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Lovely Links: 4/17/15

Weekly Kitty:


Sunshine feels good.

“I’m ready to make peace with myself. I’m ready to stop grasping for that one exercise or superfood that will give me the body of my dreams. I’m ready to stop assessing the room at a barre class to see if my thighs are the biggest (sad but true). I’m ready to cut the crap and be truly grateful for the healthy body I do have.” (Disordered eating discussed.)

Honest musings on being invisible, being seen, the seductive power of attention, and the far-reaching impact of the male gaze. (Harassment discussed, violence referenced)

GREAT info in this post about seven common bra myths. Especially the “bras have fixed sizing” one. So true.

Over on, I rounded up shopping resources for androgynous stylesites and stores that offer discounts on designer items, and my picks for where to shop for office-friendly work clothes.

Such a stylish, classic way to do red, white, and blue.

Curious to hear what some of you plus sized readers think about the Cacique #ImNoAngel campaign. The underlying message seems empowering and positive, but I’ve also heard that some of the plus sized community isn’t comfortable seeing only hourglass-shaped plus models in campaigns like this. Sarah had an insightful response to the campaign and its backlash.

The Bloggess has a thoughtful, personal, touching, and hilarious response to being called brave for posting a video of herself in a swimsuit.

On the Mad Mimi blog, I shared tips for email readership engagement.

Rosie’s self-acceptance starter kit is simple, but includes some helpful suggestions.

If you ask me, Deborah is the undisputed queen of artfully draped layers. Just as Cyn is the undisputed queen of jumpsuits.

Two related posts touching on the recent law “banning” very thin models: From the New York Times, musings on whether women take body image cues from models, and from The Militant Baker thoughts on the damage that “banning” a body type may have in the long run.

Why older women are the new “It-girls” of fashion (Via The Fashion Law)

On the Fox 9 Buzz I showed some ballet-inspired looks that are hot for spring.

In a post on paleness, Kate says, “Amidst my concern for weight, hair, makeup, clothes, shoes, nails, eyebrows, static, cat hair and under-eye circles (to name a few), do I really have the energy to give a damn if the natural color of my skin isn’t what society has deemed as the preferred beauty norm? Absolutely f*cking not.”

Marlen makes a case for why minimalism and normcore still have panache.

Love the combination of a leopard-print topper and sassy graphic tee.

Very few florals remain in my wardrobe, but I’m still swooning over a botanical print that Land’s End is showing this season. Here in a regular/petite/plus size oxford, a lovely below-the-knee regular/petite/tall/plus size sundress, and a regular/petite/tall/plus size slub cotton tee. SO pretty.

This DIY wrapped crop top looks extremely simple, and like it could be customized to many sizes and lengths.

In other cropped news, Kelly layers a cropped, striped sweater over an oxford, creating interesting proportions and a super-cool outfit.

This ad agency art director wears the same outfit every day. And she’s much happier doing it than when she stressed over clothing choices. (Via Capitol Hill Style)

Me & My Bois is a vlog/webisode documenting the lives of masculine-of-center people on the West Coast. The interviews are enlightening and moving, as is the official trailer which offers a summary and mission statement. (Via Genderfork)

So glad that Angie has doled out some advice on how to make sense of culottes. I’m fascinated, but wary.

One of the unsung heros of my wardrobe is the Karen Kane Super Soft Tank. Since it’s close-fitting and slick without being staticky, it is the perfect under-layer. Machine washable and endlessly useful. Also in plus sizes.

Kellie reviews the newly added plus-size offerings from yoga-wear brand Soybu.

I forget to wear a watch more frequently than I remember, but The Directrice makes a valid point about watches being superior to phones as timepieces.

“The ‘irony’ of course of the casual chic/minimal look we all love so much and respond to, is that it’s not generally just throw-on-and-go – it’s well thought out, either in terms of careful wardrobe planning from the beginning, or at least at the point of dressing in the morning. There is no such thing as effortless chic; it takes effort …”

Insights on the links between body image and capitalism

Elements like sheerness and asymmetry can help you create faux layers that don’t suffocate you in summer.

“When I was growing up, my fatness hovered like an ever-present cloud, having a significant impact on the decisions my parents made when they raised me. My parents are no longer raising me, of course, but they are still fat-shaming, and that shame still affects me …”

Houndstooth offers the perfect pop of pattern for an otherwise all-black outfit.

OK, I know clothing preferences have shifted over time, but I had no idea shorts were so scandalous so recently.

More Shugs & Fats brilliance: Cat Call. (Language gets a little raunchy.)

It’s nearly sandal season, and I’ve found that styles with a curved or v-shaped detail right where the top of the foot meets the ankle are among my faves. This Lucky Brand pair fits the bill, though I wonder if they’ll be supportive enough.

Imogen points out that when it comes to dressing, body shape is just one piece of the puzzle and personality trumps it every time.

Kiah’s citron lace-detail dress from the Lela Rose for Lane Bryant collection is so elegant, and I love how she styled it with simple black accents.

Oh, paperbag-waist pants. I am almost sure you’ll look goofy on me, yet still tempted …

You might groan initially, but this post on babycore/kidcore dressing makes some interesting observations.

And from the Department of Random: Owl Faces in Order

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Lovely Links: 4/10/15

Weekly Kitty:

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Sunbathing Season is fast approaching. Harriet is getting a head start with some windowsill sitting.

Leaders of Today and Tomorrow, the women’s leadership program that I co-chair, is hosting our first big event and fundraiser in May! Would LOVE to see you there.

Denarii Monroe shares three surprising ways she learned to love herself after a lifetime of being ridiculed for her looks.

I know traditional woven button-fronts can be challenging, and although they can be hard to find knit versions can be much easier to fit and wear. Boden has a knit button-front shirt in two printsL.L. Bean has one in 12 colors, Eddie Bauer’s comes in petite and tall sizes, and this style comes in six colors in 1X – 3X.

When I grow up, I want to be Ruth. (Cheers to Deborah for highlighting her gorgeous blog.)

The Curvy Fashionista rounds up 20 lovely plus size floral dresses that are perfect for spring.

Yoga has endowed me with the body confidence that no other exercise – or activity – ever afforded me. It’s made me realise that my body is something to be celebrated and that I should be proud of. I mean, it can’t be an accident that two of the most popular poses are called ‘goddess’ and ‘warrior.’”

Trend-wise, it’s all about the 70s for spring. Angie shares 10 ways to add 70s flair to your outfits.

Remember that #ClothingHasNoGender.

Shainna offers us more visual proof that Lane Bryant has stepped up its game.

In my latest post for Huffington Post Women, I offer a reminder that you have a body.

H&M, Kering and Worn Again have united to create pioneering textile recycling technology: The technology will work by separating and extracting polyester and cotton from old textiles, reducing the amount of clothing that gets dumped on landfill sites every year. (Via The Fashion Law)

The secret to an uncluttered handbag? Unpack everything every single night. Lauren swears by this method now!

“There are countless beautiful, bold, brilliant babes who were the recipient of an unflattering comment that still wander around this earth carrying that criticism like a calling card. Are you one of them?”

Here are five great updos for curly hair that tends to get frizzy. And a reminder that frizz is nothing to be ashamed of.

Erica makes a 70s-era halter wrap dress look incredibly modern.

Love this tribute to 10 trans* models who are changing the fashion landscape as we speak. (Final photo not safe for work viewing.)

Three categories of fashion items that many women buy, but almost never wear

I’ll admit it: I’m considering culottes for spring. This simple black pair just might be the one …

Runner’s face is basically the ‘gaunt, skeletal look you end up with if you run for fun or fitness,’ a terrible affliction that can conveniently be treated through injectables like ‘hyaluronic acid fillers,’ which luckily for those of us with disposable income can be attained at your friendly local plastic surgeon’s office. To summarize: Women should do exercises to get skinny; Then when we get skinny and thus start looking ‘gaunt,’ we should inject shit in our faces to plump them up again; Then we should blend brown powder on our freshly-injected faces so we can go back to looking ‘gaunt’ again.”

This list of style bloggers in their 50s, 60s, and 80s gave me a few new ones to check out!

Feminist Lisa Frank. My inner third-grader and current self are BOTH rejoicing.

My friend and colleague Traci Mann has just released a book titled Secrets from the Eating Lab that promises to be a fascinating read. Traci studies the efficacy of dieting long-term, and her research has been groundbreaking.

You haven’t seen extreme nail art until you’ve watched this adorable stop-motion video.

When it comes to florals, I adore abstract prints and the bold one on Lilli’s wrap dress is right up my alley.

The term plus size, while nothing more than descriptive, serves a business function in the same way that ‘petite’ does. Without a label, however unfortunate, we wouldn’t know that a brand has something to offer us in our size. Since we cannot simply walk (or click) into any store and buy clothing that fits, we need to be shown where we are welcome.”

Joi’s colorblocked look is bold and bright.

Should thrift stores be reserved for those who cannot afford to shop elsewhere? Patti muses on this question.

Can’t quite get comfy with the one statement earring trend, but am starting to warm up to mismatched pairs. This Betsey Johnson pair is both edgy and cute.

What’s your definition of self-care?

Paramore frontwoman Hayley Williams has collaborated with her longtime friend and makeup artist, Brian O’Connor, to create a web series called “Kiss Off!” a project that aims to teach people how to use makeup and beauty as sources of self confidence. See the first episode here.

Beth looks sharp in her bright white jumpsuit.

How did L.L. Bean become one of fashion’s hottest companies?

“One of the principles driving the $61 billion weight-loss industries is the notion that fat is inherently unhealthy and that it’s better, health-wise, to be thin, no matter what you have to do to get there. But a growing body of research is beginning to question this paradigm. Does obesity cause ill health, result from it, both, or neither? Does weight loss lead to a longer, healthier life for most people?

I love that a tee shirt declaring “Old is the New Black” exists.

Great tips for styling cowboy boots

Many curvy women will recognize that sometimes observers conflate style with build. (Post contains some mild “Mad Men” spoilers.)

I did a HOW Mad Mimi conversation this week, and you can watch it on YouTube. Talked about blogging, monetization, marketing, and more.

And from the Department of Random: My dear friend and accomplished YA writer Megan Atwood has launched a fantastic blog packed with insightful posts, writing prompts, reviews, and more aimed at writers of books for children and young adults. Her most recent post touches on rejection letters and poser syndrome. Add her to your reader, won’t you?

Also: Wonder Woman’s Invisible Jet is now on display at the National Air and Space Museum. (Note pub date. Well played, Smithsonian.)

Additionally: Songs From a Tom Waits Album Where No One Gets Drunk At a Diner

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Lovely Links: 4/3/15

Weekly Kitty:


Still lovin’ that hammock.

“Carolyn Wysinger takes us on a journey into the corporate workplace, where as the ‘first boi in’ her inventive transgression of gender dress codes also means getting used to ‘the daily stares, the interested glances of some and the disdain of others.'”

Five ways people shame women for their post-pregnancy bodies, and why they need to stop doing so. Have any of you moms experienced these? Thoughts on the author’s opinions?

This tutorial will help you transform just about any structured tote into a functional camera bag.

Love this juxtaposition of a pink print dress and tough accents.

On the Shopping Tips channel of, I wrote about when it makes sense to buy multiples and where to shop for romantic style staples.

If you worry about cropped pant styles shortening your leg line, here are some workarounds. And they are good.

“In wealthy countries around the world, clothes shopping has become a widespread pastime, a powerfully pleasurable and sometimes addictive activity that exists as a constant presence, much like social media. The Internet and the proliferation of inexpensive clothing have made shopping a form of cheap, endlessly available entertainment—one where the point isn’t what you buy so much as it’s the act of shopping itself.”

On the Fox 9 Buzz, I talked about design features that can make high heels more comfortable.

Lizzy offers some wedding guest outfit ideas for women who use wheelchairs.

In this video, four brilliant young women smash through social expectations and stereotypes, especially as they pertain to Halloween costumes and dressing norms. Contains swears. Also contains the hilarious question, “Is the Tooth Fairy a stripper?”

In my Star Tribune column, I wrote about “normcore,” balancing oversized garments, and choosing a leather jacket.

Jeniese, I’m going to need you to lend me those phenomenal velvet burnout peeptoe booties, OK?

Speaking of shoes, here’s a roundup of dress flats with support for those of you in need of comfier work-appropriate footwear.

Responding to this article, Belle muses on why J.Crew is faltering and how it can recover.

Lela Rose’s designs for Lane Bryant look bold, bright, and covetable.

“But here’s the thing: the me at age 32, subjecting morning commuters to my daily progress through the streets with my oily face, rogue hair, and pajamas has a whole lot more self-respect than did the me at age 22, with my full face of makeup and body-con outfit. My self-respect no longer hinges on how I look to others. Today, my self-respect means valuing my health, showing care for my body, and prioritizing my needs above the opinions of passersby.”

Great tips for what to do with your wardrobe cast-offs, including a helpful reminder about how items that no longer work for you can be utterly perfect for others.

My Steve Madden ankle boots are starting to look pretty worn and the Winola style is nearly sold out. This style features the zipper/tassel in back and is equally fun.

For those of you who ALSO have the “Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt” theme song in your head EVERY DAY, a lovely art print.

Here are two opposing views on perfectly lit, perfectly curated online lives: The Minimalist Pixie Dream Girl: Who She Is And Why I Hate Her and Your Minimalist Pixie Dream Girl Does Not Exist.

Over at Rewire, I wrote about the shifting fashions of the early 20th century as they appear in “Mr. Selfridge.”

Grown and Curvy Woman’s roundup of her favorite winter outfits is a great reminder that she has bold, varied, and impeccable style.

Colorism is the reason that European beauty standards are reinforced within communities of color. When these biases are internalized, they can show up as a fear of ‘looking black,’ and trying to look as ‘racially ambiguous,’ or as not-black as possible.”

How to find out if your body is beautiful

You can see an outtake of last week’s outfit featuring the Comfy tunic from LISSA over on her blog.

I know AP contributor Cassie is a fan, but having recently re-watched all of “The X-Files,” I tend to agree that Scully’s style left something to be desired. But although I attributed it to 90s-era fashion, this article points out that Scully may have worn crew-neck tees and oversized suits because – due to a job that involved lots of terrifying government conspiracies, hoaxes, and supernatural phenomena – fashion was the last thing on her mind.

Stripes and distressed white jeans. YES.

I answered community questions from women living with breast cancer on the CureDiva blog.

Soon Marc by Marc Jacobs will be no more.

Cynthia of Cultivated Dreams makes stunning jewelry. Already ordered a necklace, and now drooling over this one, too.

“Although every woman is subjected to these same stupid standards of impossibly skinny waists, busty boobs, and twig-type arms, in Asian American culture, losing weight and being skinny is tantamount to getting good grades. First-generation Asian parents are just as proud of us when we graduate from a top university as when we shed serious pounds.” (Via Thick Dumpling Skin)

Sociological Images compares a recent Refinery 29 post featuring women proudly displaying what is generally considered to be “more” body hair than fits within the current beauty standard, and Kim Kardashian’s body-hair-free nude photoshoot for Paper. How did each handle The Gaze? 

British cartoonist Gemma Correll introduces us to several new body types, including broken slinky, turkey leg, and badly drawn dolphin. Also “trends men hate,” including cubist makeup and dresses made of bees. I think I’m in love with her.

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