we’re at it.”

On catcalling, personal space, respect, and more: Thank you so much for telling me I’m pretty.

A bold, beautiful all-white outfit.

Favorite badass outfit of the week: Callie in an oversized shirt, biker jacket, and pencil skirt. Her post also contains a great reminder that plus-sized women shouldn’t feel obliged to curve-flattering, shape-highlighting clothes every minute of every day. To which I say WORD.

Some of these won’t resonate with you, but I’m betting at least a few will: 50 simple ways to express self-love.

Unspeakably talented actress Frances McDormand speaks out against ageism. Love her even more now.

Imogen is doing a really eye-opening series on color undertones with great visuals: How to Pick Colour Undertones, The Undertones of Colours, How to Pick the Undertone of a Colour

This railroad spike bracelet has been on my wishlist for years. I should just bite the bullet already …

A great reminder of how important it is to allow yourself pleasures and failures as part of self-care.

“Recently, I’ve actually been single and that’s been one of the most liberating aspects of my journey. It’s meant not identifying my presentation with the needs or expectations of my romantic partner. It’s amazing to wake up in the morning and decide whether I feel like wearing men’s briefs or frilly lingerie and not worry about whether it will enforce or detract from my partner’s ideals about their own gender expression.”

Katha’s buffalo plaid dress and knit hat are so perfect together.

My latest Huffington Post piece is a reminder that if you want to, you should totally chop off all your hair.

It took years, but Ragini finally felt ready to ignore the chorus of voices telling her she was too fat to swim.

Loving Lisa’s leather sleeves. (If only I could find a word for sleeves that begins with L …)

As part of The Beauty Project series, director Kathryn Ferguson filmed five women, all over age 80, on the subject of beauty. (Via Not Dead Yet Style)

“Body shape trends that have gone viral on social media, like the thigh gap, have the power to influence the body image of young women globally.”

And from the Department of Random: According to scientists, sex was invented in Scotland.

Additionally: All of the “dudes” in “The Big Lebowski.” (Includes Walter swearing, of course.)

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Lovely Links: 10/17/14

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Sleepy felines in the breakfast nook. When they’re not being used to transport groceries, those are Harriet’s boxes.

This closet detox cheat sheet is just plain brilliant.

Currently lusting after the Seacliff Coat from Curator. Such a cool shape, and made from organic cotton.

A fascinating read on the gender politics of pockets. (Via YLF)

Ever the rebel, Melanie asks, “Do you ever think your outfit or photo is too settled, too nicey nice, too model-wannabe, so you just want to wreck it up? Of course it’s hard to get away from when the goal of an outfit post is to show people what you’re wearing, but still, the desire to bust out is always just under the surface.”

This roundup includes some seriously chic wide-calf AND narrow-calf tall boot options.

Cambridge University classicist Mary Beard is urging women to reclaim the word “old.”

This examination of how the fast fashion cycle relates to licensing and patent laws is utterly fascinating. And looks at both mall stores stealing from high fashion designers, and high fashion designers stealing from visual artists.

Beauticurve styles a stunning asymmetric hem LBD three different ways, all of them gorgeous and glam.

“Realistically speaking, though, I know I’m never going to be able to un-know what it’s like to feel separate from my body. I am slowly learning to come to terms with my it. I have to—my body is my constant companion. It’s not an ‘other.’ It’s me.”

Huh. I’ve got a when-to-wear-nylons post coming up, but came across this one that insists nylons or tights must be worn in professional settings if the temperature is less than 70 degrees. Thoughts?

Related: Allie gives her two cents on nylons, sheers, and opaque tights.

Anna has created a five-minute guided body gratitude meditation that you can download for free.

So Madewell, right? Bought its name and logo from a family-run company founded in 1937, but did so in 2004. And still hints at a multi-decade brand legacy that doesn’t really exist.

Kileen of Cute & Little has posted some fabulously fashionable maternity outfits over the past few months.

I’ll be contributing posts over at Mad Mimi once a month, and wrote about making your newsletter subscribers feel special this month.

This interview with a magazine photo retoucher is in-depth and kinda horrifying. For instance, he’s been asked to remove “distracting” collarbones. OY.

Now that’s some ninja-level layering right there.

“Embracing self-acceptance doesn’t mean that you cannot enjoy dressing or applying make-up. Self-acceptance and style do not have to be mutually exclusive.”

My fringe bag kinda DIY might be hard to recreate, but this one shows you how do make a fringed clutch from scratch.

Another reason to learn to sew: Virtually no sleeved dresses in the stores, but you can create a stunning long-sleeved sheath for yourself. Doesn’t Erica look smokin’ hot in hers?

There’s a Museum of Bags and Purses in Amsterdam. ‘Nuff said.

My angled-zip brown ankle booties are long sold out, but Clarks has a new pair this season that are almost identical!

Maria muses on the confining nature of fashion rules, and then offers some that she applies to herself, including, “Be nice to your feet. The more insecure you feel, the “safer” the outfit should be (though choose one badass element, for balance). Wear a slip underneath clingy skirts. Pockets are good, as is getting older. Perfume, though only a little.”

What’s hanging in your fantasy closet?

Only vaguely on-topic, but heartwarming nonetheless: 13-Year-Old Girl in Training to Be the First Person on Mars, NASA Thinks She Could Succeed

What a fabulous way to style an on-trend dark floral dress.

I know I link to Grechen every week, but she is killing it with her Minimal Closet posts: “There’s no doubt we feel better about ourselves and sometimes life in general when we wear “nicer” things, or things we love, but your dog can still die while you’re wearing your favorite cashmere sweater, and you can still get fired wearing your best suit. Nothing can protect you from life.”

Pondering a change? Here are three apps that let you “try on” hair colors without committing.

I’ll probably pass on the cape trend myself, but goodness Annette looks elegant in hers.

High Plains Thrifter highlights nine wardrobe essentials she’ll be thrifting for fall.

Becoming a mom sort of threw me into a style evolution that made for some awkward times, sartorially speaking. For a while, I tried to wear the same kinds of clothes I would wear before pregnancy, but they just never felt right. Not completely because of my new body, but also because I was a new person.”

Lisa experiments with using camo print as a neutral. She came up with some great outfits.

A great reminder that wearing the same things again and again – even if they’re very memorable and worn at highly photographed occasions – is a wise practice. Don’t let fear of being seen multiple times in the same outfit deter you.

If you’d like to fall down a reading rabbithole, Sociological Images rounded up some Hall of Fame and Hall of Shame posts in honor of Love Your Body Day. A Fashion Advice Counterfactual is especially enjoyable.

I bought these slightly over-the-top moto/zipper detail jeans. And I adore them. And there are plenty of other past-season Jag jean bargains to be had.

Women Wearing Spectacular Hats In Art History (complete with hilarious captions)

“When I talked to my friends about our inept fumblings with crafting an image, one refrain kept coming up: ‘Nobody told me.’ We may wear or do things not because we get great reactions, but because we’ve never received feedback at all.”

And from the Department of Random: What does the moon smell like? (Via Yes and Yes)

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