Lovely Links: 3/16/12

This post on the sexualization of women’s clothing and the shaming language used to describe that clothing raises many valid and interesting points.

On a related note, Four Guardian readers offer their views on the sexualization of young girls. Responses are varied and a bit convoluted at times, but many make valid and thought-provoking points. (Cheers, Mhairi.)

Virginia wonders if fitspiration is the new thinspiration, and could end up being equally damaging. Your thoughts?

Love this mix of saturated pastels and warm gray.

Patricia feels passionately about creating her OWN fashion guidelines. Kudos to her!

Thanks to Cheryl, I’m swooning over Sincerely Mally’s amazing mix of funky, polished, and daring looks.

Responding to your body requires admitting, first of all, that you have a body, that you are a body, that your head does not float on a metaphysical balloon somewhere just north your body, untouchable.”

Tangerine is the color of the season, and College Candy has rounded up eight adorable tangerine pieces for under $20 a pop.

I love it when amazing bloggers collaborate: Autumn of The Beheld interviewed Kjerstin of Mirror Mirror Off the Wall about dysmorphia, vanity, self-expression, and trust.

Preppy pink and green are given an edge when leopard print enters the mix.

Kyla shares her thoughts on the art of being fearless.

The retro-tinged, rebel-rocker looks in plus-sized line Domino Dollhouse’s spring line are such fun.

“My favorite thing about my body is its size.  I love the fact that I’m tall and broad-shouldered and highly visible.  I know that my size draws attention to me and I figured if I’m going to be seen, I’m going to be seen.”

Lilli’s heart-pattern dress is such fun. AND it comes with a darling, romantic story!

I thought Lisa Bloom’s article on “how to talk to little girls” presented an important perspective, and so did all of you judging from the number of you that leave it in comments and e-mail it to me still. But like Autumn, I felt it left out the long view of living in a beauty-obsessed world. Cultivating self-love, acceptance, and positive body image are all important goals, and Amanda’s practice of telling her daughters that she believes herself to be beautiful may be a great way to kickstart those processes.

Check out these great picks for subtle statement jewelry. (Not an oxymoron, I swear.)

A bright green clutch adds the perfect pop of color to a monochrome outfit.

Frugal Fashionista does a bang-up job of re-creating celebrity looks for less. Particularly loving this one from Olivia Palermo, featuring floral skinnies.

Thrift Goddess Elissa shares thrifting tips for the busy shopper.

This conversation between three Muslim women – one who wears a hijab, one who wears a niqab, and one who wears nothing – is fascinating. Just three representatives of much larger populations, of course, but with varied perspectives. (Cheers, Eliza)

And from the Department of Random: The blog ModernSauce is irreverent, hilarious, and marvelously random in and of itself.

  • Claire

    I was actually troubled with the so-called fitness inspiration on Pinterest a while back and wanted to email you asking your opinion, but couldn’t figure out how to word it properly. It seems to me like it’s yet another unnecessary (and perhaps unattainable) ideal, this time donning a mask of health, and it almost always comes with a large dose of self-flagellation. I don’t like that we’re moving toward the idea that you need washboard abs and perfectly toned limbs to be healthy. Don’t even get me started on the phrase “skinny fat” – it’s basically a new way to tell women they’re not good enough, isn’t it?
    I’d still love to hear your thoughts about the whole thing.

  • http://fitandfeminist.wordpress.com Caitlin

    Oh man, so many links to read – and I just finished reading the ones I got from Autumn’s blog!

    I’m glad you linked to Virginia’s piece about fitspo on Pinterest/tumblr. I commented on her blog to talk about how problematic I find some of it to be, even though I use my own Pinterest account to keep track of fitspo imagery. I think that for me the big difference is seeing the women in action vs. seeing them stand around with abs oiled up and exposed. The latter for me is just another way in which the woman is rendered passive and ornamental.

    That post from Fashion for Giants made me giddy with happiness. Thanks for sharing it!

  • http://fashionforgiants.blogspot.com Gracey at Fashion for Giants

    Aw, shoot, Sal. Thanks so much for including that post of mine. It meant a lot to me to write and the response has been really great.

    Gracey

    • http://www.amidprivilege.com Lisa

      That was SUCH a great post.

  • http://pacificrain.blogspot.com sarah

    Sal, what a FAB round-up. I think you’ve really outdone yourself this week!

    The Fitspo piece made me realize that my baked potato needed more butter, thanks for that – it was much better with another pat, melting all salty and delicious into that fluffy Russet.

    LOVE the fashion for giants piece. Yes yes oh hell yes, girl! Maybe it’s a sad commentary on our culture, but have you ever noticed how much JOY you can bring to other people by just being unabashedly yourself?

  • http://pacificrain.blogspot.com sarah

    ps “girls, I am beautiful” made me weep. Not only for being stunningly well-crafted and gentle and beautiful, but for its powerful message. I wish my mother could give herself this gift of acceptance.

  • http://www.patience-crabstick.blogspot.com Patience

    The fitspiration images on pinterest bug me too. She makes a good point.

  • http://www.amidprivilege.com Lisa

    Sal, thank you so much for including me. My ideas on jewelry pale in comparison to the people breaking boundaries around size and shape, so I’m very humbled in this company.

  • http://the-beheld.com Autumn

    Thanks for including Kjerstin’s interview! And I too love it when bloggers collaborate–and when a blogger I didn’t realize “knew” another blogger promotes her, as with you and ModernSauce. Love her!

  • http://www.lastmomonearth.com Amanda

    Thank you so much for including my piece about telling my girls I’m beautiful. It was kind of a DUH moment for me, like… I should have been doing this their whole lives.

  • http://respecttheshoes.blogspot.com respect the shoes

    These round-ups are awesome, and are always a great way for me to find some new blogs. (Thanks for including me this week too!)

  • http://modernsauce.blogspot.com ModernSauce

    Department of Random, indeed! It’s an honor to be included in such a ferocious round-up of links as I always use your recaps to find the best of the best that I missed during the week. Thank you (and Autumn!) for reading. A pleasure.

    Carry on with your saucy self!

  • Ericka

    Sal,

    Check out these great picks for subtle statement jewelry. (Not an oxymoron, I swear.)

    This above link got blocked by my computer for being unsafe (trojan). Just thought you would want to know.

  • http://paperarmour.blogspot.com Elspeth @ paperarmour

    I think my mother had a love/hate relationship with beauty. She didn’t want to make me feel like my physical attractiveness was an important atribute, so she didn’t really tell me I was beautiful very much. She also got really awkward when people complemented my beauty in front of us both. She didn’t seem to know what to say. That didn’t teach me good things about my self-image. I had my friends parents and strangers telling me I was beautiful all the time, but not my own mother.

    I had to teach myself what it meant to be beautiful. I wish my mother had helped me learn those things.

    • http://paperarmour.blogspot.com Elspeth @ paperarmour

      That said, I love my mom. She’s loving and wonderful, she just didn’t have 100% of parenting figured out. But no one does, right? So I don’t blame her. I don’t think her mother made her feel beautiful either, and she was a lovely sweet woman too.

  • http://www.bluecollarcatwalk.com Kyla

    Great links, and as always, I’m honored to be included. Thanks, Sal!