Reader Allison e-mailed me this question:
I am a 37 year old petite woman who loves clothing and style and am quite healthy and in excellent shape. I have enjoyed reading your blog because you seem to be able to address style issues for a variety of body types. I was diagnosed with breast cancer at the beginning of the month and will soon be undergoing single mastectomy with reconstruction. There will be a period of time for several months where I will have an asymmetric bust while the plastic surgeon is working on increasing the size of the tissue expander that will ultimately be exchanged for an implant that matches the healthy side.
Originally posted 2014-01-20 06:03:21.
Talking about bodies, and self-image, and how we feel about how we look is EXTREMELY important. Learning to love ourselves is a lot harder when we just let those insidious internal monologues run rampant. So we bounce our ideas and emotions off of trusted friends and admired mentors, and we gain strength and wisdom through their caring input. We do this instinctively, and our instincts serve us well.
Yet sometimes these body image discussions can backfire.
Originally posted 2009-09-28 05:49:00.
Lately, I’ve been pondering coolness. Noting how outfits that are unbearably chic on women in magazines look like misguided games of dress-up on me. Acknowledging that certain of my blogging peers can don outlandish clothing, shoes, and accessories and make them appear artfully amazing. Seeing how some garments that exude coolness on their own suddenly become awkward and strange when worn by a person with a less-than-cool personality. Such a strange and elusive beastie, this coolness.
Originally posted 2011-06-22 06:32:38.