In this episode, Sex Educator Laura Rad leads into the exciting world of lingerie. Why is lingerie a great tool for building confidence in the bedroom? What should you do if your partner wants you to wear lacy underthings and you’re reluctant? Listen to find out!
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Hi Sal, I’ve got feedback if you want it: I just listened to the first two thirds of this podcast before stopping it, and there were a couple moments that put me off.
First: one of the hosts related a story about a husband’s brother seeing the wife in sweats and joking something like “oh, so this is what you come home to now,” with the only take-home being that it was a wakeup call to the wife about how she dressed around her husband. I don’t want to discount the message (it’s valid and worthy of discussion), but telling that story without any other comment felt like I was listening to something from the ’50s about wives’ obligations in the domestic sphere. I think it had to do with the idea that other people (and not close friends of mine, talking just to me) get to comment on how I dress in front of my husband. My husband can and will tell me what he likes to see on me, but there’s something about social policing of women, and stereotypical “haha, look what happens after you’re married” comments in particular, that feel gross and objectifying.
Second: Someone brought up the lack of lingerie size options, and a host’s response ended up focusing only on plus-sized women (okay), ending with mentioning a study about how men really find larger women more attractive than thin model-types. Unlike the first issue, I don’t think I have to explain my thoughts on citing men’s body preferences as evidence and pitting some women’s figures against others (evocative of the “real women” issue). I turned off the podcast after that.
I’m trying not to be hyperbolic or use words like “offended,” and I know this is better than what I would get in a women’s magazine. I’m also not extraordinarily sensitive, which is to say that I can realize these things without spending the rest of my day upset. Maybe the things I’m disliking are more accessible for some people, and they come away with good stuff along with the not-so-good. Personally, though, I read your blog more than any other style/fashion site because it tries to counteract those sorts of messages; without that body-negative noise, I can enjoy just thinking about clothes and style. But…I don’t think the podcast is doing that, so I probably won’t be listening to it myself.