Most messages that pertain to beauty describe a fixed point. Beautiful is a goal, a set of characteristics that must be held up and striven for, a way of being that is reserved for a select few. Beautiful is something that can be achieved with ferocious dedication to exercise, generous investment in cosmetics, and meticulous attention to grooming. Beautiful is precious, difficult, and extremely narrow. In these messages, beauty is distant, foreign, tantalizing, and other. It is a destination at which we may never arrive, but which we must always be scrambling toward.
Originally posted 2013-01-25 06:23:45.
Most people are unhappy. Have you noticed that? I’m beginning to believe that it’s just part of the human condition to feel constantly restless, dissatisfied, and envious of others. We hang so much of our self-worth on comparisons: How do we measure up to other people in our income tax brackets? Neighborhoods? Social circles? And, when we’re feeling particularly vulnerable, how do we compare to the fabulously wealthy, tremendously successful, and impossibly beautiful? And that paradigm sets us all up to feel slighted and dumped-upon and unlucky.
Originally posted 2014-10-06 06:40:23.
Cee popped this question into the suggestion box:
It would be wonderful if you could address issues about dressing “unusual” combinations. For example, broad shoulders and a small bust, or a larger tummy and a flat bottom. I think often styling advice is based on the presumption that if you have one feature, it will be paired with another. Of course, we all know we carry our breadth, length and weight in lots of different ways.
My guess is that women with “unusual” proportional combinations become acutely aware of them while shopping. While casual observers may anticipate that the majority of bodies will express some form of balance that falls within the statistical norms, I don’t think it’s carefully monitored. For instance, I’ve never looked at a woman and thought, “Gosh, she’s got a small bust for such broad shoulders.” But when the woman in possession of those traits goes to try on clothes, she may find that manufacturers expect her to fill out certain clothing based on how big or small she is elsewhere.
Originally posted 2012-12-17 06:42:04.