This Week I Love …

… having short hair.

It’s been almost a year since I chopped my locks, and the ‘do has undergone a lot of tweaks over the months. I’ve liked every iteration, and am sure that my look will continue to evolve, but the constant has been loving the feeling of short, sassy locks that show my face and align with my personal style. I imagine that someday I’ll grow it all out, but I have loved and am loving living the short hair life.

Whenever someone who has worn her hair long for ages goes short, she’s typically applauded for her bravery. To me, bravery means saving a child from a burning building, running for office, standing up to a bully. Hair grows back. Cutting it all off is certainly a risk, and growing it back out is certainly a process, but making the choice to wear your hair short doesn’t strike me as a courageous move. On the other hand, hair is EXTREMELY emotional. Our own hair and hair-related choices are fraught and difficult, and we can even become emotionally involved in the hair-lives of celebrities. So perhaps short hair is a braver move than I realize.

When I’m roaming around Pinterest, I find that the most commonly pinned hair inspiration images are complex braids and updos, followed by fun and funky short haircuts. Like these:

Which I love, because I know my own hair will shift and change, and that I can bring these photos to my stylist whenever I feel like mixing it up a bit. But the associated comments generally express hesitation, longing, even trepidation about actually DOING short hair.

So I’m curious: Have you ever worn your hair truly short? Or do you have short hair now? Do you consider short hair to be brave? If so, why? If not, why do you think some folks view it that way? What do you love about short hair? Fear? Hate? Whose short hairstyle do you admire most frequently?

  • http://www.fitwoman.com Marsha @ Green Mountain

    I love really short hair. I dream of waking up every morning only to run a comb through my hair and be done with it. Unfortunately, that look doesn’t work too well on me. Have worn it much shorter than I do now but it really depends on how well it’s cut. That can be a challenge to find a stylist who knows how to cut it to suit your hair and face, especially in Vermont! :=)

  • http://www.byhillary.com hillary

    i had a pixie. I HATED it on me. I hated how I looked and it was really emotional for me when I was trying desperately for it to grow out. I felt like I wasn’t myself.
    I always adored pixies though and still do. I just now know they don’t work on me.

    Michelle Williams and Mia Farrow are two I dig.

  • Dina

    You actually inspired me to also cut off all my hair – I did it about a week after your post. I go back and forth with it. I sometimes miss my longer hair and feel very bare and a bit like a mom (I’m 29 and have no kids but already dress like a mom with 3 kids so the hair was a bit older on me!). Other days (well, most days), I looooove how quickly I can get ready in the morning and how I don’t just stick my hair in a ponytail and go. I get more compliments than I ever expected too. Which is helpful on days when I miss my longer hair.

    I’m not sure if it’s “brave” per se, but I love how freeing it is. My sister jokes when she gets married I have to grow my hair out for her pictures, but I love how easy my hair is to handle. I have very thick, frizzy, wavy hair so it’s nice to be able to not just put it in a ponytail!

    But thanks for taking the plunge first! :-) I am happy you inspired me

    • Jamy

      Any way I could see a before and after picture?! I also have VERY thick, frizzy, coarse, wavy (basically just ugly!) hair! I am tempted to go very short. I have once before but the cut didn’t fit me. I am trying to find another style!

  • http://gravitybedamned.blogspot.com Vicky

    :( I don’t like short hair on women. I have really never been a fan.

    I have always had very, very long hair – it touches my bum :) The shortest I ever cut it was when I moved to Florida, and I cut it to chin length. I hated it more than anything, and I cried when I cut it off. Since then, the only cutting I do is trimming dead ends and adding in layers… but long hair for me. I just feel it’s more feminine to have long hair.

    I do think it’s very brave for a woman to cut all her hair off, but whether or not someone likes it is just preference. In regards to celebrities, I hated when Emma Watson cut off all her hair. She has the most amazing, beautiful hair… and she looks…. not so adorable without it, in my opinion.

    • Sigi

      Ack, you’re kidding! I LOVE Emma Watson’s short hair – it looks amazing, so striking and so much more flattering.

      Same with Michelle Williams; with longer hair she just looks kind of ordinary, like everyone else, but with the short hair she just POPS.

  • http://impybat.wordpress.com Terri

    I’ve had short hair nearly my whole life. I have a very small face, and longer hair has just never suited me personally. The longest it’s ever been was in high school, when I had a Totally 80’s spiral perm. It reached just past my shoulders. I’ve worn it in every possible short hair incarnation–varying degrees of pixie, varying styles of bobs, fauxhawk, one side shaved, buzzed– (and it’s been pretty much every color of the rainbow, but that’s another story). I love perusing tumblr blogs devoted to short hair, they’re a huge inspiration.

  • http://executiveknitter.blogpost.com ExecutiveKnitter

    I chopped my locks back in mid 90s (had a new baby – needed low maintenance version) and have never gone back. My first Short cut – was Demi Moore ala Ghost style. It was a godsend and maintained that cut for a long time. Versatile -it could be messed up and edgy or smooth and perky – perfect for my face and esthetic. As I have aged, I had to go a little longer in the back (now spikey flip up) and feathered bangs to balance my changing features. When I go totally gray – I plan on trying the pixie!

    I too was amazed at the reaction of my friends/coworkers when I first cut. One asked me if I still felt feminine!!! I made it clear that my femininity had nothing to do with my hair! My husband loves short hair so it was never an issue. I did find that earrings, eye liner and lip gloss were a must for my face so I didn’t look androgynous.

    For me short hair just fits. I feel sassy and fresh. At 50, that’s a good thing. I don’t miss long hair.

    Oh…Good luck growing out – every time I have tried, I reach an icky point and find myself in the chair commanding: Cut it Cut it!! I can’t stand it!

  • http://www.mischiefmydear.com/dramatispersonae Ashe @ Ash in Fashion

    I’ve told myself if I can get back to my target weight range, that I’m going for the MIchelle Williams look (this one: http://pinterest.com/pin/246501779574076023/)

    It actually reminds me of the only time I had short hair as a kid, which was pretty darn cute on me.

    And, because I speculate it may get asked: why wait until I’m back in my target weight range? Well, to be honest, I don’t want my head to look disproportionate to my body! A short hair cut alters the appearance and size of your head, taking that volume away. As much as I criticize the path of Hollywood actresses for resembling bobble heads, I don’t want to look like I have a shrunken one! Ridiculous? Absolutely, but at least I’m honest about it.

    (Also, I don’t want to cut my hair until after the Beau and I get married, so it seems like the timing that would work out there!)

  • http://yummantra.blogspot.com Leslie

    About ten years ago I got a pixie cut. I’d always had rather “blah” shoulder-length hair. Now it’s a *little* bit longer than a pixie, but still quite short. I’ve gotten lots of compliments, lots of comments/questions about my sexuality, and several people have asked to take my picture so that they can show their stylist. But, *I* love it, and it looks best for me, so I couldn’t be happier. I don’t actually think it’s that lower in maintenance for me, but it makes me stand out a little, and I like that.
    YAY for SHORT!

    And probably Mia Farrow for me too :)

  • Laurel

    I first cut my hair short when I was in 5th grade. I’ve gone back and forth with short pixies (buzzed in the back) to grown out (past shoulders) in length. People who never knew me with short hair are always shocked when I cut it, but it just feels normal to me. I like how I look with short hair. It’s fun to style. That is probably my favorite thing about a pixie cut–all the fun things to do with it.

    One thing I find really interesting in the discourse about short-haired women is how people perceive its effect on “femininity”. A lot of the examples of pixie-haired women that people laud have a very narrow, distinct look: caucasian, delicate features, large eyes, thin body type, straight (or slightly wavy) hair. I think it’s “easier” to have short hair when you fit in to this model, because you have already attained most of the Western beauty/feminine signifiers.

    • Jenny

      I agree with this, Laurel. My daughter (age 7) had an adorable pixie cut for a while. She is Chinese, and built strong and slim, like a little gymnast. She got so many people saying, “And what does the little guy want for lunch?” etc. I didn’t care and she didn’t care (much) but she’s growing it out now and never gets that any more. I am sure it can be similar for adult women.

      • Sam

        Ha! I had a very short cut at age 6 and 7. I was constantly mistaken for a boy… and it was AWESOME.

        For example: Kids shows. You know, when parents or schools take you out on field trips to see magicians, dance troups and wildlife refuges. Kids shows are very heavy on audience participation.

        As a “boy,” I was forever getting called on to hold the huge, heavy eagle, pet the “gross” salamander, ride on a dancer’s back, hold the “dangerous” rubber knives, etc.

        Whenever I’d get a “Well done, young man,” I’d respond with glee, “I’m a girl!” The implaction being – tricked you! I thought it was hilarious.

    • http://www.khinky.wordpress.com Osprey

      I agree. I am not conventionally attractive and used to love buzzcuts/faux hawks/pixies but to be honest everyone but me seems to prefer my longer locks. I have a bob now because frankly it’s a drain on my confidence to have people always hinting that I stop cutting my hair. Too tired to fight it.

  • http://www.jenontheedge.com Jen on the Edge

    I’ve had short hair for a long time and love it. One thing my stylist does is change my haircut, even if only a little bit, every single time he does it so that I don’t get bored and so that my look stays fresh. Right now, I am super short around the ears and neck, but have longer asymmetrical bangs. Since I’m a runner, I just clip my bangs back so that they don’t get in my way.

    • Anna D.

      The exercise thing has been part of why I keep my hair longer – I find it way easier to put my hair back in a ponytail than cope with it when it’s shorter. Obviously not everyone’s choice (I just forgot to mention this in my other comment!), but it works better for me.

  • Eleanorjane

    I’d *love* long hair but my hair is very fine and needs masses of titivating to look okay at any length past a medium bob. I’ve had shortish hair in various styles my whole adult life.

    At the moment it’s permed ‘cos that’s really easy and gives my hair lots of body. It’s shortish and quite curly. I like it even though I don’t think it’s very fashionable.

  • Ariel

    Ooh, good question! I’ve worn my hair pretty short for most of the time since high school (I’m in my twenties now), and people often give me those sweet but backhanded compliments (“I could NEVER cut my hair off like that–it’s so cute on YOU…”). Like some of the commenters above, I look MUCH better with short hair, so it’s not a hard call for me to pull out the electric clippers every few weeks and have at it. But I think what some people might be referring to as bravery is the knowledge that it makes me less attractive to a pretty large number of men. When I first cut my hair off in high school, a boy I’d been “talking to” just abruptly stopped interacting with me that very day. It was just completely over, with no notice or discussion. And he was gorgeous, and I was sad, but… really? Seems like I dodged a bullet on that one, no? So as I explain to people–yes, it makes men think before hitting on me in public, and it probably puts a certain number of them off entirely. That’s a feature, not a bug! I don’t want to talk to those guys! It seems to prevent people saying a lot of really misogynistic stuff that I used to hear a lot more of, too– great! I don’t cut my hair to appeal to men (for many women, this isn’t even a consideration that would make sense), and if it also provides a protective “jerk barrier,” so much the better.

    • Roastaroma

      Love this. It’s so true that scaring off those guys is a feature, not a bug. You’re making me want to cut my hair!

  • Vive

    I’m one of those with a Pinterest board dedicated to short and edgy hair styles! And I, too, cut off my hair in part inspired by you, Sal. It’s a short, choppy bob with bangs, and I love it. And I expect I’ll go shorter before I go longer.

    I wore my hair super-short in my mid-late 20s, when I was in a real empowerment time in my life. I spent a year traveling alone, and during that time I went from all-one-length hair halfway down my back to something that was basically a pixie. I remember how strong I felt. And I remember believing that short hair forces people to really look at you. You’re not hiding behind some idea of femininity with flowing locks. And I wanted to force people to really see me at that time.

    Once I’d moved through that need, I let my hair grow again, and for 15 years or so wore a medium-length layered cut. Chopping it this year also feels symbolic, though in new ways. I’m hitting my mid-40s, I recently lost a parent, my stepdaughter went off to college. Suddenly the person I saw in the mirror wasn’t who I felt like I was. The new cut is far more stylish, and it’s also more defined, as I feel I am these days. Chiseled out of my younger self.

    So hair is definitely emotional, definitely symbolic. And there’s something in short hair that speaks to power. And to choice, I think. Grabbing and owning a look, whether or not it’s the one most sanctioned in our culture, because it reflects who we are in that moment of our lives.

  • Linda

    I’m a short hair girl. Haven’t always been, in fact I’ve had super long hair a few times. But every time I grow my hair past chin length in recent years, I don’t really feel like myself. And it’s so time consuming – I have crazy, slightly wavy, hard to manage hair and I insist on being styled and sleek, not “wash and wear”. I often do an above the chin bob, but more recently I’ve had the back and one side cut super short and have the other side a bit longer – sort of a half bob/half pixie. I guess it’s brave in a way, in that you have your face exposed for all the world to see the wrinkles, splotchiness, imperfections, etc. There are some people who think that only long hair can be attractive or sexy so you are taking a risk if you care about such things. I don’t – I know what makes me feel attractive and it’s not hiding my face and body behind a sheet of hair. I run at night and have to wash my hair afterward, and don’t want to freeze in the winter with a lot of long, wet hair (it’s pointless to blow dry before bed, as it will most likely need to be redone in the morning). So I like the quick drying time after my showers and in the morning I just rewet and style. I guess one drawback is that grey hair shows more on the super short areas (I’m 45) and I may have to color a week sooner than I would with longer hair. But I’ll take that – the sassy, fun feeling I get from having short hair is well worth it. I’ve admired Ginnifer Goodwin’s hair for quite a while, and may do that style when I’m ready for another change.

  • http://elegantmusings.com Casey

    Firstly: I loved your hair when you first chopped it, and I still do! Suits you so well!

    I tend to be very emotionally attached to my hair, so indeed the idea of cutting it all off would take some sort of gumption on my part. Even when I cut my bangs short recently, it took a lot of working up to it–I had been toying with the idea for years! Though now that I’ve done the dirty deed, I love my short bangs. ;)

    My sister has a really short, pixie cut, and I adore it on her (in fact, I’m helping her dye it red today…). I’m just not sure I could ever cut off all my hair (plus I’m lazy about the whole trimming/salon visit thing… Long hair covers a multitude of sins! lol.). But I continue to admire it on other women, and see how they incorporate the shorter locks (which, let’s face it: are still not considered as “feminine” as long hair. I don’t quite understand why… But whatever!) into their personal style!

  • Anon18

    I had very short hair for most of my 20’s (I relate to Terri’s comments above), but have worn it longer off and on throughout my 30’s and now into my 40’s. I have done this for a number of reasons, even though I don’t think I look particularly good with longer (above shoulder) hair. I have very thick, coarse, semi wavy hair that looks great just out of the salon. Too bad I can never get it as straight and sassy as the stylist can. I keep trying to make it work (and complaining about it). Even my stylist discourages me from cutting it. There are lot of people who will come right out and say they do not like short hair on women. Interesting how I used to not care AT ALL about the naysayers. Hmmm.

  • Katharine

    The shortest I’ve ever worn my hair was two or three years when I just buzzed it regularly with clippers using the shortest comb (1/8″). I loved it.

    I find most people’s long hair boring. Very few women (including me) really have truly nice long hair. Short hair, of course, takes a lot of cutting to maintain, and easily tips over the edge into dowdy as well.

    I don’t get the fuss over Cutting One’s Crowning Glory, and certainly not men who say “don’t cut your hair”. (I’m with one now, for the first time in my life, and it was a big surprise to me. But I cut it anyway.) I don’t think long hair is particularly more “feminine” whatever that means, and I don’t think it hides whatever flaws of face or head people imagine they have, either. Hair grows back, too.

  • http://www.stumbleintostyle.blogspot.com EvaNadine

    when i was in high school, i had hair down to the middle of my back (with dreams of growing it as long as crystal gale’s) and a haircut at a new salon left me with (what i imagined to be) super-short hair (in reality, it was still well past my shoulders). ever since then, i have played with the length of my hair, varying from short-n-spiky to chin-length bobs. currently, im wearing the shortest hair ive ever had, a pixie ‘do inspired by photos of ginnifer goodwin and carey mulligan.
    i think there are several reasons people see gals who chop their locks super-short as being brave: first of all, any big change is seen that way (move to a new city? brave. change career paths? brave.) just taking any delve into something different is seen that way. secondly, while, yes, you CAN grow it back, the amount of time it takes to do so is a huge deterrent to so many women, so when one of us DOES take that plunge, it’s seen as brave.
    but really, i think the main reason so many woman see chopping your locks short as a brave move is that femininity is so often correlated with long, flowing hair. short hair bucks the expected. gals with short hair are seen as feisty and bold. the most common comment i hear when women mention being afraid of chopping their hair is “oh, i dont know if i could pull that off” — as if its some sort of magic trick!
    but heres the reality (in my opinion, anyway): if you DECIDE you can pull it off, you can. like any other type of fashion choice, if you OWN it, then youve pulled it off. i never imagined myself with short hair growing up, but nowadays, i really cant imagine my mane any other way.

  • http://[email protected] Courtney

    After years and yeas of bra-strap length hair, I have a chin-length bob. I started with a collar-bone length bob and then had the stylist go shorter when I went in for a trim 8 weeks later. It feels like I’m working up my nerve to go even shorter.

    Getting your hair cut short can feel like an act requiring courage, since there is so much negative messaging about short hair on women (especially women who are not thin.)

    I got a short hair cut when I was nine, and it was a disaster on me. That left me with the idea that short hair doesn’t look good on me. However, I’ve been thinking about that a lot lately. I’ve come up with 2 things: first, the haircut when I was nine was copied exactly from a friend of mine who had thick hair with a natural wave, without any thought about how it would on my straight, fine hair. Second, when my hair is long, I frequently wear it in a ponytail or up in a messy twist to get the hair off my face and neck. When I do this, the hair is pulled back fairly close to my head (instead of poofed out for volume), and it looks fine…so how is that any different from having short hair?

    I do worry about the weight/size issue with regard to my hair. I keep looking at pictures of pixie cuts, but I’m nervous about doing it since I’m short and a very curvy size 18.

  • Ginger

    Regular reader, first time commenter.

    I cut my hair off about 15 years ago, about six months after a divorce, and I’ve never looked back. My hair is very fine and turns lank when it’s longer than chin. It’s so oily that I want to wash it every day. Combine that with health issues that mean I don’t want to spend a lot of time/effort on styling, and I really need to wear a short style. I’m probably too heavy to wear it as short as I do, but my hairstylist (bless her) keeps it flattering.

    My ex was a “long hair looks good on women” person (I kept it long for him for years, hence the post-divorce cut), but I’m not “women”. I’m me, who looks horrible with long hair. I’m very curvy so I never worry about looking feminine; I love the ability to wear my long earrings without them being hidden by my hair. When I was looking for fashion guidance, one reason I subscribed to your feed was your pictures rocking the short hair with all sorts of looks in defiance of the stereotypes about it.

  • LinB

    Since baby came in 1990, I’ve kept my hair chopped off — she yanked and pulled and it hurt. It’s longer on top, about 2-3 inches, quite closely cropped at neck and around ears. Top is v. curly, bottom was never curly (weird) so all I do is wash, condition, and towel dry — then finger-comb it and scrunch the curls into some kind of order. Very freeing. I am free to explore the wonders of my wardrobe, without ever thinking about my hair.

  • http://www.stylinstacy.com Stacy

    When I was in 1st grade my mom cut off my long hair and gave me the Orphan Annie perm. As she tells it, “You were so mad!”. I started growing it long right away. I have cut it shoulder length a few times, but I have had it long for most of my adult life. It was actually really long at one point where I could just about sit on it. I actually had strangers come up to me in stores and want to touch my hair. Just a little weird! That was went it was naturally perfectly straight. Now post-kids it has a slight wave in it.

    I cut off 12 inches about 5 years ago and after I left the salon (in a mall) I went and did a little shopping. One gal remarked that she loved my long hair. I just laughed and said I just cut 12 inches off! Then two years later I donated another 8 inches. It has been 3 years since I did that and my hair is at a nice lower-back length. I hardly ever put it in a pony-tail, too. I can do just about anything with my hair and it doesn’t take me very long.

    I do think women look cute in pixie cuts, and Yes, I think they are brave LOL! I would have such a hard time cutting my hair that short.

  • eve

    I’m going through a short hair phase right now; I went pixie a couple months before you did. My hair length changes through the years, but I found it’s always been tied to my psyche. I tend to cut it short when there’s too much on my plate and I need to purge. It seems to work for me :-)

  • Beth

    I’ve had short hair since the late 90s – I just got tired of all that maintenance on my wicked curly mop. Recently I went super-short just before my baby was born because I didn’t want to deal with hair when there were more important things to do. I’m working back to a longish pixie, but I will never have long hair again.

    Brave? I agree that brave is Doctors Without Borders and Tank Man in Tienanmen Square, not personal style decisions.

  • Gin

    The reply from Dina above could be me! I also was inspired to cut my hair short after you did. My hair is also thick, curly and frizzy. I too sometimes miss my longer hair, but enjoy the ease in the mornings of just wetting it and going out the door. I used to live in a ponytail, or a braid when it was longer. I got many, many compliments after the chop, and still get them.
    I enjoy wearing earrings now, and on weekends when I can wear jewellery and more feminine clothes I feel great. Sometimes at work, though, I think the coveralls and the short hair together might be a bit too “unfeminine”.
    For now I’m enjoying my shorter hair, I think it suits my lifestyle right now. I quite likely will grow it back eventually.

  • Anna D.

    I’ve worn my hair short – properly short – twice; once, my junior year in college (a LONG time ago now), when I had that late-80s long-ish on top, short back and sides thing, and then about 5 years ago, when a hairstylist screwed up/misunderstood what I asked and went way shorter than I had intended (from just above shoulders to around my ears). I’ve decided that I don’t really like short hair on me – when I first had it all cut off, I felt like I looked like a boy, even though I don’t think that about other women with short hair, and rationally know there was no way anyone would mistake me for a boy. Now, I’ve pretty much concluded that my face shape and neck length are such that I look good with hair well above my chin, or well below. Anything from about bottom of ears to a couple inches below the chin looks AWFUL on me. And since growing my hair out from a short cut would require a lot of time spent in the no-go zone, and every time I cut my hair short I want to grow it out, I am unwilling to go short again.

    The other thing is I have really thick hair that grows really fast, so upkeep for short hair would be fairly intense. Plus to get my mop of hair into a pixie or the like would be HARD, I think, for any stylist (there’s so. much. to winnow down).

    Also, here’s what I’ve decided about myself and short hair: I realized that when I want to cut my hair short, it’s because I’m dissatisfied with something about myself, and I’m expecting that the haircut will transform me into someone entirely different, new, and amazing. And I also realized that no haircut has ever done that. I’ve been suckered by all those makeovers in magazines/movies, but I finally figured out that getting a drastically different haircut doesn’t make me look thinner, or cooler, or more sophisticated, or whatever – I still look like me, just with short hair. Somehow, once I figured that out – really figured it out – I lost that nagging hope of finding “the” perfect haircut that would make my life perfect, and became happy with my hair pretty much as it is. I haven’t had the desire to experiment with the length for ages.

    (Also, I finally figured out how to wear my hair curly, which I really like, so have been fairly happy with my current style. But the fact that long hair seems to be even more in fashion than it often is probably plays a part here – I’ve also realized I’m kind of a slave to the hair zeitgeist even when I don’t think I am.)

    • http://www.alreadypretty.com Sal

      Anna, I think you’ve hit on a key point. I have decided that a haircut will transform my entire being SO MANY TIMES! But then it turns out to be just a haircut. On the same me.

  • Plop

    I cut my hair shorter and shorter for one year now, and it suits me so well. Each time I see myself in the mirror, I’m like “Nice face, you” :)
    Whereas I would often not like my face with long hair…

    I understand courage as I had two types of remarks on my hair :
    “Nice, it really suits you !”
    “It’s short” (from guys, when asked, they would often argue that ladiiies shouldn’t have hair that short, or they wouldn’t date a woman with that short hair. Conservatism ?)

    But the number of compliments outweigh the number of “You cut your hair”, so I guess it’s a win ^_^

  • Stephanie L.

    Timely, timely post. I have very short pixie hair, which I’ve worn since my first child was born 12 years ago. Not a day goes by that I am not a.)complemented on my hair which is almost always immediately followed by b.) the comments ranging from “I wish I was brave enough to do that”, “my face is too fat, round, small, big (fill in the blank)”, “I’d be scared to cut it all off” or the big daddy…”my husband/boyfriend would HATE it if I cut my hair!”. Scared? Brave? It’s HAIR. It’s only hair. I’m not making any statement to the world by cutting it other than that MY face and MY bone structure and MY lifestyle is better suited to short hair. I’m not making any other statment. And I truly wish from the bottom of my heart that so many of the women who say these things could see themselves through my eyes. They are all beautiful, interesting women and I wish they could see that a pixie haircut does not have a weight restriction. I am not thin. Never was. I’m 5’8″ and hover around a size 14. If it suits your personality and face….rock it. And as for worrying about any significant other’s reactions, well….whose hair is it? It’s attached to your head, right?

    • poodletail

      Right on, Stephanie L.! I live in the Pacific NW where the normal hair for women is long: some long hair is to-die-for lovely, some is not. Not a day goes by that I don’t get the same comments you do and it really puzzles me. It’s hair. Cut it, it grows back. Perhaps some people’s identity is somehow braided into the length of their hair? What do you think?

      • Stephanie L

        My daughter’s pre-K teacher approached me after her graduation to tell me that she had always loved my short hair and how confident I must be to have my face “right out there”. It was a nice compliment, but it really made me think. Maybe there’s still some sort of talismanic charm to having long hair? Is it a shield? I mean, your face is your face….it’s not there to be hidden by a mantle of hair. Am I putting my face “out there”? As in, am I getting in people’s faces by having mine be a prominent feature? I didn’t think so but it makes me wonder what other people think. Wonder….not care. I really don’t care :)

  • brynnash

    I adore sassy, spunky, short hair on women. I would love to cut my hair short like that some day, but right now my face is a bit round to pull it off. My hair is now in a chin-length inverted bob, which I’ve had for a few years and love.

    I really despise when people make judgments about a person’s sexuality based on their hair style, and I get really mad when people think women shouldn’t have short hair because it isn’t feminine. There is a radio talk show host on a station where I live who talks constantly about how much he hates short hair on women and how all women look ugly with short hair. It bothers me SO MUCH. I have short hair (compared to most 24-year-olds who still have long, one-length hair), and I look beautiful with my short hair.

    I love your hair short like it is now, Sally. It looks fun, age-appropriate, and sooo easy to care for (which is clearly the way to go, right? :) ) I feel like short hair really highlights a person’s natural beauty. Too many people hide behind their hair. Hats of to you for being bold and showing off your natural beauty!

    • Susan

      Amen. I really, really loved Sally’s big curls. I wish I had them! However, I have to admit that they tended to hide too much of her face and rather delicate features. Yay to the short ‘do!

  • Mrs.M in MI

    In college, I had very long, heavy hair; down to my bra strap with no layers or bangs. I would get frequent tension headaches as a result of its weight, especially as I was usually running late in the morning and would just throw it up wet.

    So after I got married, I cut it shoulder-length, with layers and long bangs. For a few years after that, it got shorter and shorter, until it was ear-length. But my hair hangs so limply and is blond enough that I looked like I had no hair. It was not really a good look for me.

    I’ve since grown it out and now keep it between my collarbone and my boobs. This time I’ve got tons of layers, and my stylist goes in with this comb-scissors-thingy and thins my hair out so I don’t get the headaches. I like that my cuts and colors can be far apart, and that I can do lots of different styles with it.

  • http://notdeadyetstyle.blogspot.com/ Patti @ NotDeadYet Style

    I love the look of short hair. It’s not my best look, with my rather large jaw, and super fine curly hair, but I do like a short-ish curly bob for myself. I think pixies are fabulous, and yours, Halle’s, Michelle Williams’ et al are all fantastic looks!

  • Aziraphale

    I think cutting your hair very short is brave, but of course in a totally different way than plunging into a burning building to save a child. Can there be degrees of brave?

    It’s brave in the sense that you’ve taking the plunge to show ALL of your face. Hair has the wonderful ability to compensate for facial shortcomings and balance asymmetrical features. I’m sure we’ve all seen pics of people with a cut that suits them and a cut that doesn’t, and understand that few things can increase a person’s attractiveness like a flattering haircut. If you cut all your hair off, you’re drastically limiting your hair configuration choices. So if it comes off and it’s unflattering, or at least if YOU decide you hate it, you’ve got a long slog ahead of counting the days and fiddling around with hats until it grows out.

    Having said that, some people — men and women alike — look positively great in short hair. Lots of bushy hair around the face can overwhelm delicate features, for example. And you don’t always know until you try it if you’re going to be one of those people who looks good in a pixie.

    To answer the other question, yes, I cut my hair into a pixie roughly every ten years. For me it’s no longer brave because I found out at an early age that it doesn’t look awful on me! But then I get bored of it and grow it out.

    • http://www.alreadypretty.com Sal

      Sure, there are degrees of brave. But I think it’s still a bit of a strong word choice. Bold, different, even gutsy might work better. In many cases, brave implies facing down danger. Not a lot of danger in a haircut, methinks. ;)

      • Aziraphale

        All right, gutsy then. Word choice is always important. ;-)

        I should add that while you have a head of the most gorgeous, thick curly hair, and I can see why your auntie (it was your auntie, right?) bemoaned its removal, you do look cute as a button with short hair. Some people can pull of both short and long, and you’re one of them. Mind you, should you ever decide to grow it again, you can look forward to a lush mane that many would sacrifice a lot for.

  • Lisa W.

    I have all my life wanted long hair. I have thin, fine hair, that does not look as luxurious as I would like it to when it’s long. It’s at it’s longest ever right now at just past my shoulders and as blonde as it’s ever been, as well. This is due to my wanting to spend as little time on upkeep, as little $ as possible and thanks to a sweet stylist who I pay $30 to cut, color and style it every 8 weeks or so. Short hair requires frequent trims to keep it’s shape. Mine’s fairly shapeless right now which may or may not be my most flattering choice.
    I hated when my mom and grandma conspired to get me my first pixie cut back in the late 60’s when it was oh so fashionable and I was too young to have a say. I thought I’d never return, but about 15 years ago I cut it super short before a trip to Germany and it felt GREAT! I’m thinking about going super short again when I make the decision to go grey. Short hair can look great on anyone— it’s all about the cut and color AND how you feel. Cutting it can be a real confidence booster or make you feel kind of naked, so I see how people consider bravery to be involved.

  • http://www.alreadypretty.com Sal

    Friends, I am SO HONORED to hear that some of you opted to chop your locks after seing me chop mine! (Especially since most of you seem pleased with the end result.) ;)

  • http://1000oysters.blogspot.com 1000Oysters

    I have to respectfully disagree on the bravery issue, Sal. You’re right, it’s not the same bravery as rescuing a child from a burning building but it does take bravery of a kind to make a big change in ones appearance. As evidenced by the number of comments on this post, short hair brings out opinions and by cutting *your* hair short, *you* are opening yourself to those opinions, good and bad. There are very few things women can do to their appearance that don’t elicit comments and hair cuts/styles bring about lots of comments. Hair cuts, particularly short hair cuts, involve making a definite decision, a commitment to an appearance for a certain amount of time and women make those decisions for a variety of reasons. And hair is very emotional- if it wasn’t bad hair days wouldn’t exist. So making drastic hair changes can be very emotional as well.

    That being said, your hair is very cute and suits your style very well.

  • Victoria

    I think the bravery comes into the equation when people equate long hair with female and short hair with male. Anyone who breaks the standard are considered either rebels, anti-establishment, or some flavor of activist advertising their opinions for all to see.

    I’m getting ready to go back to a shorter hair style – a chin-length bob. Right now, my hair is hip/waist length. I used to, back in college, wear it in a pixie cut, but I got bored with it after a while. I like to play with my hair, and different styles work better at different lengths.

    My hair grows incredibly fast, as well. When I have a short hair style, I need to get it cut every four weeks for simple maintenance purposes. I usually keep my hair short only as long as I’m willing to pay the monthly salon bill. Then I just get the (thinned out) ends trimmed every six months or so while I grow it out.

    I stopped wearing a pixie cut because I started wearing hats regularly as part of my every-day fashion. Updos and downdos work better with head gear. Most of the standard pixie style options are totally ruined by hat head.

  • Frenchie

    I think short hair suits you. I like the wavy version best. Growing up, I wasn’t “allowed” to have long hair. Dad was bald, and Mom had short hair, so I guess I couldn’t be seen as different. When I got older, I “rebelled” and have had longer hair ever since with a couple of exceptions. I cut my hair short but regretted it both times. Longer hair suits me best. Right now, I have bangs and the rest is a few inches past my shoulders–probably my ideal length. Maybe it’s because I had short hair for my first 20 years, I still like my hair off my face (except the bangs). I always wear a barrette to bring up the sides or wear it in a ponytail (like today).

    I think hair like the clothes we wear encourages confidence in ourselves. It’s how we want to be seen.

    • Anonymous

      I also “rebelled” by growing my hair long in my 20s. My mother was convinced that my curly hair would be a total rat’s nest if it grew long. So I had to keep it short.

      (What I never understood is why my two younger sisters were allowed to grow their curly hair long, but I wasn’t.)

      Short hair is the worst possible look for my face. And it was much higher maintenance, in my case. My waist-length long hair never turned into a rat’s nest, and didn’t require any products, heat styling, or salon visits, either.

      Nowadays, I keep my hair chin-to-shoulder length. I won’t ever cut it really short again, but I wouldn’t dare tell anyone else how long to wear their hair. I’ve experienced that, and it wasn’t beneficial to me.

  • Joy

    I had (mostly) short hair until my 50s. Since then, it’s been longer (shoulder length) and I’d never go back. It’s easier to care for, and I just like the feeling of having more hair. Everyone should have the hair they like.

    • K

      I agree that longer hair is easier to care for! I thought short would be but it totally wasn’t.

  • http://smiletexysmile.blogspot.com D

    I had really short hair a few years ago, and I enjoyed it for a while. Some days I really liked it on myself, but on other days I would just get annoyed that I am not so great at styling hair, and that it wouldn’t look the way that I wanted it to. I really like short styles that have some wave or curl in them, and my hair is really, really straight. I’d do it again, though.

    I didn’t feel particularly brave when I cut my hair off. I get bored of my hair easily, and enjoy changing it drastically.

  • http://www.befabulousdaily.us Cynthia

    I go through cycles of longer and shorter hair. My hair is fine but very numerous, and if it gets longer than my shoulders, especially in the summer, it becomes a stanky, sticky, matty mess. Right now it’s short-ish, but not quite as short as yours, and more bob-ish because that’s what my hair likes to do. Next Tuesday I go in with a cut and color, and I’m going to have her go all the way to my favorite hair inspiration, which is Natalie Imbruglia’s hair in the “Torn” video. You know what I mean. I love short hair. The only time I try to grow long hair is when I feel like I should for some social-pressure reason (like not wanting Southern “gentlemen” to automatically categorize me as a lesbian). But I’m past caring about that now and I am going to say “Short Hair 4Evah!”

  • poodletail

    The only time I’ve ever worn my hair long was in my late ‘teens until I turned 30: I danced with a local ballet company and was required to have a bunhead. Since then I’ve worn it short, shorter, shortest. Six months ago I decided to stop coloring my hair and buzz it: it’s a soft brown with flecks of gray, about 1/8″ long and I LOVE it! I had bad hair but a small,perfectly-shaped head and a whorl on my crown that that is a perfect replica of a high-pressure twirl. (P.S. Sal, give my love to Richard, will you? I adore what he does with your crowning glory!)

    • http://www.alreadypretty.com Sal

      I would but I’ve switched stylists! (Jamie at Jungle Red, if anyone in the TC is looking. She’s THE BEST.)

      • poodletail

        Sal, your hair was drop-dead gorgeous when it was long and is knock-out stunning short. Your stylist must have a blast cutting it. I do think the short ‘do suits your personality for now. There’s a lot to be said for easy hair-care, too, especially during the hot, humid months.

  • Mindow

    I cut my hair short recently and what surprised me is the number of people who actually seem upset that I cut my hair short. It looked good long but was a lot of work so I said Screw It. People will even say they are disappointed in me for cutting my hair short, is if it is anyone’s business.

    Maybe the brave part that people mention is the bravery needed to deal with the inconsiderate a-holes who have an opinion about someone else’s haircuts.

  • http://talkingarchitecture.wordpress.com/ Ruth Slavid

    I’ve almost always had short hair. I tried to grow it long when I was about 7 or 8 and after a year or so was talked out of it because my grandfather was old and ill and ‘he loves you with short hair’. Then I grew it long in my teens, although I was going through a phase when I though it was somehow fake or immoral to wash it more than once a week, so I mostly wore it in greasy plaits. I cut it before applications to university. Then I grew it long in my 30s. But it was so slow to grow, and so very thin. Cutting it made it feel as if I had so much MORE hair. and I have always had complements when I cut it. I have always demanded that hairdressers give me cuts that don’t require blow drying. But it does stand up weirdly in the mornings, so I have to wash it every morning. And every time I go to the hairdresser (this is the drawback – 8 weeks max between appointments, six is better, so it is expensive) I come away feeling so much better about myself. sometimes they razor a little bit at the back and there is a wonderful secret feeling of soft stubble. Also, after a little experiment with colour, I have decided to keep it natural and allow the grey to grow through. And I think this only looks OK with really short hair.

  • Sarah

    I have a pixie. And I love love love it. I love not having hair in my face. I love that it’s easy to style. I love that it makes me feel chic.

    I’m not sure I will ever grow my hair out again.

  • Courtney

    Sal–

    I have a question. I remember you posting about how you did the initial short cut in a stealthy way, since you weren’t sure about how HM would react. Your post mentioned that HM eventually came around but that your dad was really not thrilled with you having short hair. Has he ever come around on the issue?

    • http://www.alreadypretty.com Sal

      Nope! My dad is a long hair man to the end. I actually kind of enjoy his frustration with my short locks. I never rebelled as a teen, so I figure it’s late bloomer syndrome!

  • Sarah

    I wore my hair pixie-short for most of my 20s. I finally grew it out because after 8 years of short because I was out of styles and bored with it. I rocked the Halle, the Mia, the Mary J, every style you can imagine, I even did a modified mohawk for a while.

    The one thing I will say about short hair – and this applies only to ME – is that I look younger with short hair. When people saw my short-haired driver’s license photo and compared it to me with long hair, invariably the comment everyone makes is that I look younger at 31 with long hair than I did at 25 with short. I’m not sure if it’s just my face, my haircut, a combination of the two, or what – and I certainly don’t think that applies to everyone. I will say in all honesty that at 31, I do want to look young, so for now I am keeping the long hair.

    Another thing I have noticed is that for my hair at least, which is super thick, wavy, frizz-prone, and big, short hair required more styling time and products. With long hair, I just wash, throw in some product, and let it air dry. It takes me no more than 5 minutes a day. With short hair, I had to spend at least 20 minutes and use multiple products to get the look I wanted. But that just might be because my hair is so thick and crazy.

    • K

      I agree with all of this! I looked much older with short hair — older than I do with long hair AND a lot older than I was. Also, I have exactly the same experience in terms of styling/care time, with somewhat different hair than what you describe (also wavy and plentiful, but fine).

  • Sarah

    I meant I look younger with long hair in that previous comment, clearly I need more coffee. :)

  • http://www.thinposter.com Thinposter

    Having been traumatized by an involuntary Dorothy Hamill as a child, I don’t know that I will ever have hair shorter than chin-length. I love short cuts on other women, but I just don’t think they’re me.

    • http://corpgoth.blogspot.com/ Trystan (the CorpGoth)

      Hah, me too!!! My mom insisted I’d love short hair bec. I liked watching Dorothy Hamill skate. Nope, I hated that haircut. I think she really just wanted me to have short hair bec. it wouldn’t tangle & would be easier for *her* to deal with.

      A few times as an adult, I’ve tried a short hair cut. And hated it still. Not my thing at all.

    • http://[email protected] Courtney

      My Dorothy Hamill hair cut was just the opposite. My dad and stepmom talked me into getting my hair cut that way when I was visiting, without consulting my mom. I had long hair, but at six I was too young to take care of it myself. I guess they didn’t like having to do it for me? Anyway, I was there for the weekend, and they got my hair cut on Saturday. The post-cut styling held up through Sunday with minimal brushing required, so they assumed it was a carefree hairstyle for me. I have stick-straight, very fine hair with a couple of weird cowlicks (including one at the nape of my neck. The Dorothy Hamill haircut was incredibly high-maintenance cut on me. For the rest of the school year, my mom had to get up a half hour early every weekday morning to curl my hair to make it look decent.

  • Bekka

    Slowly returning to blog world…

    Cutting my hair would definitely be an emotional issue for me. I have very fine, VERY curly hair. My parents, in a very wise decision, kept my sister’s and my hair short (crop type) until we were old enough to take care of it ourselves. As a result, neither of us have really cut our hair since. I think about it sometimes, when I’m in the shower, getting the conditioner IN, then getting the conditioner OUT. But I’m kind of frightened by the idea, partially because my hair is very slow growing, so I know if I decided it was a mistake, it would be YEARS before it was long again.

    • http://cwhf.livejournal.com Ericka

      This is totally my issue as well. I have super curly fine hair and if a cut goes awry (which has happened before) it can be 3-5 years before I am happy with my hair again. It’s just hair, but being unhappy that long with one’s appearance is really tough.

      • Bekka

        Yeah, the “poodle pictures” from when we were first growing our hair out serve as constant cautionary tales!

  • Dee

    The shortest I ever had my hair was a “Twiggy” haircut when I was in 6th grade, that tells you how old I am! I have longish hair now (4 inches below my chin). I know that some day in the not too distant future I will probably have one of those “old lady permed hairdos” so I am trying to have long hair as long as I can get away with it, and not look silly. I like short hair on women that have the facial features for it, I really don’t. Hair softens my look and I like that. I also don’t care for REALLY long hair on older women, it drags down their face, I dont know how else to say it. I know thats pretty old school and maybe too much of an generalization, but with a few excpetions I think its true. I think we should all strive for the hairstyle that best flatters our face and body; that being said not everyone’s hair will be easy to maintain or even go into that style! And we may decide we don’t want to spend the time or money to keep it that way. Sally, you look cute with your short cut but I thought your longer hair was pretty. I loved the tousled look. Well, thats my 2 cents!

  • EvieFoo

    Sal – I’m relatively new to your blog so I’ve only known you to have short hair and I love it! The more I read, the more it really seems to suit you.

    I went from long hair to short hair (think Demi Moore in “Ghost” ) my senior year in college. I did if over Christmas break and when I returned, it felt like the entire campus was in shock – over my hair! It prompted a few girls on campus – and even a university staffer – to cut their hair short as well.

    What I loved about short hair: made me feel more playful, accentuated my long neck, pushed me to be more adventurous with jewlery – particularly earrings.

    What I didn’t like about short hair: having to get it cut every 6 weeks, the expense of frequency haircuts, the style required straighting of my wavy hair and for me having short hair was way more work than having shoulder length hair.

    That said – I love short styles!! I need to find one that works best with my hair type as I would love to try short hair again.

  • Penelope

    I’ve had everything from long-enough-to-sit on to a chin-length bob. I have lots of male friends that “don’t like short hair on women” who are somehow astonished every time that I chop off my hair how good it looks. Apparently they think this is unique to me, though, and don’t change their general opinion.

    I got a haircut I hated in 9th grade and then refused to get it cut again for the entirety of high school and college. I have somewhat fine hair that while straight will curl if you look at it funny and I used to braid it fresh out of the shower and then let it dry and wear it down. I actually got told while student teaching that I needed to wear my hair up because it was distracting the students. (This was a video-taped lesson and it was true.)

    By the time I graduated college it was so long it got caught in a car door one day and I said, “time for you to go.” So I got over 2 feet cut off and donated, to a nicely layered just-below-shoulder length. (I had realized that the reason I hated that previous haircut wasn’t that short hair looked bad on me, just that my hair needs layers at that length.) Then I immediately ended up growing it back out because I wanted it -long- for my wedding. A couple years later I went and got it chopped up to just-above-shoulder and donated another foot or so.

    Since then I seem to pop up and down between bobs and somewhere around my shoulders with layers. My husband’s favorite is actually the really short bob but eventually I miss being able to do interesting braids and updos and grow it out again. Right now its just below my shoulders and seriously needs to go get some layers cut in it, because it was a bob about 6 months ago.

    I also have experienced that moment when growing hair out where you get sick of it and want it all cut off. Sometimes I go through with it. However, I’ve realized that it happens because I can’t stand how my hair looks when its just above my shoulders – its fine much shorter or a couple of inches longer – so this time I perservered through that month of hating my hair and now it’s fine. Of course, as summer comes on, I may change my mind and cut it all off again.

    That’s what I love about hair- it grows back so I can change it completely on a whim and not feel bad.

  • http://doctorsterry.com katie

    i cut my hair from long to pixie-short four or five years ago — i was living in the desert in northern peru at the time, just south of the equator, as it was getting to be summertime. i had a fever and my head was just too hot, so i chopped it all off. =) growing it back out to what i thought felt like me (a couple inches past the shoulders) took a couple of years, and i was frustrated with it the whole time…and now that it’s very long again, i am thinking that chin-length is perhaps actually my favorite. (the mister, however, does not quite agree…)

  • Jenny

    I have short hair — not a pixie, more like finger-length, that allows my thick, curly/wavy hair to do a little of its natural thing. I had quite long hair all through high school and college and grad school, and this is quite a change, but I love it and I get tons of compliments. I should mention that I hesitated to do it because I’m 5’8″ and a size 16, with broad shoulders. I worried about “pinhead” or whatever. Ridiculous! It looks great on me.

    Thinking about what’s brave: I wonder if it was more like real bravery when flappers were bobbing their hair in the 1920s? That was a serious affront to social norms, back then.

    • http://www.alreadypretty.com Sal

      Good point about the flappers, Jenny!

  • http://simplehappyfree.blogspot.com Rose

    I’ve gone through most of the possible length permutations. I had my thin, very straight hair exceptionally long (bum-length) when I was 12, but got so frustrated with how much pain it took to brush the stuff that I got it all cut off. This I remember vividly: I sat in the chair at a generic chain haircut joint, and declared that it all needed to go. The lady point-blank *refused* to cut my hair, saying that I’d cry later. Talk about frustrating! The joint efforts of my mom and myself were unable to sway her. Ultimately we went to a different salon down the street, and I got the haircut I wanted.

    While I was in college I generally got one (short) haircut a year, and then let it do whatever it felt like as it grew out. It was an interesting experience. Of course, I also dyed it emerald green one year.

    Now I’ve got it grown out, and it’s about halfway down my back. I do enjoy being able to do interesting updos with it, but most days it’s in a simple ponytail or side braid to keep it out of the way. When I had short hair, I loved that I could wet it a bit, run my hands through it, and then be ready to go. No painful detangling or restraint systems involved.

    I occasionally fantasize about lopping it all off again because of the freeing feeling that accompanies short hair, but my husband is very attached to it being long. I resent that a bit, but much of that’s because I have control issues. Ultimately I know he wouldn’t actually stop me. I can’t quite make up my mind what to do, so I’m just leaving it be for now.

  • http://www.icyviolets.com anna

    i LOVE having short hair! mine was halfway down my back when i chopped it, and i’ve never looked back. it is a different style every day, and it changes every two weeks due to hair growth. so much more fun to play with than long hair! and it shows off my sexy sexy neck.

  • Anna

    I had really long hair until I was 19 and it was always a huge part of my identity. I cut it short because I couldn’t get this image out of my head of me with short hair. I would draw in my notebooks, pictures of myself with my fresh new haircut. When I finally worked up the courage to get it cut, I went to the wrong stylist and it looked terrible, but I wasn’t bothered by it. I felt free. I started trying new appraoches to short hair and landed on a couple of styles that worked for me. When I got married, I grew it out again and I hated it. It was nice for my wedding look, but in all other senarios, I thought It made me look frumpy and I was overwhelmed with how to style it. Since I cut it short again, I feel like myself and don’t know if I’ll ever grow it long again.

    It’s funny how I used to consider long flowing hair to be so essentially me and now I feel more like “myself” when my hair is short. I can see how cutting you hair short is considered brave because hair can be such an important part of our identities. I, however don’t consider my short hair brave because, well, it looks way better this way.

  • Rachel

    While I had long hair on and off as a kid and teenager, I was always drawn to short hair and had it short through the last two years of high school. In college, out of curiosity and some hints from a boyfriend, I grew it out to my shoulder blades. I hated it. It took so much longer to take care of and was always in my way. My senior year I went with a friend who also had grown out hair she’d habitually kept short to get our hair cut and donated. When we got to the salon we found out the donation meant our haircuts would be free. I remember sitting there, in the fairly empty salon, with about 4 hairstylists gushing over how brave we were to cut our hair off, and thinking “I’m getting what I want in a way that will make me feel more like myself, and I’m getting it for free. How is this brave?”

    I definitely feel a lot of societal pressure that, as a single 30 year-old woman, I’m “supposed” to have long hair and sometimes I think that my perpetual single-ness is partly related to oft-stated male preference for long hair, but I feel much more comfortable and happy with myself when my hair is short and I’m not going to endure long hair I hate just so I can adhere to society’s expectations. I’ve often fought with hairdressers who can’t believe I want hair as short as I ask for, even when I bring in a picture of myself, and I’ve learned I’m better off going to male hairdressers or barbershops, to get what I want without argument.

  • http://revasrags2roses.blogspot.com reva

    I LOVE short hair, but my features say no. Petite noses and ears go best with short hair, of which you have both!
    It is also a very versatile cut, would love to see it all Halley Berried!
    Hugs
    Reva

    • Heather

      I have huge ears that widen my head by about 1/3 because they stick straight out. The grin because I’m happy makes up for the non photogenic ears. (I don’t even go with big earrings, just diamond studs … because I am super lazy).

  • Kelly

    I sport nearly the same cut as you do now, Sal. I feel that short hair really lifts my features and makes me look younger (good!) That said, I’ve had nearly every haircut in the book, I think. I had the perfect Dorothy Hammill, and that bowl shaped Vidal Sasoon cut in the 70’s. I had the 80’s spiral perm/ponytailed on the side. I had pixies and bobs and a spike! I’ve had asymetrical/over one eye looks. I guess I just enjoy walking out of a salon with a brand new head every once in a while!

  • Rebekah

    I cut my hair into a pixie in May 2011, after growing out the Posh Bob of 2007 for four years. (I donated all nine inches to Pantene Beautiful Lengths.) I got a lot a comments about cutting my hair short because I get a lot of compliments on my natural hair color, and, “How could you cut off all that beautiful red hair?” Very easily, actually! I am growing my hair back out now because I want to cut Zooey bangs next, but it’s hard to feel like people are disappointed in my choices when I cut my hair. It’s also hard to feel like strangers think they can weigh in on someone else’s hairstyle choices. “People pay lots of money for that color!” Okay, well, it’s still my head! I have never colored my hair for the same reason – I don’t want to hear the comments about how I used to have such a beautiful color, and why would I do that, and all the rest.

    And I agree that brave is not a word that should be used when talking about haircuts. Hair grows back! It sucks to grow out a haircut you don’t like, but it’s not dangerous or life-threatening to do so.

  • http://readinginskirts.wordpress.com Mia

    It kind of blows my mind when people say, “Oh, I love that haircut, but I’m not brave enough/it only looks good on certain people/it would never work on me.” If you love it, do it! I chopped off my hair in high school–I see-sawed between shoulder-length and pixie-cut between kindergarten and tenth grade–and it’s just gotten shorter and shorter since then. I’m actually planning on my first buzz cut this weekend! (I had it scheduled for last Saturday but fell victim to a summer cold.)

    I know that I’m going to get some askance looks at work after I finally go for the buzz, but the idea delights me and I’m so excited about it that I don’t really care. Haters gonna hate, right? Then again, changing my hair every couple of months is one of my favorite things, and some tsking isn’t ever gonna make me stop. (Although honestly, I don’t think I’ve ever gotten a direct, non-positive comment on my hair. At least, not since 5th grade, when I got told I looked like a boy. Didn’t bother me then and it won’t bother me if it happens now!)

  • Mia

    I have long, straight hair, which I get a lot of compliments on and consider my best feature. The thing about it is that it’s kind of a fall back – it’s like putting on your favourite scarf – with my hair down I feel that instantly have something that’s pretty about me, even if I’m having a day where all my makeup goes wrong. So I guess that’s what I consider brave about really short hair – your face always has to be on form because there’s nothing to detract from it!

  • http://cwhf.livejournal.com Ericka

    I am becoming intrigued with the idea of short hair. I have super curly/coily somewhat thin hair that honestly I have a love hate relationship with. Damage to it and my scalp from chemical relaxers as a child and teenager didn’t help. I have been fully natural for over 10 years and the grow out has been a slow process; it takes years for me to show an inch or two of length. That having been said, I have been fantasizing about a major cut; currently all I ever do is throw it in a bun. My fear though is if I hate it, I won’t like my hair for years which is really hard.

  • Margo

    I’ve had short hair my entire adult life. Very, very, very short. It’s part of my identity. I don’t think it’s brave of me, since it suits me, but since the norm for women has always been long hair, part of me enjoys being outside that expectation. I like the way short hair lets a face breathe — it lets expressions and eyes and mouths be the focus.

  • Hazel

    I have killer cheekbones and I hate my hair texture, so I’ve kept it short for most of the last ten years. I will never be able to do my dream hair style (the Louise Brooks style bob) without a lot of help from chemical or heat styling, which I cannot afford or am not willing to try, so I keep it simple. I’m not a big fan of long hair anyway.

  • http://fashionableadventuresboo.blogspot.com Bethie the Boo

    Proud pixie over here! I just don’t have time to deal with longer hair and with how thick my hair is it doesn’t look good when it grows to a certain point. I grew long hair for my wedding and after that cut it off and will never have long hair again.

    I admire Michelle Williams hair and probably used her as my muse when I started my pixie look. And I think it’s sweet that she keeps her hair that short in memory of Heath Ledger.

  • Heather

    My hair is shorter than yours, and has been for about 2 years.

    With long hair I look like a heroin addicted 70s rock star, at chin length it looks ok, but short it is healthy and easy and I am happy. My stylist is amazing and if I can take a week of being called sir, he can give me a 12 week cut that goes from “yes, sir” to the best point for my natural chaos wave. So it doesn’t even cost too much.

  • http://www.meganmaedaily.com/ Megan Mae

    I cut my hair off about two years ago? It was a very freeing experience, and I didn’t feel as upset about it as past hair cuts. It’s let me try out new styles as I grow things out. I would have never known how much I love an A-line bob on myself otherwise. I actually prefer my hair below my ears, I think I look more balanced with it like that, but it was fun to do it. I still think about an undercut/mohawk a lot but I haven’t done it in case I need to be employed soon. I’m going to school right now and working on self-employment, but it hasn’t panned out enough to be feasible just yet, so I’m not ready to make a style choice that will limit me.

  • http://hellopetunia.blogspot.com hellotampon

    I had super-long hair my whole life. Cutting it “short” meant cutting it from knee-length to my waist. I was attached to it. Finally when I was 24 I cut it up above my shoulders. When it was long all I did was wear it in a huge bun anyway, so when I cut it, no one even really noticed. It was just easier to take care of. Now I usually cut it to a chin-length layered bob in the winter, but I grow it out for the summer so I can tie it away from my face and neck. Plus, it’s so FRIZZY in the summer that I think it looks better in messy buns, braids, etc than anything else.

    I’ve thought about doing a pixie cut, but the back of my head is kinda flat :/ So I don’t know if it would look good. Plus my hair’s texture is all weird- it’s fine and wavy so it doesn’t look good with gel in it, but it’s also very frizzy. And it gets stringy. I’m never happy with it.

  • Stephanie Davidson

    I loved my hair short. A bob that was shorter in the back and longer in the front with one side longer (to my chin) than the other (cheekbone area). I felt sassy, in control, mischievous…all things I really am not : ) Before this I had very long, straight, boring (to me) brown hair…and I just wanted to change it. My husband though I was going through a midlife crisis (at 22…LOL). We made a deal that I will keep my hair longer until I reach my late 30s to 40s. I love him and so I say ok. But I am counting down the days until I can go back to my sassy, mischievous bob.

  • Janet

    Great question, Sal! I have gone through the reverse process. My hair was very short for so long, and I needed a change. My hair is now shoulder length

    For me, growing my hair has taken some bravery. Since it’s thick, coarse and wavy/kinky, I have had a lot of “bad hair” days.

    My best short haircut was the same as ExecutiveKnitter mentioned — the Demi Moore “Ghost” hairdo! I don’t think that’s much different from the Ginnifer Goodwin hairdo. My hairdresser convinced me that it would look good on me, and she was right.

  • http://www.minnchic.com Rebecca

    I had super short hair in college, but I didn’t keep that style for very long. A short cut didn’t really suit my hair type or texture. I like super short styles on other people, but I don’t think I’ll go shorter than a bob any time soon.

  • Trudy Blue

    I’m surprised by how many people are saying that they (or other people in their lives) don’t like short hair because it isn’t feminine. Just as a blanket statement. That’s kind of presumptuous, no? I know that some women want their appearance to accentuate their femininity and that some women think that long hair is feminine (and that some men prefer those women), but it’s kind of a leap to say that therefore all women ought to prioritize looking feminine—like it’s a responsibility—let alone that there is one, long-haired template for what femininity looks like.
    Anyway, as Mindow said above, I guess that’s where the bravery comes in: dealing with all the people who think they get to apply their worldview to my haircut. (Which is quite short right now and I like it just fine. It shows off my feminine cheekbones.)

  • quartz_kitten

    I’m a long time reader (two years now), but I’ve never posted a comment here before. Short hair, though, that’s a topic that will get me to speak up.

    My hair has run the gammut from waist length to nonexistent in my life. I’ve had short hair and grown in out again several times, but last year on a whim I actually shaved it all off, ironically a week before I got dumped by my then boyfriend.

    Hair isn’t only a reflection of your own emotional state, I found, it’s also a breeding ground for other people’s expectations. I can’t prove it, but I have often wondered if shaving my head was actually one of the tipping points that made that particular boyfriend less attracted to me. The breakup was a very strange one. Even before that happened, though, my G.I. Jane look caused a lot of people to question my emotional health as well as my gender identity and sexual orientation. While I (and I think at least some of the people asking) don’t have a problem with homosexuality, the shaved head placed me automatically in the category of either lesbian or punk for most people. My personal favorite (and one of the nicer comments of the kind) was having a dance partner tell me I looked “like a disturbingly attractive teenage boy.”

    It was all so surprising to me only because the cosmetic change really was prompted by a sense of experimentation. I’ve done lots of crazy things with every aspect of my appearance over the years. And I’ve gotten surprised or upset comments from people before when I’ve done things like dyed my hair green, sported a fauxhawk, or even something as simple as wear truly bizarre jewelry or clashing colors. Never have I had such an overwhelmingly, consistently negative reaction, though, as when I shaved my head.

    I keep doing these sorts of things, though, because in everyday situations it should not matter whether my personal appearance and tastes in such matters fit with someone else’s. I like trying strange new things, and I refuse to let other people’s expectations of what is normal define what I am allowed to do with myself, hair or otherwise.

  • http://www.fillupyourmug.blogspot.com Sarah R

    When I first starting reading Already Pretty, I had waist long brown hair. Gorgeous, straight, super thick. I donated it to Locks of Love, and have played with the length ever since. A pixie was not right. I grew it back to my shoulders, hated it. Just did an inverted bob and adore it. My husband is long hair lover; in fact, his hair is longer than mine. He was bummed when I cut it again (I didn’t tell him, I just went.) I live in Florida and can just not deal with the heat in the summer with having five pounds of hair on my head. Told him if I moved to Minnesota, I’d grow it back out. So far, he’s not biting. lol

  • Melissa

    I have had a short, pixie cut most of my life and I love it. I get lots of compliments on it and am often told I am “brave” for wearing it so short. I agree with you….brave is saving someone in the face of danger or fighting for our country. I have had long hair but it was just never right for me. I have had so many women ask me over the years if my husband “let me” cut my hair short or if he was “mad” that I did it! He laughs when I tell him that…he loves me no matter what my hair looks like.

  • http://thehardestbitisthetitle.blogspot.com Erika

    I think it depends partly on your self-image, how much work you’re prepared to put into it and partly on how your hair behaves (or, more accurately, doesn’t). I’m something of a old fashioned hippie-type and my hair has been long for most of my life.

    It was short for most of high-school, but it was very hard to keep it looking okay – it’s got strong waves and kinks and ended up needing washing every two days and blow-drying into place with mousse. Which most people probably aren’t concerned about, but I’m lazy/low-maintenance and hate the feel of product in my hair, so infinitely prefer my long tresses that air dry and generally need nothing more than a run through in the morning with a brush. I can pin it up if it’s hot, hold it back with combs if it’s getting in my face. At 46, I’ve got my fair share of silver threads and look forward to the day when it’s all white and I can REALLY be the mad looking old witch at the bottom of the street :)

  • http://wendybrandes.com/blog/ WendyB

    I had a pixie ( http://wendybrandes.com/blog/2008/09/been-there-done-that/ ) and various other short hairstyles for about 20 years. I’m so over it for myself right now — I feel like I did everything that could be done and I like not having to get my hair cut as much! I mean, it was every four weeks or else!

  • Abby

    Have had short hair since I was in my 30s. I did it because I hated dealing with my hair. By my late 30s, my hair started curling and now, looking 60 in the face, I love the waviness, love the grey starting to peek through and LOVE IT BEING SHORT. How easy can it get! There are other things I’d rather be dealing with then my hair! :)

  • Anna D.

    It’s so interesting to me to see some people say “long hair is so much trouble, short hair is easy” and others say “short hair takes work, long hair is easier.” For me, long hair is much easier – I’ve never really had a wash-and-go style, but long hair is closer; I can get away with blow-drying the bangs and putting the rest back, or letting the rest air dry. But when I have short hair I have to style my whole head, thoroughly, every morning, with quite a bit of product and blow-drying every inch of it. And if it doesn’t work that day, I’m stuck with it. And maybe because I’ve so rarely had short hair, it seems much less consistent short than longer (in part because 1/4″ growth makes a big difference to short hair, so the “short” hair is always evolving, whereas it’s almost nothing on longer hair). If short hair really did mean I could wash and go, it would be way simpler, but sadly that doesn’t happen. (And it’s not the stylists’ fault, I don’t think – I just have stubborn hair.)

  • http://lifewithkarly.blogspot.com Cindy M

    Anytime I ever cut my hair short (at age 8, 16, 23 (accidentally – my hairstylist friend totally misunderstood what I asked her to do, and 40-ish), I immediately let it start growing right back out again. I do not like short hair on myself, mostly, I believe, because I have very thick hair and it makes my head look HUGE to have short hair. I honestly believe the short haircut at age 23 is the reason my college boyfriend and I quit dating, especially as someone he knew saw a picture of us together from before the cut and asked why he wasn’t still with someone as cute as ‘that’ girl was… Anyhow, after the age 40 haircut, I kept it mid-length as I felt over 40 it just wasn’t right to go with long hair. Then, at age 50, 2 years ago, I decided that, by golly, I should do whatever I like best with my hair. It’s now down to my bra strap in back and I think that’s where I like it best. I actually LOVE it for the first time in years. And I get many compliments. I think I’ll follow my grandmother’s footsteps and just keep it long (maybe put it up in a ‘hairbob’ like she did) until the day I die! I don’t think I’ll ever go short again.

  • http://fashiontranslated.blogspot.com/ T.

    Short hair looks amazing on some women (like you, a friend of mine or Emma Watson) but it is not for me. I have thick, slightly wavy hair that turns into an unmanagable fluffy mess when it is cut too short (I know, because I had short hair two or three times when I was a child and a teenager). Also short hair, even chin-length hair doesn’t work with my face. I think my features aren’t feminine enough. The more feminine someones features are (small nose, high cheekbones) the better does short hair look.

  • Jessica

    It was a photo of French actress Audrey Tautou that made me do it– I got pixied three years ago, and have absolutely no regrets.

    Left to its own devices, my hair is a mangled mess when long, and a playful, bouffant crown of interesting little swirls when short. The short cut emphasizes the parts of me that I like best, and it pairs beautifully with the types of clothes and accessories I want to wear. So viva la pixie!

  • Jessica Schiermeister

    I currently have short pixie hair and have had it once before. I love it more than I ever think I do, because when I try to grow it out and it gets about to my shoulders, I can’t stand it. I hate how bulky and out of control my hair gets around my shoulders. Emma Watson is a big inspiration for my hairstyle, and I get compliment after compliment whenever I have it super short. And in the summer, it sure is nice!

  • Lydia

    I wanted to say Sal that your hair looks lovely and elegant short and long — and you accentuate your cuts so well with your accessories and wardrobe.

    I have long curly hair that is a little fine — it goes very frizzy at times, but generally dries in ringlets and waves, but can be wavy if I brush it. I have had a bob in the past (when I was 19, and then at 28,) but have kept it long or at least shoulder length since then (I am 41 now). I find my hair so much easier to look after when it is long because I wash and airdry. My hair also dries out fast and tangles easily so it requires more upkeep when it is shorter, as there are more layers to maintain.

    I find that many people at work are surprised that I do not sport shorter hair, as they consider it more ‘polished.’ Most people tell me I am brave for having longer hair because they think it is so much work! Every hair story is different I guess.

  • Wendy

    I’ve had short haircuts a couple of times in the past and for the most part, I like to see short hair on women, but it didn’t particularly suit me. What works best for my face shape is tying my hair back – I don’t know why. I liked how quick it was to wash and dry my hair when it was short and I am sometimes tempted to go back to a short style for this reason. My compromise is to grow my hair to the shortest length that allows me to tie it back. I do like the feeling of having my hair off my face.

  • http://unmitigated.typepad.com unmitigated me

    I wore my hair as short as yours is now when I was in my early twenties. I always struggle to feel feminine when it’s really short, and invariably end up letting it grow back out. I am going to post an amazing picture of my daughter with her new ‘do, sometime this morning. It’s stunning!

  • Debbie

    I have had all types of hair styles throughout the years but cut my hair to a very short length about six months ago and am very happy with the results! My hair is very fine, but there is so much of it that it took ages to dry. I tried popping it into a ponytail, but the hair would still be wet in the afternoon. I also noticed that menopause increased the amount of “head sweat” I was producing, so damp, limp, shoulder length hair was becoming the norm. After the cut I was amazed that it only took 10 minutes to blow dry, so I can now wash my hair any time to refresh and be ready to go quickly. I also got many compliments on how short hair have me a younger look – sweet!

  • Shelley

    How boring would the world be if we all had the same hair? I love both long and short styles…..it all just depends on the person and the cut. One thing I’ve noticed is that there are so many young girls (under 18) wearing their hair long, straight and parted on the side (so 60’s!). It is as if they are afraid to break out and do something different from their peers.

  • Mandy

    To answer- yes, I have had a very short pixie type cut a few times, mostly when I get sick of dealing with long hair. I’ve worn it all sorts of lengths, it’s a mid length now.
    My longest has been halfway down my back.
    No, I don’t consider it brave. I know it will grow, and I love a change. I probably cycle from short to long and back every 5 years or do but it rarely stays the same. I get bored too easily, lol!

  • Robyn

    I had very short hair for several years, but it wasn’t necessarily a happy thing for me. I was majorly struggling with my sexuality and I hated everything about myself that was feminine. So on top of keeping my hair extremely short, I wore tight bras, baggy clothes, and spoke in as low a tone as possible.

    Over the years, I’ve joyfully reclaimed a lot of my femininity, and in the meantime let my hair grow out. I’ve cut it a few times, but not anything shorter than an ear-length bob. I do miss the ease of short hair sometimes, though, and I’ve considered going back with a more feminine touch (long earrings look AMAZING with short hair, IMO). But as you said, hair is extremely emotional and I guess there’s a part of me that’s afraid of slipping back into hating-myself mode if I do. So for me, cutting it short again could possibly be considered brave?

  • http://fitandfeminist.wordpress.com Caitlin

    I love the way really short hair looks on women, and I wish it was something I felt comfortable doing for myself. When I have had short hair, I got misgendered like crazy and at the time I wasn’t comfortable with that. Maybe now that I’m a bit older, I wouldn’t find it so aggravating…

    I don’t know. Talk to me when I have kids and I’m still trying to be a runner. I’ll probably be like, “Who cares, call me ‘sir’ all you want!”

  • http://spidersilkstockings.blogspot.com Celynne

    I had short hair for several years as a teen, from something like 13 to 17 it was about an inch or two long and no longer. Now at 23 my hair nearly reaches the small of my back and I’m again considering cutting it short. The funny thing is… I’ve grown attached – no pun intended – to my hair! I’ve even had a nightmare where someone cut my hair and I woke up actually crying about it and was SO relieved that all my hair was still there. I’m just so afraid that I will regret cutting it if I do, because it does take several years to get hair as long as mine is now… I think it may be less a fear of short hair and more a fear of loss that comes with the short hair cuts that bothers people.

  • Nomi

    Brave, schmave. I’ve had short hair pretty much all my life: straight, curly, different colors, but sempre short. I look awful with long hair: stringy, limp, pathetic. Also, I don’t own a blowdryer or a brush. Towel & go, that’s the ticket!

  • http://playingcloset.blogspot.com/ Claire

    Oh, a topic dear to my heart and I have a lot to share! I started my hair chopping/growing out cycle in college and haven’t stopped for 15+ years (currently I’m in the growing out phase with a very specific goal in mind). It does seem to go shorter every time and last year was practically a buzz cut. Like you, I enjoy all the iterations although some become favorites.

    I think short hair can indeed be an indication of inner confidence and solid self-esteem, which others might interpret as being “brave” and wish to emulate. I do not think it is truly brave in the classic sense of the word, for the reasons you describe here, but we all have to find a way to talk about things and sometimes it’s just a relative term.

    For me, going short is useful in sooo many ways: I love color, so one practical aspect is starting color from scratch. I’ve used it as a strategy to manage trichotillomania (compulsive hair-pulling). I think of hair as an ultimate accessory, and short hair can really enhance certain dressing styles. I also find that when life starts to feel complicated and overwhelming, simplifying my hair routine is extremely helpful and refreshing.

    I must confess that my greatest short hair inspiration comes from two places: past photos of myself with various hairstyles (I see an old photo and want my old haircut or color RIGHT NOW. Am I the only one??). And from Japanese anime/manga cartoon animation. I always ask stylists if they know what that is (they rarely do) when trying to describe the style I want. I’m always tickled if I come home and my husband tells me I look like a little anime character :)

  • Kris

    I love the look of some long hair. I have fine, wavy hair that I wore between chin and shoulder length for many years, but I never could grow it any longer and have it look good. It just got scraggly looking–oh well! Then I lost 100+ pounds and got a pixie cut.After I lost the weight, I had a sudden urge to rediscover my jawline. I had very short hair in college and loved it, loved wearing big funky earrings and not getting them stuck in my curly hair. I am still enchanted by seeing my clavicles.I also stopped coloring it, just curious to see how much gray I have. I agree with the folks who say, just a style choice, I can always grow it out and color it again when I’m ready. I get a LOT of compliments. I feel sassy again!

  • http://pacificrain.blogspot.com sarah

    okay, I’ll bite. I’ve had everything: mid-back-length, bobs, pixies, even a buzz cut. I’ve dyed it just about every colour Feria makes (strawberry blonde, black, darker brown [it's normally medium-dark brown], orangey red, red-red, burgundy red). I’ve enjoyed them all. I’m growing out a strong Sassoon-style pixie now, because I told my husband, “okay, I’ll grow it for you for a while.” Also, I don’t have the money to maintain the short hair right now, so growing it is easier. TO save money, I had my hair seriously thinned (I have very thick hair) for the grow-out, and my husband has been trimming the back for me. SEriously, people compliment my “haircut” all the time, which I find hilarious, since it hasn’t been “cut” in months.

    Which brings me to… I think most people can wear any kind of look they want. It’s like wearing bright colours. Or prints. If you want it, just go and do it. Walk into a room like you own it, and people will buy it. And if people keep telling you not to cut your hair, tell them to shut up (or cut them out of your life; life is short and anyone who tries to dictate how others dress or style themselves is not worth wasting one’s time).

    I don’t think it’s brave to cut your hair short. I think the fact that we still have this conversation is evidence that our society still sees women as objects, still holds them to a fairly narrow standard of aesthetics, and has no place for a woman who wants to do or be things other than a bearer of children/sexualized object, etc. There. I’ve said it.

    After a woman I really admired died of cancer, I shaved my head. I grew new virgin hair for 4 years, which I cut and donated to Locks for Love in her memory (a mother of seven, she loved children. This was the best way I could think of to honour her and her life). After I cut my hair, it hit me: while i’d had the hair, I’d still had Kathy, in a way. I thought about her almost every day. I’d delayed my grief for four years. So when I cut my hair, I wept. I came home and told my husband, “she’s really gone, now.” ANd I wept. At school, the head of my doctoral program noticed I was down. He assumed that I was sad because I did not like my haircut. “Your hair was so beautiful,” he said. “But it’ll grow back.” Experiences like this are tiresome to me. And also evidence that our society is pretty messed up. I’d told everyone over the years who had complimented my hair, “Thanks, but it’s not really mine. It belongs to my friend’s memory – and someday, to a sick child.” Yet, after years of this, this man thought that the length of my hair was more important than the loss of a friend.

    We are so much more than our surfaces; and every time our culture insists that a woman is “brave” to get a pixie cut, we are insisting that she is nothing more than surface.

  • http://pacificrain.blogspot.com sarah

    btw, on a slightly less angry sidenote, I found that shaving my head gave me tremendous freedom. I started to calculate all the hours I had spent washing, drying, combing or styling my hair, hours that were mine now. TO sleep in, to read books, to paint, to write friends. I didn’t feel less feminine, exactly, but I felt freed from gender altogether. I remember feeling more truly human, I think because I didn’t have to parse my humanity into a M or F box. It didn’t change how I dressed or felt, but it was a very serene experience for me.

  • http://pattiwag.wordpress.com patricia

    My hair is growing in after months of baldness due to chemotherapy. I never wore a wig.

  • Julie

    I currently have a pixie cut, and have had variations of it for the past three-ish years. Before that I’ve had variations from nearly bra-strap length to just shorter than what I currently have (it was a shorter style pixie cut). I prefer my shorter hair, it’s less daily maintenance, and I can go about eight weeks in between hair cuts before I start thinking my hair has gotten too long.

    When I cut it short about four years ago (into a kind of awful on me jaw length style) because I needed a change in my life, and a haircut seemed the easiest way to do so, a friend said that I “looked more like me”.

    I’ve had a habit of being a wallflower, and hiding behind my long hair. Having short hair made me stand out just a bit more, and I found that I walked a bit taller without. I also had a coworker comment that I looked about five years older, quite the complement at the time (I’m perpetually young looking and was in my early twenties, appearing five years older was the difference between assuming I was a sophomore in high school and a sophomore in college)

    I think cutting one’s hair short can be brave, any massive change to one’s appearance can be an act of challenging their own perception of self, as well as challenging others’, sometimes long held, perceptions of them. Short hair on women can challenge some peoples’ perceptions if they happen to think that long hair equals female and feminine. And in some cases, yes it can be an act of bravery to be seen as a non conformist, especially in areas where such is met with confusion and intolerance, and at worst, hate and violence.

  • Di

    Two weeks ago I cut of my hair and went blonde (I had lovely, long dark brown hair). When my hairdresser first cut my hair off I hated it and wanted to cry. However when my hairdresser colored my hair a honey blonde I loved it..

    I’ve had a lot of people tell me I’m brave and for me it was a brave move.. I was attached to my long hair and loved the way I looked with long brown hair..

    I wasn’t sure how i felt with short blonde hair at first. I went home and got drunk and went to bed. The next morning i looked in the mirror and saw stylish and sophisticated person looking back!

    I now love my short blonde pixie cut. I am now a 6ft tall blonde and love my look!

    I’m so happy I cut off my hair and wish I had done it sooner.

  • http://lacubanitacose.blogspot.com Lisette M

    I recently cut my hair short, after emailing you for inspiration pictures, and I love it!

  • Rob

    Holy crap! So many defensive comments! Some dudes like short hair, but it is and always will be a fact that long hair simply looks ultra sensuous to most of us. Rail all you wish about the way we are wired, but damn, it’s not gonna change. Just as we can’t stop anyone from cutting her hair, YOU can’t prevent a lot of guys from feeling a letdown. The good news: some short cuts can be cute on the right woman, and two, you are doing what YOU want to do. But it’s silly to criticize the guys for not liking what they don’t like. Be assured that other gals WILL compliment you. LOL

  • Jessica

    Hi Sally, do you feel that your short cut requires less maintenance? I recall your hair being longer and wavy- with the short cut, do you need to flat iron it, or is it straighter just because it is shorter?

    • http://www.alreadypretty.com Sal

      Jessica, it takes more work to maintain this cut and look, but I am so much happier with it. I have to blow it dry and flat-iron it to keep in straight, otherwise it’s quite poofy!

  • Camilla

    Hi Sally! Thanks for the inspiration. When I look at your before and after picture, I see your hair on the before picture, the focus is on the hair whereas when I look at your short hair, I see YOU. You look great! I think the question is whether or not we need hair as a security blanket. I know I did all my life. I have a bob now, but have had short hair on and off. I am in my 40s and even though my hair is not entirely short, I keep it in a ponytail or up to have it gone from the face which to me is much like having short short hair. It is interesting when I had really short hair, I always got many comments. As a young teenager, I was mistaken for being a boy when I played badminton and went into the girls’ dressing room. Much later I have been told that with short hair, I don’t look like myself and I look ‘hard’ with all the hair gone. With short hair you see what a person really looks like without the distraction of the hair. There is nothing to hide behind… that is what I see when I look at your picture. I found an interesting article about hiding behind hair last year because I went through losing a lot of my long hair due to a bad hair perm and dye. How many of us put our identity into our hair and believe our looks is who we really are. It can be a reflection of who we are, but it is not our true and inner self. Here is the link for anyone who is interested.

    http://www.carouselstrands.com/highlights/uncategorized/hiding-behind-hair-the-security-blanket-phenomenon/

    • Camilla

      I forgot to say that in a world of masks, I think it is brave to show ones face without long hair as a curtain or as a way to hide what is real. Hair has a lot of power, but I think it is a shame to find ones self worth and self definition in hair alone because it can be cut off and gone anytime.

  • NAIKKY

    For many years I had long hair.Every body told me I had beautiful long hair so I didn`t try to have short cut hair. .When I was bored of long hair for many years, I have started to have short hair style and I love it…It`s too easy to take care of my hair and they don`t fall all the time as they did when I had long hair.Every body tells me that I look much younger and more beautiful.Besides it`s great in summer time while the weather is hot.I often look for Halle Berry hair style and love it…

  • em

    Hi Love your hair. The pics look like you have fairly thick hair with some wave? Just curious because that is how I would describe my hair. I really love the way you have it styled in the bottom left corner photo. You give me hope that perhaps mine could look that way with the right stylist’s help!

  • Mia

    I have short hair, like Michelle Williams in the second picture above. I LOVE it! I have had from VERY long to extremely short, and everything in between, but this pixie is my favourite! Just as you, I don’t consider it brave to get à short haircut. It’s just HAIR, for Gods sake!