Lovely Links: 9/13/13

I will be appearing on the Fox 9 Morning Show at 9:30 a.m. every Wednesday this month in a new segment called Trendy or Timeless! You can view the first segment in the series right here.

It’s almost Giant Steps time again! Join us for an amazing day of discussion about creativity and business.

I’ll be participating in the Galleria’s Flights of Fashion event on September 20! Swing by the shops listed to sign up for a FREE 15-minute figure and style consultation with me.

Registration is open for community ed classes! My Dressing Your Best class will take place on November 4 in Cottage Grove and November 13 in Champlin.

My book is now on sale at Bachman’s gift shops! And, as always, you can pick up a copy at I Like YouCommon Good Books, and Subtext: A Bookstore as well as online.

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Let us take a moment to appreciate the genius that is Janelle:

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I saw Autostraddle on a “best of” list somewhere, and am totally sold. Mission says, “Autostraddle is an intelligent, hilarious & provocative voice and a progressively feminist online community for a new generation of kickass lesbian, bisexual & otherwise inclined ladies (and their friends).” Includes almost daily outfits from their “Straddler on the Street” column!

Ground has been broken: Cabiria is the first plus-sized line to be shown during the official New York Fashion Week. YES! And the garments are so, so, SO gorgeous.

And the funniest thing I’ve seen all week: Jimmy Kimmel’s Lie Witness News interviews folks in front of Lincoln Center about NYFW designers and garments that don’t exist. And they totally pretend to know what they’re talking about. I’m a huge fan of Willy Loman’s designs myself …

Oh so in love with this kiss print blouse.

And speaking of kisses, this amusing infographic offers advice on how to approach the berry-stained lip trend, with product recommendations at the end.

“So, blonde success, fact or myth? The answer is both. Media mythologizes ‘the blonde’ and we develop blonde ambition. Relative success possibly unfolds. Simultaneously, false assumptions regarding character, intelligence, value, beauty, and complex layering get fossilized and misappropriated in the grander scheme of things.”

Boyfriend jeans come in many styles, and Allie shows how to wear them in many ways and at any age.

Since we’ve talked recently about permission, I was especially moved by this piece which offers permission to love and accept your body, just as it is, right this minute.

Anyone else watching Orange is the New Black? This post highlights why the show is groundbreaking and encouraging, and also where is is lacking. (I’m plowing through the series myself and mostly enjoying it.)

How does yoga help you accept your body? Anna explains.

Beyond thrilled to see local legend and powerhouse feminist Dessa featured over at Bitchtopia.

“I’ve started politely correcting people who compliment my weight loss, who counter my explanations of stress with the dubious silver lining of becoming slimmer, more conventionally attractive. I am the reverse of the accepted paradigm: when I lose weight, it is a wasting process. It signifies that stress has destroyed my appetite and study has overrun the need for exercise and sleep. It means the things I take pleasure in have been set aside in a desperate sprint for a ticker tape, marking the end of only one more section of this monotonous grueling trek.”

I adore both this leopard print frock AND its friend, the neon orange satchel.

As we move toward layering season, this post on how to find complementary neckline shapes will be incredibly helpful.

Have you checked out My Hair in the Morning lately? (Still accepting submissions!)

Nothing wrong with sneaking a little mint green and light peach into your September outfits.

“Yes, certain styles are better designed for some bodies than others, but what if our bodies and style personalities seem to be in conflict?”

Handing out compliments may feel tricky at times, but my girl Alex’s book 50 Ways to Say You’re Awesome has great tips, many of which have nothing to do with style or physique.

“My imperfect body, which has caused me such remarkable emotional pain over the years, is my daughter’s adequate and beloved home base. It has been a beautiful body for her and for my husband and now it is time for me to love this home privately, quietly, honestly and without hesitation.”

Gracey’s double dose of stripes is just plain fabulous. As is the fact that she titled her post “Sexy Beetlejuice.”

If choosing new outfits every day makes you break out in hives, consider creating a personal uniform. This article offers great tips that include starting with the pieces you love to wear the most. SMART. (Via Not Dead Yet Style.)

I contributed to a new Yes and Yes free eBook on how to be your own style icon, which you can download here.

This post examines some of the most common messages seen in fitspiration, and explains in great detail (and with many, many swears) why they’re bunk. Also totally love the inspiration post, written by a massage therapist who talks about what bodies really look like. And he KNOWS.

Yen rocks a red beret, metallic oxfords, and polka dot jeans. Amazing.

In other Girls I Adore Wearing Hats news, Cheryl looks radiant in her burgundy fedora.

Now THAT is a phenomenal stacked heel.

“Philosopher Sandra Lee Bartky once observed that being feminine often means using one’s body to portray powerlessness. Consider: A feminine person keeps her body small and contained; she makes sure that it doesn’t take up to much space or impose itself. She walks and sits in tightly packaged ways. She doesn’t cover the breadth of the sidewalk or expand herself beyond the chair she occupies.”

The upcoming  documentary “Fabulous Fashionistas” stars six inspirational women whose average age is 80.

And from the Department of Random: 11 words that refuse to be translated into English.

Additionally: Not today, thieves.

  • Patty

    YES! I have been obsessively listening to Janelle M’s new album for the past 3 days!!

  • http://notdeadyetstyle.blogspot.com/ Patti @ NotDeadYet Style

    Thanks for the mention, Sal, and for the great reads. I love Allie’s post of boyfriend jeans, one of my favorite looks. xo

    • http://www.wardrobeoxygen.com Alison

      Aww thanks Patti! And thank you Sal for including me, I am always honored when I am part of your Lovely Links! <3

  • Marsha

    This week’s Lovely Links were especially good. Thanks for rounding these up.

  • Anne

    Love, love, love the funny morning hair. I usually look ay myself in the morning and say, “Yikes! You look terrible!” I am going to take your cue and enjoy a good laugh. Thanks for reminding me to love myself and the funny things my hair does while I am asleep!

  • Annabeth

    While I agree that a lot of “fitspiration” stuff is OTT, I take pretty strong exception to equating it *all* with pro-ana mindfuckery. (Excuse my language, but I have no idea what else to call pro-ana.) Yes, it’s ridiculous to encourage people to work out until they puke, It is by no means ridiculous to tell people that vigorous exercise may involve pain. (The important element here is that there is a difference between “ahhh I’m working really hard really hard” muscle pain and “oh crap this is leading to injury” pain. With the latter, you immediately stop. The former just means you’re testing your limits, and hopefully redefining them.)

    Saying that all encouragement for exercise is the same as pro-ana stuff is both offensive and self-defeating. I hate, hate, hate the idea that body acceptance cannot include a commitment to health and strength. I loathe the idea that strength is about conformity (for women? LIKE HELL IT IS), and that exercise is the same as some fad diet. I absolutely, categorically refuse to cede exercise and fitness over to the thin police. This attitude seems to be increasing (complete with the paradox that “body love” must somehow involve ignoring your body’s needs), and it freaks me out.

    • shebolt

      I agree completely.

      Yes, some of the fitspiration is sending a bad message. The images of women posed like porn stars, in skimpy “workout” clothing and holding weights, for example, don’t send a great message.

      However, some of the messages and images are inspirational for those of us looking to test the limits of what our bodies can do. I’m not fond of pushing myself till I puke, and I certainly won’t push myself to the point of real injury, but I like to dig deep and discover that I have something more inside me, when I thought I was finished.

      I have a Pinterest “fitspiration” board, and the only women I’ve pinned are some of my favorite movie and TV icons (think Katie Sackhoff as Starbuck and Linda Hamilton from Terminator 2). I’ve also got an image of an older man who’s still completely ripped, captioned “Growing Old is not for Sissies”, and a simple “No one is impressed with how good your excuses are” (this saying is not coupled with an unrealistic, scantily clad woman). Add a few of my favorite professional cyclists, and I’ve got a board that inspires me to workout even when I’m feeling lazy.

      I don’t think we should condemn the entire category of fitness inspiration because some of it sends a bad message.

  • JeniCherryCola

    Congratulations for your recent achievements and events!

  • http://bagandaberet.blogspot.com/ Melanie

    Your links are wonderful, Sally – thoughtful, funny, sideways… Your morning hair page cracks me up. I just KNOW I have some winning styles to contribute. And the Lie Witness has given me a huge grin before going out the door. Oh, and your were wonderful on the Morning Show. I have a moto jacket in cotton and one in cord, which I thrifted and love. Thanks for sharing these good reads.
    (PS Thanks for your mention in a previous list. It’s an honour always to be included.)

  • Nadine

    WOW, thank you for linking to the Re-embody website – it is right up my alley! Excuse me while I now go and read every single archived post. . . .

  • http://thatsnotmyage.blogspot.com That’s Not My Age

    Thanks for the lovely link!

  • Sarah M

    I got a good read on who had healthy attitudes to weight, when I lost weight due to crohn’s disease, medication side effects, and probably some depression related to that first thing. There were people who said, admiringly, “you’re so thin,” and people who asked if I was ok. The people in the second group ended up being an amazing source of support, kept feeding me, and encouraged me as I worked my way back to remission and healthy weight (and putting on weight is easily a mind-f-ck in our society, so this was really helpful).
    So yeah, healthy attitudes to weight help yourself, and let you help others around you.

  • http://www.modernglamourphotography.com Justiss

    Woohoo for your tv segment! I really enjoyed learning about this new trend, however timeless :) I don’t think however, that I would wear a motorcycle jacket. My daughter is sporting a grungy look at 15 with skinny jeans. We went to a thrift store and found a mock-army shirt with RHCP on it, she wears it everywhere with colorful skinny jeans and random tees. Its funny to think I too had the grunge look back in my Nirvana, Pearl Jam, and Punk phase. Now I’m happy with jeans, tee’s and a cardi with flats or trainers. And the whole idea of Fitspiration is feeding into the poor body image mindset. Looking at those weird images/empowerment messages makes me feel bad about myself. I don’t want to look like those women, I just want to be happy and healthy. We need Body:Happy images/messages.