Repost: The Body Love Timeline

I’m spending the day with my family, so here’s a tidbit from the archive!

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I believe that learning to love your body is vital.

I believe that learning to love your body – no matter what that body looks like, feels like, has done, will do, or won’t do – can help you lead a more fulfilling life.

I believe that learning to love your body through acceptance and patience, understanding and tenderness, can open you up to a world of opportunities and joy.

But I don’t believe that learning to love your body is easy or quick or a process that can be accelerated. It can take a long time. A really, frustratingly long time. It can take years or decades. It might even take most of your lifetime.

And there will be setbacks. You will meet people and have experiences that make your quest to love your body tougher and longer. You will lapse into loathing, you will have errant angry thoughts, you will struggle.

And that is perfectly, 100% fine. Learning to love your body is not a race. It is not a task that can be performed by two people in precisely the same way. And it is not a do-it-and-be-done kind of deal. It’s a constant curve, a continuum of experiences and feelings, a gradual process. It is utterly unreasonable to set yourself to the task and then beat yourself up for failing to meet arbitrary deadlines or hit imaginary benchmarks.

You don’t have to feel awesome every day. You don’t have to rid your brain of every negative thought. You don’t have to love every inch of your body every single moment, and you don’t have to hurry.

The body love timeline is different for every person. Allow yours to unfold as it will.

Image courtesy Hilali.

  • Mrs gberg

    Thank you for this. Just… Thank you. From my 15 year old daughter and myself. Thank you.

  • Carol

    Thank you – well said.