When I work with style consult clients, one of the first questions I ask them is, “What do you love about your body? What do you want to show off when you get dressed?” And I’m sad to say that many of them struggle to name even one characteristic, body part, or aspect of their physical form that pleases them. Once I remind them that this can be hair or eye color, posture, bone structure, or any of the less weight- and figure-centric concepts that rest within the realm of “body,” they can usually name a few. We’re trained that naming the things we love about our own figures makes us conceited and vain, that declaring our busts or legs or hair or skin to be fabulous is a marker of self-absorption. But if we don’t know what we love about our bodies, how can we determine what we want to highlight? It becomes a game of downplaying “flaws,” and that often leads to diminished self-confidence.
So let’s talk positives: When you dress, which aspects of your physical form do you seek to highlight? What about your body do you love and wish to show off?