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Already Prettypoll: Style Compliments

Over the seven years that I’ve been writing about style and body image in this space, I’ve brought up the subject of compliments dozens of times. Since I believe that caring about your appearance is a valuable part of general self-care – and that you have a brain AND a body, and shouldn’t ignore one and favor the other – I enjoy both giving out and receiving compliments about my personal style. Words of praise from strangers and friends have bolstered my confidence at times, and I try to pay that forward.

But I have found style- and appearance-related compliments to be a surprisingly contentious topic here. Although many enjoy both giving and receiving compliments, others feel that any comments on appearance are invasive or unwelcome. Some would prefer to be praised for accomplishments or strengths over biology or taste. A few are unnerved by compliments like, “You look lovely today” because the underlying message may be that today is the exception not the rule. Others have had traumatic experiences with catcalling and street harassment and just prefer to avoid any interaction that centers on discussions of appearance. And many more have offered nuanced and personal reasons and preferences surrounding praising style and appearance.

Every so often, I feel the need to revive this conversation and probe a bit deeper. So: How do you feel about being complimented on your style or appearance by peers, friends, or friendly strangers? Do you offer compliments to others? If you enjoy these interactions, why do you find them pleasant or valuable? If you avoid or dislike them, what upsets or unnerves you?

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Already Prettypoll: Your Neutral

I once challenged myself to spend an entire summer creating outfits that didn’t include black. And it was interesting and challenging at times. But ya know what I’ve realized since then? I LOVE BLACK. I prefer it in neutral mixes or with the occasional cool bright color so I definitely don’t wear it with any- and everything. But, like many people, I adore the mystery, toughness, elegance, and versatility of black. If I could only wear one neutral color for the rest of my days, it would be black. (Cognac brown would be second, but it’s so specific to accessories that it’s a pretty distant second.)

I’m betting that most of you will vote Team Black, too, but let’s hear from everyone: What’s your preferred neutral? Why? Do you own both clothing and accessories in this color? Does it dominate your wardrobe, or just accent it?

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Already Prettypoll: Your Ultimate Shoe Style

Every Tuesday over on Facebook, we play around with a style choice question: Things like, “Would you rather have the only neutral in your closet be leopard print, or have the only neutral in your closet be black and white stripes?” And, “Would you rather wear tights to the gym or shapewear to sleep?” Today’s poll isn’t a choice, but I feel like it might still cause the same levels of imaginary anxiety!

If you could only wear one shoe style for the rest of your life, what would it be?

See what I mean? In my case, it would HAVE to be boots. I cannot imagine my style and life without them. But oh, the torture of 95-degree, fog-your-glasses-humid Minnesota summer days in boots! What’s your choice?

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