I believe that there are three levels to becoming a stylish woman:
- Learning to love and accept your body, just as it is
- Learning to dress your body in a way that aligns with your personal figure flattery priorities
- Learning to dress your body in a way that expresses your creativity and tastes
Accessing that third level through expressive dressing can help foster self-love and self-respect while simultaneously providing a fun and rewarding creative outlet. But tackling the first two is what makes that third one truly possible. Many of us try to skip to expressing our creativity through personal style, but in my experience, doing so before making serious strides toward self love AND sussing out how you want your style and body to interact often leads to frustration, confusion, and backtracking.
Originally posted 2011-01-20 06:23:27.
Reader Gabrielle popped this one into the suggestion box:
I know you have offered up a few tips here and there about getting the most wear out of clothing before washing. Could you do a post devoted to these tricks? I remember one with DIY armpit protectors in a coat, and I just can’t seem to find it again.
You can see some of my other tips for wardrobe care here and here (although I’ve since reneged on the Woolite endorsement), but I’m happy to share a few more … with this important caveat:
Originally posted 2011-05-23 06:15:29.
Beautiful Beckydropped me this note:
Although I’m in my 30s, I recently made some major life changes: I moved cross-country, took a new job teaching a different age group, and am renting my first house. I made the move back to my native Midwest, and so far, it’s been a WONDERFUL change … but even good change, I think, can be very disorienting. This disorientation is showing up in my clothes.
Old standby outfits that used to make me feel fabulous now often feel wrong. My hair and my makeup no longer seem to fit my new routines. Most of my shoes are sandals … now I’m facing boots and sweaters and long underwear for the first time in forever, and I feel so lost!
Originally posted 2009-09-25 06:02:00.