Lovely Links: 1/20/12

In case you missed the announcement, the second Strong, Sexy & Stylish podcast is now live: Better Self-esteem = Better Sex. We’ve also got tickets left for our event on 1/25!

If feminists ignore fashion, we are ceding our power to influence it. Fortunately, history has shown that feminists can, instead, harness fashion and use it for our own political purposes.” (Cheers NessPas)

This guide to necklace length won’t be universally accurate, but might give you a rough idea of what to expect when ordering jewelry online.

In case you’re still doubtful that thrifted goods can be chic, check out Keri’s super stylish 100% thrifted ensemble.

“I’ve gone from trendy high street shopping to hoarding second hand, then back to high street, then investing in more expensive items, then back to thrifting. I’ve tried budgeting, splurging, shopping strikes, moderation, and everything in between. And still, at the back of my mind, I’ve known that whatever I was trying to do at a given time, things were not making sense. I was a bad shopper.”

Casey shares her thoughts on tracking down affordable, vintage-style shoes. And she should know!

How fun are these David Bowie-inspired looks? So fun.

Oh, how I adore teal and mustard together.

Do you have a smile that’s specific to photos? This post explores how trying to arrange your face into gorgeous, photogenic perfection can backfire. And why an “imperfect” but genuine smile often looks truly lovely.

This cowl-necked Fair Isle sweater dress is too cute for words. And so is the gal wearing it.

“I did learn one thing, during this whole weight loss surgery-type journey I’ve been on: if you are not happy with your body and in your skin, it doesn’t matter what size you are and what other people think you look like. There is no objectivity when it comes to being comfortable with your body.”

Wondering how you can help your daughters build up their confidence? This Q&A has some intriguing insights.

This article explores the false premise that there’s a link between attractiveness and smarts, specifically that smart people are “unattractive.” Lots of studies explored, lots of theories mentioned, a lot to chew on. (Cheers, Sarah!)

Franca offers some ideas for how to define ethical fashion.

“… there is this small voice in my head that asks a lot of questions. Like, will I be equally surprised with my appearance at 60 as I am now? Will I ever feel that my insides and my outsides match again? When did that stop?”

Megan’s edgy burgundy monochromatic look is broken up by a pop of pink.

Jane Fae explores how the beauty myth impacts trans women. Such a fascinating read. (Headline is not safe for work. Via The Beheld)

As someone who vastly prefers being clothed at all times, I could really relate to Elissa’s post on nudity and comfort levels.

This video tutorial shows how to create a faux bob. Cute!

A post that I hope you’ll never need, but may come in very handy if you do: What to wear while you’re temporarily camped out in a hospital waiting room.

This open letter to “thinspiration” blogs is a must-read. I, too, am finding it harder to avoid that stuff and it scares the crap outta me.

And from the Department of Random: I cannot resist an Oatmeal post about grammar. Cannot! When to use i.e. in a sentence.

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  • Sophia

    Sal,
    The helpful link on necklace lengths has prompted a request – I’d really like it if you could post some insights into ideal length of necklaces for various outfits, especially long necklaces. I usually wear necklaces that fall on my collarbone or upper breast but recently I couldn’t resist a super long one to match with a tunic. The problem is that I’m a bit short so I think it could be too long as it reaches at least to my tummy button which makes it touch or go past the belt. To me it looks funny but I’d like to know your opinion before I go ahead and shorten it.
    Thanks, Sophia

  • Oh wow, I’d missed Minh-Ha Pham’s post–she’s amazing, and I love that piece. It’s sort of a manifesto for what some of us are doing, in a way. Thank you! For that and for the link to The Beheld. (Say cheese!)

  • Oh, the post about thinspiration blogs totally resonates.

  • Dionne

    Boy, that article about thinspiration blogs is scary! To me it’s a similar vibe to what I’ve noticed since joining Pinterest. Lots and lots of pictures of 22yo women with washboard abs as supposed “healthy motivation.” (I actually got so annoyed I created a board and filled it with women of various ages, weights and disabilities as my “inspiration.”) That’s not motivating to me, it’s unrealistic and demeaning. Not quite as scary as the pro-ana trend, but I don’t think it’s too far off. I’d love to see a blog post that addresses that trend as well.

    Excellent round-up as always, Sal.

  • Thanks so much for the shout-out, Sal! Another wonderful week of links.

  • Thanks ever so much for including the link to my post about shoes!!! 😀

  • Thanks so much for linking to my interview, Sal! I really appreciate it.

    As always, awesome round-up.

    Have a great weekend! 🙂

  • Great links, as always, and thank you so much for including me! 🙂

  • Nancy

    I appreciate the post about the popularity of “thinspiration” and what that post is trying to accomplish. However, I found it very frustrating.

    If I were an adolescent girl reading that “letter” I would think:
    “Right. Another adult telling me to ‘love my body for what it can do rather than how it looks’ while the item just to the right of this letter shows a series of very thin, conventionally beautiful starlets who are being VOTED On for their APPEARANCE (not their performance). (Insert eye-roll).”

    Girls might stop obsessing about their bodies once the rest of us stop rewarding/idolizing/lavishing attention on women who look a certain way. Until then, of course girls are going to have thinspo sites. Girls are generally very socially perceptive and they are ignoring what we say/preach and watching what we actually do.

    I guess I feel a letter like this is sort of the equivalent of Nancy Reagan’s “Just Say No!” anti-drug crusade from the 1980s.

    I guess I wish the Frisky blogger had used the uncomfortableness she felt with the thinspiration photos as an opportunity to examine what she, herself (and we, ourselves) are doing to ensure that girls get the attention and approval (that they developmentally crave) for healthy behaviors rather than just telling/begging/pleading with them to stop being unhealthy.

  • Anat

    What a stellar list of links! Even though I’d read and enjoyed quite a few already, the ones I hadn’t were equally fascinating. And intorduced me to some new blogs. Thank you! I look forward to your lovely links every Saturday morning.

  • And again, I had to click on more than every second item of your list!

    Thank you!

  • Thank you so much for linking to my article. Now that my sister is on the mend, I need to go back and read what I actually wrote! But I have heard from many people that the article is helpful, and I hope by you sharing it others will be more prepared for a difficult situation. You rock Sally, your link list is always inspiring, thought-provoking, and adds more blogs to my Reader! <3

  • Thanks for the great link to feminist fashion. So often there is a belief that feminists cannot be fashionable!

  • Another great roundup! Thanks for linking to my post. I really appreciate it. 🙂