Closet orphans can come from many sources, but many of them are purchased for our imaginary selves. These versions of ourselves can wear four-inch heels without tripping, can make use of a gorgeous down coat even though it never gets below 50 degrees, and can safely wear shoulder-duster earrings without risking having them tugged out by a wee one. We see things that we adore in theory, and buy them before admitting that they’re never gonna work in practice. It’s a behavior that can be eradicated if carefully monitored, but even those of us who are mindful occasionally slip up. (Says the woman who lives in a city with six months of brutal winter yet still can’t resist mid-weight jackets. Which get about 47 seconds of wear PER YEAR, if I’m being honest.)
Do you shop for your imaginary self? What do you buy for her? Are the things you wish you could wear for seasons or occasions you just never experience? Or are they due to a lifestyle shift? How does your imaginary self dress?
One of the questions I always ask my clients is, “Do you have any style icons? If so, who are they?” I would say that about 50% can reel off a few icons instantly. The other 50% have none. And that latter half are often incredibly surprised to realize that they have none.
I think fashion magazines have trained us to believe that identifying personal style icons is essential to crafting personal style, but that’s not really the case. Depending on how you’re wired, you may be able to draw inspiration from a billion sources and process it into a cohesive style. But it can be helpful to note which women dress in ways that you consistently admire, especially if you ask yourself why you admire their style. Identifying the icon without teasing out the why isn’t nearly as helpful, in my experience. So:
Do you have any personal style icons, famous or otherwise? If so, who are they? And WHY do you admire their style? If not, do you think identifying one might be helpful to you?
I still maintain that I’m a total amateur when it comes to makeup, but I sure as hell use more of the stuff than I used to! And my routine has quite a few steps more than you’d expect considering how un-made-up I look when it’s done. I still refuse to do daily eye makeup and don’t generally do anything beyond tinted lip balm unless I’m going somewhere for a meeting, but I have really come to feel odd and naked without a bit of blush. If I had to choose, I’d go for the cheeks every time.
How about you? If you are a regular makeup wearer and you could only apply makeup to your eyes, lips, OR cheeks, which would you choose and why?