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Lovely Links: 1/30/15

Weekly Kitty:


(First seen on Instagram.) Cat palace, procured. Level 5 Cat Lady, ACHIEVED.

I gave myself a crick in the neck nodding emphatically while reading this piece about how short-sighted it is to encourage women to ignore their bodies completely and focus solely on accomplishments, personality, and intelligence. A favorite quote: “Most of the feminism that I’ve run into does tend to bifurcate mind and body in a way that seems unhelpful. You’re supposed to appreciate your body for the things it does for you, rather than realizing that in a very real way your body is you and that all the things your body does are things that you do.” SO IMPORTANT.

Sylvia is stunning in this edgy monochrome outfit.

Your sweater is pilling. Do you use a sweater stone or sweater comb to get it back in shape? (I’ll admit to using a sweater shaver myself.)

I got a sample of this Hourglass Liquid Lipstick a few months back, and just ponied up for a full-size tube. It is POTENT, so I dab on a couple of drops and then blend. It has better staying power than any lip stain I’ve encountered thus far.

Cyn’s moto-detail jeans are so, SO cool, and the perfect mate for her floaty floral top.

In a recent interview about her childhood and her Image Award-nominated show ‘black-ish,’ Tracee Ellis Ross said, “Women are asked to put forward, to a certain extent, a mask. And for black women, that has taken on greater significance, because the standard of beauty has not necessarily had the space for different definitions of beauty. I’m trying to find my own version of what makes me feel beautiful. On ‘black-ish,’ there’s a lot that has to be done working around my hair, in terms of scheduling.”

Over on I gave a few tips for deciding if a fashion trend is right for you.

A new group that formed to provide a place for young girls of color to connect and support each other, Oakland’s Radical Brownies earn “Radical Beauty” and “LGBT Ally” badges, study how Disney princesses define girls’ image of beauty, and talk about how that can affect self-image.

Gracey offers her thoughts on the best legging styles and brands for tall women. And she’s a fan, so she knows her stuff.

Related: K.Line swears by Hue’s denim leggings. She, too, knows her stuff and is a very discerning consumer.

This Sherlock-inspired outfit is fabulous. I love all of it, but the coat is especially amazing.

Assa shares some resources for designers who offer African print clothes in plus sizes, and reminisces about her childhood in Mali.

“Some feminist scholars refuse to portray naked female bodies, arguing that the sexualization and objectification of those bodies is inevitable. Others continue to experiment, searching for unique representational strategies. I, for one, insist that it is possible to resignify the naked female body, starting with my own body.” (Not safe for work viewing, art and photographic nudes)

Buying multiples of items you love is a much-lauded wardrobe-building technique … but it can backfire, as Grechen points out.

My own color preferences may have changed, but I still adore bright, bold combos like cobalt, yellow, and pink as worn together in this vibrant outfit.

Sarah talks about her experience living with Androgenetic Alopecia, saying, “Having no hair does not define who I am.” (Via Hair Romance)

The concept behind The Ugly Ducklings is intriguing. Feeling confident, valued, and understood is challenging for young women, as is remembering that your journey is what shapes you.  A little fuzzy on what the organization is actually DOING, though. Anyone else heard of it?

Writer Alice Gregory explains why a simple personal uniform makes her feel serene.

Uniqlo’s SPRZ NY collection is calling to me with a marvelous selection of Keith Haring graphic tees and sweatshirts.

On the importance of changing systems from the inside out: “I think my bro-ness largely contributed to my ability to reach my male privileged residents. The ideologies that my corporeality signified gave me a presumed rapport with them, allowing me to infiltrate their spaces, thus granting me the perfect opportunity to subvert those ideologies from the inside. To broaden the implications because of what my body signifies, I can go back home to Philly and be on the block spittin’ some bell hooks or Sara Ahmed to other Black dudes and be listened to because of the capital that I carry through my embodiment. Thus my bro-ness, while inimical in, say, a space containing older, white, second wave feminist women, is subversive and anti-patriarchal in a space containing Black Nationalists and hip-hop heads in North Philly precisely because I am granted access to that space.”

In honor of Australia Day, Imogen shares a pictorial dictionary of some of the most commonly used Australian clothing terminology. Budgie smugglers. Hee.

Forest green accents make this elegant taupe coat look even more sophisticated.

LPC and Une Femme collaborated on posts in which they explored their denim experiments, favorites, and styled yet to be tried.

“These women demonstrate that abiding by the Jewish law of modesty need not translate to dowdy, unflattering, ill-fitting clothing. Modest dressing can be beautiful, attractive, and, most importantly, fashionable. My modesty does not prevent me from buying fashion-forward clothing. On the contrary, it is the reason I have a unique sense of style.

Fascinating: What does a designer collaboration need to accomplish to be considered successful?

Corin and Carrie explain the Riot Grrrl movement in 20 seconds.

Focusing on the two essential purging questions – Is it useful? Does it bring you joy? – Lady Smaggle suggests five items that are likely lurking in your closet and should really be chucked right out.

My earring preferences are shifting. Instead of studs and big necklaces I’m doing big earrings and long pendants. These beauties from Lockhart Wrks are a new fave: Big and bold but super lightweight. And I’m still deciding if I can carry off these huge, bling-y chandelier earrings.

Worn Through recommends these academic studies and writings exploring the intersection of fashion and age.

Recently, the BBC program Woman’s Hour interviewed Rivkie Baum, creator a plus size fashion magazine called SLiNK. Alongside a weight-loss expert. So they could have a discussion about whether making stylish clothes in plus sizes “normalizes obesity.”

A hilarious riff on the concept of “cost per use.”

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Lovely Links: 1/23/15

Weekly Kitty:

The Wall Street Journal investigates the glut of sleeveless dresses in the dead of winter, and finds out why designers shy away from sleeved versions.

Joi’s colorful, fun look was thrifted for $15. Including everything.

The Budget Babe shares some chic and affordable storage solutions for your wardrobe and home.

“Like everyone else, lesbians grow up with impossible airbrushed/Photoshopped standards of beauty created by the media, and these images work themselves deep into our minds long before we know we shouldn’t buy into them.”

Two simple steps to prevent wardrobe orphans? Yes, please!

Shainna explains why she believes plus-sized women should shop the Lilly Pulitzer for Target line, even if the pieces are only available online. And it sounds like they’re moving toward more inclusive sizing in stores wit the Ava & Viv line.

Five reasons why gendered products are a problem.

A great reminder that it’s more valuable to comment on the things people do as opposed to the things people are. Along with this great advice: “… when you find yourself thinking something negative about your body, just say to yourself, ‘I’m thinking a negative thought about my body.’ After your 14th time of doing that in one day, it begins to get boring, and you realize that you’re just harping on a theme.”

I love the look of moto detailing, especially on comfy pieces like these Sun & Shadow moto leggings. And I finally found the replacements for my dying glitter leggings: These subtly sparkly leggings, also by Hue.

Melanie’s thrifted-and-drawn-upon items always amaze me, and these white platform boots embellished with her amazing drawings are no exception.

What could be more fun than finding a new garment that reminds you of a beloved one from childhood?

Over on, I offered some tips for avoiding buyer’s remorse.

Leopard print, burgundy, and lime green look smashing together, as Megan proves.

Such a fantastic, in-depth post on the tension between wanting to accept your body as it is and feeling a desire to change it. Melanie also highlights some ad campaigns that offer antagonistic, cooperative, and agonistic approaches to body image, including the amazing Sport England campaign This Girl Can.

I adore the phrase Old Lady Revolution. Count me in.

Blazer cape. Pretty cool hybrid, if you ask me.

“We get it. Long, dark, thick lashes look fab. But we gotta talk about the reasons so many women feel so compelled to spend their money and time on those potions and procedures. And why zero men do. And why ads like this target us at every turn. And how much money these companies are making off of our desire to look like these unreal images. (Hint: it’s in the billions.)”

How often should you REALLY wash your bra? Not as often as you might think.

Chivalry: A subtle form of “benevolent sexism.”

Although this post focuses on wearing black if you have low or medium contrast, Imogen has also tackled wearing black if you have light coloring and adding color to black.

On the Mad Mimi blog, I wrote about the importance of tone in newsletter communications.

Proof that neutrals needn’t be boring: This fabulous outfit of black and white prints and varied textures.

Here’s what happens when a male Buzzfeed writer wears makeup for a week.

Stylebook, an app that lets you easily catalog and view everything in your closet, sounds pretty brilliant. Not Cher’s closet in “Clueless” brilliant, but close.

“We’re told that selfies are narcissistic, frivolous cries for help. But it doesn’t feel frivolous to bear witness to my body on a particular day of a transitory existence. It feels good!”

I got these Dolce Vita ankle boots on deep discount but um … these Trouvé ones look almost identical and are going for far, far less.

Apparently, there’s a fast fashion/teen retailer cage match going on.

On the Fox 9 Buzz, I talked about the obi belt resurgence and tricks for styling them.

Since they mystify me, I’m delighted that the Politesse tackled dress code definitions.

Cassandra is taking part in the Unconditional Body Beautiful project, along with 20 other bloggers. Her first post about her body image history is honest and inspiring.

Clothing is only the book jacket to your life novel. Choosing clothing that fits and flatters not just your figure but your lifestyle and personality help better represent your novel and may attract more interested readers, but they don’t affect the plot or the outcome.”

And from the Department of Random: 10 Words You Might Not Know Are Portmanteaux

Also: Parents Talk to Their Kids About the Birds and the Bees for the First Time. Vangina, vagina, how do you say it? (Via Making Mighteor. Prolly don’t want to watch this one at work, either.)

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Lovely Links: 1/16/15

Weekly Kitty:


With the subzero windchills, we’ve been busting out the big guns, coat-wise. Little kitty, big down coat.

Legendary costume designer Ruth Carter talks about the importance of clothes in displaying socioeconomic differences, rebellious spirit, and style in the movie “Selma.”

Sarah Rae shows us three stellar looks from Missguided, a UK company that stocks regular and plus sized on-trend clothes.

Yet more great shoe options for folks with plantar fasciitis from the Barking Dog Shoes team.

When I work with style consult clients, price paid can be a stumbling block for letting go of unworn or ill-fitting items. This post explains how paying once for something is enough, and there’s no need to keep on paying with time, attention, emotion, and more.

Yes, yes, YES to Alison’s winter style and layering tips.

Target’s next designer collaboration will be with Lily Pulitzer, and the 250-item capsule will include plus sizes. However, they’ll only be available online.

Selfridges Bright Old Things campaign celebrates the ‘retirement renaissance.’ Thirteen creatives aged between 40 and 82 (who have all experienced some kind of artistic epiphany), will each be taking over one of the store’s window displays.”

This gray denim moto jacket was an early birthday gift to myself, and it is SO well made and comfy.

Bold color blocking is a great way to battle the gloom of frigid temperatures and cloudy skies. Or just piling on bright colors and lively patterns.

Love these tips for understanding how and when to break style rules and guidelines, since they’re based on each person as an individual.

Related: This list of six fashion rules you should ignore to save money includes some pretty obvious ones, but they all serve as good reminders.

Gracie gives LOFT line Lou & Grey the thumbs up for tall gals, even though the line doesn’t actually sell tall sizes.

“The goal of this photo series, ‘Selfie Centered,’ is to demonstrate my own self empowerment, depict the female condition, and promote women artists from a plethora of art movements who have been oppressed by patriarchal standards.” (Contains nudity)

Yet more proof that retail sizing is totally arbitrary.

Husband Mike sent along this infographic explaining the difference between a slob outfit and a fancy outfit … for guys. Overall, he agrees with this assessment.

Grechen has launched a series in which she will provide ethically-produced, sustainable, eco-friendlier, made in the US, heritage, or otherwise interesting brands and alternatives to popular mass-produced products. Her first offering: Minimalist leather totes.

Natalie’s asymmetric black dress is chic beyond chic.

Think short hair can’t be versatile? Think again: Here are nine sassy ways to style a bob.

Moving musings on taking up space, acting small, and constant apologies.

Joan Didion responds to the celebratory uproar caused by her Céline ad campaign appearance.

AP reader and now author Fiona Price has written a new take on the Rapunzel story aimed at young adult readers. She says, “I describe the journey of a young woman striving to find her own path in between the radical 1970s feminism of the grandmother who raised and home-schooled her and the glamorous, image-obsessed fashion model mother who abandoned her as a baby. In a sense, it’s a feminist story packaged for a generation that’s rejected feminism, which is upfront about both the media stereotype of the humourless hairy man-hater and the perilous power of being an attractive young woman in a sexist society.” Learn more right here!

OK, Jessica, now I’m lusting after a collarless leather jacket with a peplum. So fun!

Five great lessons from travel wardrobes that can be applied to home wardrobes.

Over at I talked about avoiding buyer’s remorse, and suggested the best brands of high-rise jeans.

And from the Department of Random: Wolves seem to be a recurring theme in my life right now. I am reading Wolf in White Van by Mountain Goats frontman John Darnielle. It is dark, sad, and fairly disturbing but very well done. Book available here:

Just saw the film of “Into the Woods” for the SECOND time yesterday, and will probably do a third with my girlfriends sometime soon. The wolf scene isn’t pivotal, but it’s certainly memorable. And I found the movie mesmerizing and marvelous from start to finish. Skillful singing, gorgeous special effects, and Sondheim’s thought-provoking lyrics.

I got a stray urge to hear “Peter and the Wolf” over the weekend. (Maybe it’s all those “Mozart in the Jungle” episodes?) As a kid, I played my “Peter and the Wolf” LP into the ground. I sampled a few versions, and am now LOVING this version, narrated by the ever-amazing David Bowie.

And finally: Not wolfy, but close.

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