Reader Christine sent me this question via e-mail, and although it’s not strictly style or body-image related, it hit so close to home for me, I felt I should share our correspondence:
What if someone feels bad about him/herself, not because of body/appearance insecurities, but rather accomplishment/intellectuality insecurities? What would you suggest to help that person back on a path to self love? For example, the university student who can’t forgive herself for her terrible GPA, and since she valued herself based on her intellectuality, now feels as though she has no worth? Or the career woman who has worked incredibly hard to get to where she is and was passed up for that promotion (or worse, demoted) and now feels as though she has no value?
Originally posted 2011-09-19 06:10:13.
All compliments are good. OK, the backhanded ones suck, but I trust you’re not running around dishing those out. My impression is that the majority of compliments given and received in this world are earnest and well-intentioned, and I think of them as tiny, self-generated miracles. Never underestimate the transformative power of a compliment, my friends. Just about every time you tell another human being, “Hey! I like you, and I like what you’re doing,” you’re changing that person’s life for the better, even if they don’t yet realize it. Every time you muster up the courage to praise another person, you’re doing the world a service by bolstering that person’s confidence and self-esteem.
Originally posted 2011-07-18 06:18:49.
Body blues can hit for a thousand different reasons. Many of those reasons are big and heavy and far-reaching and nothing that can be “fixed” by a simple behavioral change or shift in consciousness. Body blues vary in depth and breadth, and I’ve no intention of minimizing the challenges posed by that constant, low-level drone of self-loathing that can settle into your life and linger for ages.
But some body blues are more fleeting. Sometimes you’ve felt good for a nice, long stretch then get hit by a surprising setback. Sometimes you can feel leaden and discouraged, but sense that a shift toward positivity is within reach. Sometimes you know that taking action will help. Maybe just a little. So here are some suggestions for activities and ideas that might help you beat the body blues.
Originally posted 2012-10-11 06:37:27.