Lovely Links: 3/8/13

First off, happy International Women’s Day!

My book is now available for sale at Subtext in St. Paul. Also, would love to see you on March 27 for my reading!

If you’re still hesitant to try print and pattern mixing, remember that black and white prints are often the easiest to mix.

For a slightly more advanced look, try prints with similar elements and colors. (That first outfit is so marvelous, I’ve gone back to peer at it a dozen times. I exaggerate not.)

“It’s so easy to brush aside the practices that keep me whole, or dismiss them as not that big of a deal. But when I had to look at myself each and every day, I very quickly got a reminder of both how loud my inner critic can be and how incredibly kind and loving I can be to myself when I take a deep breath and allow it.”

Zounds. Take a peek at this chart listing common garment care symbols.

A recent study claims that “chick lit” may harm body image, but researchers weren’t exactly looking at the whole story.

SKM’s dog-walking outfit is fabulously glam. And bonus: Adorable dog!

I’ll admit it. If someone asked me how to style saddle shoes, I’d probably stare at them blankly. And then run away in shame. Allison, however, has some stellar suggestions!

Do you – or would you – display your clothing as artwork?

This has nothing to do with style or body image, but since I can remember with perfect clarity the moment in which my third grade math teacher told me that I was “bad at math,” I must include it: The truth about gender and math. (BTW, I never got anything lower than an A- in math, right through trigonometry. Yet I still feel like I’m bad at math.)

Adore this post that touches upon how to be happy in a romantic relationship when you don’t feel lovable.

I’m drooling over everything in this outfit, from the printed pants to the spiky peep-toes.

I interviewed Denise Alden, owner of St. Paul’s Bombshell -a fabulous plus-size only boutique – for the Star Tribune this week!

Some folks feel like they’re retro in a bad way, but Katherine shows us how versatile denim jackets can be in this roundup post. (I’m a huge fan myself!)

My favorite read of the week: Margarita shares what she’s learned about self-care. So many wonderful insights.

Dark florals are fabulous for spring transitional. They’re floral like spring … but they’re dark like winter. Best of both worlds.

“I have yet to learn of a sexual desire, appetite, aversion or practice that is truly universal or unique. To put it another way, not everyone is into the same sexual stuff as you. But whatever it is you are into sexually, you aren’t the only one. So, no I don’t think you’re normal, I don’t think that I’m normal and when it comes to sex I don’t even know what ‘normal’ means.”

This outfit is basically monochrome slate blue with textural touches. And that just plain rocks.

Mothers of daughters, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this list of 10 ways to nurture positive body image in your daughters..

Hurrah! JCPenney is bringing Joe Fresh to those of us who don’t live in Canada! Or New York!

Photographer Erwin Olaf tracked down some of the pin-up girls from the 40s and 50s and photographed them in 1999 in traditional pin-up poses for an exhibit titled Mature. (Link not safe for work – contains partial nudity)

What a fabulous way to style suspenders.

I made a conscious decision to stop having conversations about other women’s looks, on the internet and in real life. I stopped participating in negative body-talk with friends—I’ll try to be supportive of their concerns about weight, but I’d rather not engage the topic. I haven’t been perfect, but I do my best, and that effort has made an unimaginable difference in how kind I am to myself.”

How to Cover interviews Jewish women and men about how and why they cover their heads and hair. Such a great tagline: A look at Jewish head-covering from a not-quite-Orthodox perspective. (Via The Beheld)

This outfit combines a bright yellow dress, bejeweled belt, and leopard scarf and STILL looks utterly classic.

And from the Department of Random: Demetri Martin changes hermit crabs for the better. (His stand-up is a joy to behold. Highly recommend.)

  • http://tragicsandwich.com/ Tragic Sandwich

    I have a daughter who is almost three, and I think that list of ways to nurture positive body image is spot-on. We do all of those things in our house (well, we haven’t yet discussed culture and body image, because–again–almost three).

    I always felt bad when my mother would praise me at her expense, saying that I was smarter or prettier than she was. I never understood why she didn’t see how smart and pretty she was. So I try to praise my daughter without comparison, because there’s no need for comparison.

  • http://www.amidprivilege.com Lisa

    Hooray! Since I am a novice pattern-mixer, I got one of my readers to send photos! She did SUCH a great job!

  • http://notdeadyetstyle.blogspot.com/ Patti @ NotDeadYet Style

    Excellent reads as always, Sal. Allie does know how to style, doesn’t she? xxx

  • http://pacificrain.blogspot.com sarah

    Happy International Women’s Day, Sally! grrr…that article about gender inequality and math scores is so frustrating: we still have a long way to go in this society! I was a math whiz, but I fit the statistic: I aced AP Calc, scored highest in my school (of about 2,000 students) on the American High School Mathematics Exam) my senior year … and then never took math again. It was easy, but it wasn’t my passion. *shrug* Still, I loathe that cultural bias that tells us, over and over again, that girls aren’t good at math. BS!!

    LOVE the “mature” pinups. totally awesome.

    And now off to peruse Joe Fresh (you’re such a bad influence!) …

    Happy Friday!

  • http://stylecassentials.blogspot.com Cassie

    Great links!!!! Thanks for gathering and sharing!

  • Joules

    You know what I’ve always wondered about math attitude? Girls have proven better at verbal subjects in nearly every study that says they’re bad at math, correct? Are verbal subjects easier for them thus meaning the “I don’t like math, It’s hard.” attitude is more of a, “I don’t like math, it’s the only thing that’s hard?” attitude?

    I only ask because I’ve been an avid reader all my life so any subject that involved reading, summarizing and answering questions, i.e. everything that wasn’t based on Chemistry, physics and math, was superbly easy. I hated math because it was the only class that required some form of effort and I was so used to getting A’s for basically just showing up and being somewhat awake. How many other women felt the same way as children?

    There really should be a study that looks at the amount of effort, not the time because reading 500 pages worth of novellas and writing a 20 page essay comparing and contrasting them all, while easy, is just as time-consuming as prepping for a math final, students put into each subject and really look at the “Math is hard” notion.

  • Nebraskim

    I’ve read that math article three times now. I soooooo distinctly remember the day in 9th grade when my long and nagging suspicions that I was stupid were completely and permanently confirmed: my algebra teacher said to me in front of the class, “You are clearly the stupidest math student I have ever encountered.” Right then, I gave up. While I took math because it was required, I never ever understood it, never grasped that I was supposed to be learning a “way of logical thinking and problem solving.” This occurred in 1970. I’m now closing in on 58 (yeah, I’m at the older end of your blog followers, another way I’m outside the norm), and I still believe myself to be a failure at most things. I graduated 20th in a small HS class of 520 only because I took all my math courses P/F so they would not count toward my weighted average, and barely passed them. A math professor at the college where I work in PR told me once that “the reason you aren’t successful is because you never mastered calculus.” I couldn’t master 9th grade algebra, let alone calculus.I kind of feel successful….I did earn 2 college degrees, I have been employed since I was 22, I pay taxes, I’ve never been in prison. But the fact I have this huge block about math is debilitating in how I think about myself. In 10th grade, I had to take geometry, which I loved and did quite well in (A plus both semesters) but the response to me by most of my peers and others was, “That is so weird because Geometry sucks but algebra is sooooo easy.” Again, I was the outlier because that which everyone else found difficult, I found easy, and that which was supposed to be a cakewalk, I never could deal with. On my tombstone they shall write, “she did nothing, but she did nothing well.” A perfect little play on words that completely describes my life. Keep up the good work, Sal. I love the thoughtful things you post.

  • http://www.bestnightcream.weebly.com victoria

    Great link!Thanks for sharing:) Happy belated International Women’s Day!!!

  • Jen

    just beware of Joe Fresh tees or otherknit tops. They stretch out really quickly. What starts out as nicely Fitted ends up looking like a sack after a month or so.

  • A.B.

    I have to somewhat disagree with the 10 things to teach your daughter about body image. She says to talk to you daughter about what she sees in things like Barbie, but wants us to completely prevent our daughters from seeing those same images in commercials. You cannot shelter your kids from it forever. What happens when they’re at a friend’s house, or older? Best to let them see what the media portrays us women as and then help out daughters disarm its bad message.

    I was never told I was bad at math. I am actually bad at math, but took math classes even when not required because nobody told me I couldn’t or shouldn’t.

  • http://www.franticbutfabulous.com Heidi / Frantic But Fabulous

    A friend of mine was just waxing rhapsodic about Joe Fresh last weekend! Clearly I need to check it out :)

    The math discussion is fascinating. I never experienced the “bad at math” feeling; instead I was one of the nerds on my junior high school MathCounts team. And although my greater love was for writing, I still get my numbers geek on doing web analytics as part of my day job. So far my daughter is both good at math and enjoying it; I hope it stays that way.

  • http://ofcorgisandcocktails.com katherine

    I’ve gotta go check out this gender and math thing now. I loved math, and my friend is a math major. And thanks for featuring me again :D