Lovely Links: 8/24/12

A few quick notes:

FINALLY, my book is available for Nook! Buy it right here.
(To purchase print or Kindle, see details here.) 

The Strong, Sexy & Stylish team will be on the Gyno Show this Sunday night! Tune in at 7 p.m. to hear us on 107.1 FM.

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Catherine shares her views on the differences between age-appropriate and occasion-appropriate dressing.

Someday, I WILL attend the Jazz Age Lawn Party on Governor’s Island. Someday!

Ridding your closet of items that no longer fit can be painful, but it can also be freeing.

I have mixed feelings about some of the ideas presented in this article, but it’s well worth a read. And this idea fascinates me: “People who promote self-esteem in girls have their best interest at heart. And self-love and self-care are certainly worthy goals—but not on their own. Because what makes us feel better about ourselves is not always what’s best for us or others in the long run.” (Cheers, Susan.)

Leopard, ruffles, and a high-waisted skirt. Who could ask for anything more?

More photos of the BlogHer fashion show can be found here. Many are mixed in. Cheers to Kathryn for finding this one of me.

You need a sandwich ring. You do. Don’t deny it.

Tasha discusses the idea of meta low self-esteem, the feeling that other people who face the same challenges you do are able to become beacons of self-love … but since you can’t, you’re somehow failing.

I feel a little ridiculous linking to Alison’s outfit posts because she looks radiant in everything, but get a load of this elegant printed wrap dress. Yowza.

Just found out that the makers of an absolute favorite product of mine – my beloved fashion tape – are located here in Minneapolis!

My girl Margarita interviewed me over at Weightless this week about style, self-care, inspiration, and why I wrote my book.

It’s been a while since I mentioned this, but virtually everything Tamia wears makes me swoon. This flowy vest and cuffed jeans ensemble is no exception.

Annoyed by vanity sizing? Apparently, Argentinian manufacturers are sizing down so far that 70% of Argentine women struggle to find clothing to fit them. EEESH.

Charlotte’s monochrome red outfit with punk accents is so darned fun.

Imogen offers up some tough love for those who’ve been trash-talking their own bodies and focusing on perceived body flaws.

Wanna see a 600-year-old bra and panty set? Of course you do. (Via The Beheld)

And from the Department of Random: I don’t know WHAT you want anymore.

  • Tara

    My weight has fluctuated a good 30 lbs most of my adult life. When I lose weight, I do always purge my closet of too-big items, and it feels awesome. However, I tend to hang on to the smaller clothes as incentive to fit into them again. I’ve been losing weight since last fall and am so happy I hung onto some smaller clothes from a few years ago because they fit again and I didn’t have to go out and buy a whole new wardrobe when I changed sizes. So I guess I disagree withe the blogger’s advice to get rid of any clothes that don’t currently fit. To me, giving up my “skinny” clothes would be an admission of defeat, and I don’t feel like I ever want to throw in the towel and assume I’ll never be a previous smaller size again.

  • http://notdeadyetstyle.blogspot.com/ Patti @ NotDeadYet Style

    Don’t ask me why, but I am crying tears of laughter re: the “I don’t know what you want anymore.” Maybe b/c it’s Friday and every darn thing is funnier : >

    I do need a sandwich ring.

    • Jennifer Beresford

      I just LOVE Mitchell and Webb, and this is one of my favourite sketches. My husband and I have sometimes said “I don’t know what you want anymore” just like this in the middle of a silly argument to break the tension. Makes us smile every time.

  • Jenn

    I want a pair of those earrings, a bracelet and a necklace!

  • Lynn

    I am confused as to why older women, which must include me since I’m over 55, feel it is liberating to dress crazy/stylish. Perhaps I don’t understand the rules, since it never occurred to me that I could not wear a leather jacket or jeans. However, I would feel like a clown dressed like the ladies in Advanced Style, although I absolutely uphold their right to dress as they choose. I don’t remember any of the women I have admired over the years changing their look drastically as they aged — have I missed something?

  • Elizabeth

    Thank you for posting the link from Susan.

    While I have always believe beauty ideals are set for corporations to sell things to women and improve their bottom line, I had never considered it misogynist.

    It at least gives me pause.

    Interesting that men’s “beauty ideals” are far less onerous and allow them to “age gracefully” into distinguished gentlemen. The media reinforces this (how often do you see an average looking man with a beautiful wife/girlfriend. Now, how often do you even see an average looking woman?)

  • Margo

    Lynn– I agree, but I think some would prefer any attention to no attention..

  • Cass

    Ugh, the vanity sizing! Many of the brands I used to buy back in high school and college (usually a couple sizes above their smallest) are now a complete tossup when it comes to whether a given article of clothing will have sized me out completely–and I’ve gained a little weight since then.

    I feel like half the time I’m trapped shopping in teen stores, which, as a grown-ass woman who’s often mistaken for a teenager and was recently carded buying a 17 and up video game, is not a source I want to be pigeon-holed into shopping. Sigh. Back to thrifting for me, I suppose.

  • http://notdressedaslamb.com Catherine @ Not Dressed As Lamb

    Sal thanks so much for featuring a link to my age-appropriate post (so flattering considering you’re a journalist)! The term seems to have hit a raw nerve with quite a few women who have commented on the post. To Lynn, above – I’ve simply made a decision to ensure I have fun as I get older. I’m not saying dressing in a crazy way is the only way to do it – some older women go skydiving or abseiling, but that’s not for me!! Clothes are my passion, so that’s where I’m choosing to channel my sense of fun.

    I had a lot of inhibitions in my twenties (worrying about what people thought of me), but that has changed now I’m 40. When I’m an old lady I just want to have a brightly coloured, fun-looking reflection in the mirror without those worries – as Patti says, we don’t want to be invisible as we age. And if we want to take it extremes when we never have before: why not? Life’s too short not to have a giggle in any way you choose ;)

    Catherine x