Monthly Archives: August 2013

Lovely Links: 8/30/13

Nab a copy of my book for just $12.92! (Kindle/iPad just $7.99.)

I have openings in September for in-person and online style consult clients! Drop me an e-mail if you’re interested.

Have you signed up for my new monthly newsletter yet? In it, you’ll find outfits that never appeared on the blog, newsletter-exclusive discount codes from some of my favorite vendors, news about my latest projects, and some more personal stuff like what I’m reading and listening to. Once a month, I swear. No more, no less. Would love to have you on board! Subscribe right here or in the left rail on the blog.

Registration is open for community ed classes! My Dressing Your Best class will take place on November 4 in Cottage Grove and November 13 in Champlin.

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How amazing is this bike-friendly pencil skirt? Bike commuters, your minds will be blown.

Speaking of pencil skirts, this red skirt is fabulous in an otherwise neutral mix.

I’d be willing to bet at least a few of you wear ankle foot orthoses, and will be thrilled to see this article suggesting fashion options that accommodate AFOs. (Thanks, Jori!)

“Thin-shaming is wrong. It is bad and it is harmful and I long for its eradication and I will dance upon its corpse with my fat feet. But it’s important to note that thin-shaming is a symptom of the fact that all women’s bodies are policed all the time—not evidence of some culture-wide, systemic campaign to stigmatize thinness.” (Cheers, Sarah)

More adventures in tailoring: Jean took a gorgeous dress with some fairly serious fit issues and transformed it into separates. And! Imogen points out a few alterations that are easy and affordable.

Since I use the “burlap sack” cliche far too often, I was beyond amused to see Terri actually wearing one.

I know I’m not alone in having a massive style crush on Julia Sarr Jamois.

Barking Dog Shoes rounds up some great, comfortable shoe styles for teachers: Round 1 and Round 2.

Cora explains why she has recently become hesitant to write about diversity on her lingerie blog, saying, “My conception of diversity is a broad one. It goes beyond dress size or bra size or ‘curviness,’ and includes greater representation of older women, trans* women, women with disabilities, women of color (including biracial women), women with muscular/athletic body types, and plus sized women (I’m thinking especially of women who wear larger than than a size 16US or so). In short, it includes those women who are all too often marginalized, neglected, or outright ignored in almost every conversation about lingerie.” (Thanks, Aya)

To learn more about the Diversity in Lingerie campaign Cora refers to, check out this post from Braless in Brazil.

Sometimes simple is beautiful: Audrey looks so lovely in a white tee and printed skirt.

Getting tagged in a photo where you’re looking less than your best can be stressful. Here are tips on how to process the shame or anxiety, and how to move on.

Pink hasn’t always been associated with little girls. Check out this post on the class connotations of the color pink.

Is there anything more romantic than a swishy white sundress? Well, yes, of course. But you’ve gotta admit that a swishy white sundress is pretty darned romantic. You’ve GOTTA.

Over at the Huffington Post, I talked about the joys and hazards of late-blooming style.

Here’s everything you need to know about vents, slits, and how to deal with them.

“I can’t help but wonder how often I make the same mistake or assumption—that I’d better make the most of my looks, because that’s what’s really going to get me out of a jam when the time comes—out of distrust of my actual hand in life.”

What happens when a confirmed shoe lover ends up battling chronic foot pain? Keep tabs on our girl Audi to find out.

Love these tips for laundering and caring for your bras and lingerie.

Pretty is artifice. Pretty is a construct, and a social construct at that. Pretty can be fun to do, to learn, to practice, to hone; but pretty can also be damaging. When I worked at Ben & Jerry’s during undergrad, I noticed that on days I wore makeup, people were nicer to me. Our society ascribes value to women based on how well they’ve achieved this artifice to suit current trends and values.”

Mid Century Miss muses on the contradictions of dressing like a 1950s-era woman and thinking like a modern feminist.

Megan pointed me to this company that claims to make sweat-proof shirts. I AM FASCINATED.

HM and I recently re-watched the X-Files, and I spent most of the first two seasons yelling at the screen about Scully’s horrific suits. So I was delighted to see this story on X-Files style. (Via Narcoleptic Squirrel. Who followed me on Twitter this week and might have the best handle in existence.)

And from the Department of Random: I have a badger tattooed on my back because it is my totem animal. So I’m still squeeing over this animated game in which the object is to keep a mother badger and her cubs from harm. (Cheers to the ever-fabulous humanbean for the link.)

Additionally, today is our 11-year wedding anniversary. You can see from this handy chart that the traditional gift for this year is rayon.

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In Defense of Matchy


I have long declared myself the Mayor of Matchy-Matchytown. (Never forget that Audi is the Sheriff.) And I do this with a mixture of rebellious pride and giggly shame because, in recent years, the Style Goddesses and Gods have declared that it is far more chic to “go” than match. It takes more creativity, it looks more modern, it creates a more multifaceted and interesting look. All of these things are true. And although I have been pushing myself to match less and go more, my heart will always reside in Matchy-Matchytown, and here’s why:

Matching makes instant sense

Harmonious outfits are borne of matching. When colors are repeated – in accessories, shoes, bags, jewelry, or even within the prints and pieces of the garments themselves – the entire ensemble is united. When you see someone who has matching elements within her outfit, what she’s wearing is likely to make visual sense to you. And just about everyone else, too.

Matching is hard to screw up

Now, you know that I don’t believe in “right” and “wrong” ways to dress, but here’s why I think this is important: Many other women DO believe in “right” and “wrong” ways to dress, and those beliefs may inform their dressing choices. Picking items that “go” in sophisticated yet harmonious ways can feel daunting. Picking items that match and then adding some complementary items to the mix is a simple way to generate outfits that feel complete and polished. Less stress, more fun.

Matching feels retro

If you love vintage looks but don’t like, can’t fit or find, or don’t enjoy wearing actual vintage CLOTHING, matching can create a throwback look using modern items. Of course part of the reason that matching is disdained by many style experts is that it feels old and stodgy, but feeling playful with your matchiness can be a great way to indulge in retro looks while flouting the current trends.

Matching can be done in degrees

While wearing a bag, necklace, belt, shoes, and sunglasses all in the same shade might feel like overkill to some, slightly less intense versions of matchy looks are always possible. Style experts might not want you to match your shoes and bag right now, but doing so and adding a contrasting belt and unmatched jewelry can help make the look feel more balanced and mixed.

Matching can be a launchpad

There are some women who were born able to assemble effortlessly chic non-matched outfits. The rest of us have to learn over time, using trial and error. Going matchy at the start and learning how to craft outfits that feel right using those simpler parameters can help build the confidence to branch out. If you start with necklace, belt, and shoes that are all red, you’ll feel marvelously matchy. But at some point you may look at that combo and think, hmmm, maybe a silver necklace instead. And what about cognac shoes? Would that work, too? Starting with matchy and swapping out is a great way to experiment with outfits that “go.”

Everything related to fashion is cyclical, so I’m quite sure that 10 years from now everyone will be expected to match from top to tail. But even now, when unmatched looks are the thing, I’ll continue to dabble in the world of matchy-matchy for these reasons and more.

Are you a fan of the matchy? Do you prefer a few items that match, and a few that “go”? Or are you just plain done with matching and prefer intentional but unmatched mixes? Why do you think these have become your preferences?

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Insomniac Sale Picks: Tops with Interesting Back Details

*In this late-night feature – which will run Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday of each week – I’ll gather up three fun items that are currently on sale online and share them with you! I would LOVE suggestions: Stylish wide-width pumps? Classic v-necked sweaters? Chandelier earrings? Petite dress slacks? What would you like to see featured?*

Olivia requested a few picks for tops with interesting back details (she’s a competitive dancer!), so here we go:


BCBGMAXAZRIA Draped Back Top – was $148, now $74

Oh my goodness, how I love those ruffles. I can just imagine how gorgeous they’d be floating around a dance floor. This is a voluminous top that will work best with slim pants or a fitted skirt, though, so perhaps best for non-competition dance situations. Available in cobalt and flame orange in sizes XS – L. Size availability varies by color.


Gabriella Rocha Claudette Layered Top – was $55, now $43.99

With a slightly slimmer fit, this amazing top would pair well with a long or floaty skirt. This top would look fantastic dressed down with jeans, too! Available in coral and neon yellow in sizes S -L.


Robbi & Nikki Chiffon Rose Tank – was $275, now $96.99

Clearly, this top will require some creative lingerie … or the confidence to throw on a gorgeous or contrasting color bra and call it good. Love it untucked with a slim bottom, but I can see this one tucked into a skirt or worn over a long, floaty maxi. Available in black or cream in sizes S – L. Size availability varies by color.

Other not-currently-on-sale resources for tops with interesting back details:

  1. Anthropologie – This is definitely where I’d start. Seems like more than half the tops have something interesting going on in back! Love this lace peplum top with a low back cutout.
  2. ASOS – There will be a lot to sift through since this site offers so many garments, but the “going out tops” category yields some fun options.
  3. Modcloth – More on the retro side, with tops like this lovely sheer-top blouse.

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