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Lace Palazzo Pants

Junarose top, Bershka statement necklace, Aliexpress sunglasses, Asos Curve Lace Palazzo pants, Michael Kors Selma bagJunarose top, Bershka statement necklace, Aliexpress sunglasses

Top- Junarose (similar)

Necklace- Bershka (old, similar here and here)

Sunglasses- AliExpress

Pants- Asos Curve

Bag- Michael Kors

This outfit was all about staying cool during an extremely humid day and palazzo pants are turning out to be a nice option instead of the usual shorts+ top combination I reach for. I thought these lace pants were a nice combination of shorts and palazzo pants :)

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What’s in a Label?

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I have labeled myself with many different things over time.  I started with transvestite, moved on to cross dresser, adopted gender non-conforming, and now am using transgender.  It almost gives the impression that I have moved through some sort of stages of being transgender, on what some may reference as a transgender journey; like, yay, I get to go on vacation now that I am TG!

Really, my journey has not been in moving along some sort of destined path to womanhood.  What it has been is a struggle of attempting to figure out who I am, how to live with it, and how to describe it.  For my entire life I have behaved in ways that have not been consistent with my gender but I have never had the knowledge, the vocabulary, or the confidence to talk about it.

I actually never really thought about it that much.  I knew I liked to do it.  My wife knew about it, and was totally fine with it.  Really I had no purpose in being able to explain to anyone who I am and what I do.  I had learned to not let others know about this horrific secret of mine.  I lacked any sort of confidence whatsoever.  This lack of confidence and misplaced fear prevented me from being able to understand myself, and from being able to see others for who they have the potential to be.

Thus it was quite shocking to watch Eddie Izzard performing his show “Dressed to Kill” on HBO.  Here was a normal looking person, out in public, dressing as a woman and not hiding the fact that he is a man.  Nobody was chasing him down with torches and pitchforks screaming “kill the monster!”  I was enamored.  He refers to himself as an executive transvestite and I thought it was a great fit to explain what I do.  When I first started reaching out to the online community that is how I identified, and I really tried to stick with it.  Unfortunately, while I identify with Izzard’s use of executive transvestite, that is not really the picture that comes up in most other’s people’s minds.  What most people do imagine is well exemplified by most of them images returned from a Google search.

I thought that maybe a better word, a more politically correct term, and maybe a better socially understood term would be cross dresser.  At least it sounds so much less clinical.  What am I?  I am a cross dresser!  It sounds like I’m having a party.  Something fun and exciting, so of course, why not do it?

Unfortunately for me cross dresser cannot fully explain what I do and who I am.  For in my journey of self discovery, my cross dressing is secondary to my gender non-conforming behavior.  That is really who I have been, ever since birth.  I have never wanted to transition to living as a woman, and I still don’t, I enjoy cross dressing, but at heart I am a gender non-conformist.  With cross dressing, I attempt to present as a woman. With gender non-conforming, I present as a male, but with traditionally female things, like having my fingernails painted or wearing my diamond and sapphire wedding ring.

Which all leads up to why I identify as transgender today.  I mean, can you imagine attempting to explain the above with everyone I speak to about this?  It has been a journey in discovering some adequate vocabulary to describe me, but really the only thing that has really changed is the word I use to attempt to explain who I have always been.  Transgender seems to explain it well.  I personally consider my gender to be somewhere between male and female.  I have no interest in transitioning, I figure if I did it would be a waste of time as then I would cross dress as a man!

For the most part, transgender works very well to describe me.  Most people seem to understand it well.  If there was one thing though that I wish, would be for the public to understand that transgender is truly an umbrella term that covers a wide variety of people.  If you really want to know how someone else identifies, the best way to proceed is to ask.  But try and not be like the doctor who asked if my “bits” were still intact and functional!  When I told him yes, he looked to my wife for verification!

Image from: The Gender Book

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Hi, I’m Nadine Spirit and I have been a lifelong gender non-conformer. I have always understood that I am a bit different than most but it was not until sometime in my thirties that I came to understand that I am transgender. While I spend most of my time presenting as a male I am always presenting in a gender non-conforming manner. 

I started my blog, Unordinary Style, with the idea of being able to show a stylish side to those who identify as transgender. Since that time my blog has evolved into showing my personal style, discussing a wide variety of transgender topics, as well as posts about my personal life. My personal style continues to evolve as I attempt to continually push myself to pick stuff off of the racks, take it into the dressing room, and try on as much as I can. I am a firm believer in ignoring tag sizes, never paying retail prices, and due to a terrific allergy – that nickel should never be in any jewelry!

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A League Of Their Own

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Do you have clothing in your wardrobe that are your favorite go-to’s, especially when you’re in a crunch? You can always trust that these items will serve you well, regardless of where you’re going. They don’t require intensive thought and or styling, and they look good on you with minimal effort.
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My vintage dresses are my definite go-to’s! Inevitably and consistently –> They serve me well :)

Based on my current vintage inventory, I would have to say that the fit models used then were definitely shaped and sized quite similar to my body- more so then the ones used now.

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The quality, can we discuss the quality?! Simply put: UNMATCHED! What can be purchased today for a reasonable price that will still be intact forty years from now (which would be 2055 BTW), with minimal signs of wear and tear?

Yes, no matter where I’m off too, be it business or pleasure, I can easily snap up and in one of my vintage dresses and hit the door prepped for success. Below are some of the vintage dresses that I’ve blogged in the past, which one is your favorite?

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Today’s number was purchased during a 15 min stop at a local Goodwill. I love the colors and the stripe pattern. It also has discreet gathers on the shoulders and a subtle trim on the neckline and sleeves. To complete my vintage vixen mantra, I added in vintage clip-on earrings, a necklace, and bracelet.

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Please do share, what are your favorite go-to pieces?

Sunnies: Forever 21| Earrings, Necklace, Bracelet, and Dress: Vintage, thrifted| Belt: Ralph Lauren Booties: Levity (worn here)| Handbag: Coach

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I’m Joi and I blog my personal style via In My Joi. I’ve always enjoyed dressing up, yet notably, my personal style took on new dimensions when I hit my 30’s. You’ll find me saturated in bright colors, draped in vintage, and topped in hats. Occasionally I venture off to black and white combinations or take a playful dabble in mixed prints. It has been said that style is a way to express who you are, without having to speak. I wholeheartedly concur. Each day of life offers up a blank canvas, a fresh opportunity to use style to express different dimensions of my authentic self. Join my style adventures via Instagram, Tumblr, or Facebook!

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