Long pendant necklace- Forever 21
Rings- h & m, Eye ring- Miss Chatz (similar)
Beetle bracelet – Topshop (old)
Bangles- Forever 21
Gladiator sandals- New Look
Bag- Michael Kors
You’re looking at someone who has accomplished a major milestone in her journey of body positivity. Although it seems trivial to some, there are lots of plus size women who are insecure about showing their upper arms and I used to be one of them. It’s something I’ve tried to overcome for a while but I just couldn’t get myself to walk out the door without a cover up. It’s an insecurity I’ve had ever since I was a kid, and it’s been a source of frustration for me recently. There are so many plus size bloggers and women around me who rock sleeveless or strapless clothing, and look amazing. I wanted to be as inspirational as them. I didn’t want to be older and still hiding behind a cardigan or blazer, I was fed up of the control it had over me because it basically meant that I was letting other people’s opinions decide how I should dress.
To sum it up, it was the fear of letting myself be vulnerable that was holding me back. I might be a strong woman but what if it just took one rude comment to knock me down into a pile of negativity? I’m very protective of all the hard work I’ve put in to overcome my body issues.
So here’s how I did it – I’ve been building myself up for it for a while but instead of letting myself over think it as usual, I just walked out the door in a sleeveless dress. You know what’s the funny part? Nobody around me cared. Nobody stared at me or commented on my fat arms, it was no big deal. I’ve also had to deal with the fact that I personally felt like my fat arms were ugly and made me look bigger, but I keep forcing myself to wear something sleeveless everyday and instead of trying to ignore how big my arms are, I acknowledge that they are big and it’s OK. I remind myself to appreciate their functional value rather than dwell on their size.
It’s been working well so far, I’m really enjoying this feeling of accomplishment and I love how empowered I feel because I know I’m not only defying the fashion “rules” but I’m also breaking my own. The fresh new perspective on my existing wardrobe is an added bonus too, every sleeveless dress I own feels new!
**Disclosure: Actions you take from the hyperlinks within this blog post may yield commissions for IamWeesha.com.