Lovely Links: 2/28/14

Chicagoans! Would love to see you at my scarf styling workshop! I’ve got 30 ties to teach so far, and am adding new ones each week – rectangles, squares, infinities, and more.

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It is National Eating Disorder Awareness Week this week. Among many moving pieces, is this one: “Looking back now I can’t pinpoint where or how it started. I’ve always been average in terms of weight and height. I didn’t have a traumatic childhood that left me wounded. I was a completely normal girl. That’s what makes eating disorders so uniquely terrifying. Anyone can suffer from them. The purpose of this piece is raise awareness on an issue that affects more women you could even begin to understand. To shed a light on something that so many women silently endure and something so many people don’t take seriously.”

And this resonated with me, as someone who wants to help and cares passionately, but has no direct experience with eating disorders: “I see women dealing with complex, damaging, negative relationships with food and their weight all the time. I have written so much about body image and weight and beauty, and I still don’t know what to say.”

This piece on eating disorder myths is well worth reading, too.

There are still a few NEDA events today and tomorrow, if you’re interested in attending and discussing.

Une Femme explains why clothing, shoe, and accessory comfort has become non-negotiable for her.

My experiences with shoe stretchers hasn’t been terribly positive, but this shoe and boot stretcher looks promising. And Erin says it works for her!

Mixing a camo jacket with a button-front shirt and heels makes for a wonderful juxtaposition. Also love Laura’s dark blue camo pants – what a fun take on this print.

Since we just did a sale picks post on tulle skirts, this roundup of tips for styling your tulle skirt might be helpful. Guidelines, not rules, but good ones to consider!

Swooning over Gabi’s slouchy raspberry jersey pants. And shoes. And jacket. OK, just everything.

Buzzfeed delivers the ultimate fashion quiz. EXCELLENT advice at the end. (With swears. Cheers to Corporette for the tip!)

Examining archetypes and stereotypes as well as strides and frustrations, this post asks how do 50+ women become more visible?

E is a total knockout in this colorblocked, sculptural dress. Seriously, so gorgeous.

The Curvy Fashionista explores the rise of contemporary plus sized fashion, and explains what this segment actually is and what it means to consumers.

At TPT Rewire I wrote about color choices for the three sisters at Downton Abbey and how they reflect the characters’ inner lives.

Clare’s sleek, sophisticated outfit is making me rethink my trepidation over below-the-knee pencil skirts. Wowza.

Related: This post offers a fascinating side-by-side comparison of two Breton tops and midi skirts, examining fit differences.

Kristin explains how participating in clothing swaps is helping improve her body image. (My thoughts on the topic here.)

This asymmetric hem ASOS Curve dress is a stunner.

“A holistic assessment of media needs to include these things to provide a truly comprehensive view of whether media fights or contributes to harmful social attitudes; what good does a woman-centred film do if it’s racist, for example? What if a film doesn’t pass the Bechdel Test but isn’t specifically sexist, and does offer great commentary on disability and social perceptions of disabled people?” (Via Geek Feminism)

Do you know the difference between tints, tones, and shades? (I’ll admit that I’ve been using these terms incorrectly myself!)

Cardigan as makeshift bustier? Brilliant. (Via Red Reiding Hood)

On the Fox 9 Morning Buzz we chatted about making Mary Janes work in modern ways.

Although I’ll admit to tuning out most Oscar fashion coverage, I found this infographic showing every dress ever worn by a Best Actress winner to be fascinating.

Peter wonders if knockoffs are less harmful if you make them yourself at home from scratch. And just for yourself.

This might just be my favorite crop top outfit ever, what with the stripes, florals, moto jacket, and full skirt.

“So many of us strive to achieve one beauty ideal when people don’t perceive things in the same way. Everything is so subjective. It is impossible to please all people with just one aesthetic or sensibility so we should not try to make ourselves over into someone else’s version of ideal.”

Telling someone that she looks better without makeup isn’t always the welcome compliment you might think.

Check out this great take on high-contrast black and white: A flirty lace dress over black opaques.

Also totally love this sexy striped sheath paired with a black leather moto.

“Me: ‘So now you’ve seen some of my fat, you guys. Do you like me less? Do you think I’m not a good mom?’ (They shook their heads, still giggling.) Me: ‘Whew! Because my body feels healthy and good, and that’s what matters to me.'”

The Museum at FIT recently presented A Queer History of Fashion: From the Closet to the Catwalk. The pioneering exhibition explored the contributions and influence that the lesbian-gay-bisexual–transgender community has had on fashion history.

Giant piles of yes to this marvelously matchy yellow ensemble. Love ya, Lisa.

This fishtail updo is absolutely stunning.

Are you feeling as dry and staticky as I am? Peek at these 10 DIY beauty recipes to heal winter skin and hair for some cold-weather first aid.

Here’s a fascinating way to define and hone your ideas about your personal style: See if you can identify five fully styled looks that you’d wear, just as they are, head to toe.

And from the Department of Random: I think this dog is part cat.

From the Breaking News sub-department: Doctors Diagnose 100% of Americans With Seasonal Affective Disorder

Additionally: Buttermilk, you jerk.

  • http://www.amidprivilege.com Lisa

    Thanks Sal! And Imogen’s post on shades and tones rocked my world!

  • http://fashionforgiants.blogspot.com Gracey the Giant

    The side-by-side midi-skirt and striped top comparison post is amazing. Thank you so much for sharing!

  • http://lostinaspotlessmind.com Maria

    Thank you for linking to my blog post, Sally, I’m so happy you liked it!

  • http://notdeadyetstyle.blogspot.com/ Patti @ NotDeadYet Style

    Clare’s knee-length pencil skirt, in red plaid, is stunning. Thanks for all the good reads. xox

  • VA Marcy

    Sally, you are just awesome on TV! So glad you can repost the segments from Fox 9–very informative, and you appear comfortable with being on camera–professional, but a real person with wonderful insights!

  • http://malepatternboldness.blogspot.com/ Peter

    Thanks for the link, Sal. Love the new look of the site!

  • LIz

    And Buttermilk the Kid was a laugh riot.
    Wish I had that kind of energy.

  • http://respecttheshoes.blogspot.com Lisa – respect the shoes

    Thanks for the link love! And thanks for sharing so many other lovely links to check out!

  • http://sceneinthepast.blogspot.com Ginger

    I have to admit I’m totally puzzled by the question on the ethics of “knocking off” a style for personal use. There’s a lot of discussion there, most citing both legal and historical justification for it. IMHO, if one WERE to take the stance that it is unethical to copy any style, then one would not be allow to make anything unless it is wholly new. There’s simply no place to draw the line between “copy” and “inspiration.” That ethical conviction would extend far beyond fashion, too. It applies to every creative endeavor: art (visual and performing), music, decorating, architecture, writing (poetry and fiction at the very least), even cooking. The legalities surrounding copyright and trademark draw the line that allows creativity to function.

  • http://thoroughly-me.blogspot.com/ thoroughlyME

    Oh for goodness’ sake, you have Mary’s costuming in DA season 4 all wrong. Her wearing black longer than the other family members and then switching to purple has nothing to do with her emotional state or with Sybil.

    For the upper classes, mourning became very ritualized after the Victorian era, prescribed in length based on one’s relationship to the deceased. Mary wore black the longest because she was Matthew’s widow, and then she started wearing purple, lavender, etc. when she entered half-mourning. If you’d paid any attention, you’d have noticed that Cora and Violet also wore lots of purple last season, but they transitioned into and then out of half-mourning earlier than Mary.

  • Kristin C. Mathews

    Sally, thanks so much for the mention! I’m a little slow on the blog uptake and just noticed this. Happy weekend, I so enjoy reading your posts :)