How to Be Beautiful

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You do not have to be tall to be beautiful.
You do not have to be thin or long-limbed.
You do not have to have long, straight, shiny hair.
You do not have to be an hourglass or a string bean or a pear.
You do not have to be blemish-free, without freckles, scars, or tattoos.
You do not have to have pale skin or dark skin or young skin or hairless skin.
You do not have to fit or demolish certain physical paradigms.

You do not have to be buxom to be beautiful.
You do not have to possess va-va-voom curves or full lips.
You do not have to resemble a movie star, or a lingerie model, or a porn star.
You do not have to sexualize your exterior to be beautiful.
You do not have to neuter your exterior to be beautiful.

You do not have to wear makeup to be beautiful.
You do not have to wear skirts and heels.
You do not have to cover your grays or disguise your cellulite.
You do not have to shun or accept practices of dressing or personal presentation.

Those who quantify beauty as genetic makeup, symmetry, mathematical ratios are, to me, as wrong as those who accept beauty as a set of societally-imposed ideals and standards. To rank beauty, classify it, assign it biological markers and geometric requirements is to say to some people, “No, you cannot have this. It is not for you.” And although many will disagree with me, I believe that beauty is a feeling, a freedom, a pulse from within that says, “I am worthy, lovely, strong.” And I believe every single human being has a right to feel it.

Beauty is not definite, it is relative.
Beauty is not exclusive, it is infinite.
Beauty is not for others, it is for you.

And to be beautiful, all you have to be is you, you, you.

 

Image courtesy symmetry_mind // This is an archived post that I wanted to refresh and revive for any new readers.

  • Shawna McComber

    This is fantastic and I’m glad you re-posted it. While there is undeniably a certain kind of beauty found in amazing bone structure or apparent flawlessness, it is not the only kind of beauty and not everyone will agree on who or what is beautiful, thus we have that useful phrase about it being in the eye of the beholder. More than anything, to me, beauty in a person is something that shines through from within and I’m not just saying that.

  • Barbara West

    Lovely post. Reminds me of Maya Angelou’s “Phenomenal Woman,” which begins:

    Phenomenal Woman

    By Maya Angelou

    Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.

    I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size

    But when I start to tell them…

  • http://inthewriterscloset.blogspot.com/ Natalia Lialina

    Yes! Brilliant, from the depth, beautiful, poetic, true wisdom. We are all beautiful and all genius, we just don’t always know about it. With love xxxx