Lovely Links: 10/28/11

There’s still time to swing by the Hanes Looks to Love contest and vote for me! I’d be oh-so-very grateful, my friends. (Details here, if you missed the announcement post.) You can vote every day, so if you’ve already voted for me, you can vote again! And THANK YOU.

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Might be too late for this year, but bookmark it for next year: Halloween costume suggestions for women who don’t want to go as a “sexy nurse,” “sexy cat,” or “sexy miscellaneous inanimate object.” Includes loads of historical and mythic figures, and links to buy the various costume pieces.

Don’t think a 70-year-old bookkeeper can rock a leather sheath dress? Oh, how wrong you are.

“You have to love yourself first. You have to love yourself above everything else. But wanting to lose weight, or the act of weight loss when you’re feeding yourself the foods that make YOU feel good or moving in a way that YOU love, will not make you a body image warrior exile in my book.”

Newly enamored of Gray Skies, and feel like we own approximately 30% of the same wardrobe items. Crazy!

This Bette Davis-inspired outfit took my breath away.

Susan shares some easy ideas for jump-starting your personal style when you’re stuck in a rut.

In this post, Women’s and Gender Studies Professor A-Dubs recounts an exchange she had with the parent of a high school girl who has succumbed to the “stereotype of feminists as man-hating, humourless separationist lesbians,” and is convinced that the WGS program will “recruit” her daughter to this mindset. Upsetting on so many levels, chief among them the preposterous notion that all lesbians are angry and hate men.

Ethical consumption is an extremely complex issue, and this post does a great job of exploring several important aspects of an overwhelming and confusing topic.

Tanesha pairs oversized earrings and a sequin top, creating a magical and luminous look.

Another articulate argument for thinking twice before complimenting anyone on visible weight loss. (Cheers, Tara.) My thoughts on this topic here.

Kasmira does double plaid, and makes it look effortless.

Over at The New Professional, Angeline talks about makeup at the office, how it’s totally optional, but how it can contribute to an overall impression of professionalism in some cases.

Check out this tutorial for creating Coretta-worthy waves. (This is a guest post from the creator of Retro Natural, whose entire blog is dedicated to phenomenal vintage looks and retro hairstyles that work with natural hair.)

My two favorite DIYs this week: Refashioning costume jewelry by hand-coloring gems, and creating a scarf-wristband watch.

Feministe offers “a list, albeit not a universal or comprehensive one, of things to do when you see a woman dressed all sexy-like.”

Blue and black and chic all over. (Yes, I have a massive style crush on Stephanie. So sue me.)

Kjerstin digs up some interesting facts about Rockwell’s “Girl at Mirror” painting.

College Candy has tracked down eight great camel-colored fall staples for $20 or less.

As women, everything we wear is a statement, and we have no right to remain sartorially silent. We negotiate a field of signifiers every time we open our wardrobes, or, in my case, every time we rummage through the clothes-pile on the bedroom floor.” (Via The Beheld)

A fascinating peek into the trends and politics of bra shapes.

  • http://fashionforgiants.blogspot.com Gracey at Fashion for Giants

    Thank you for including Stacey at Gray Skies – I’ve seen a couple of her looks on GCOGH but hadn’t had a chance to stop by her blog. I love it!

  • http://hal.cyondays.com Loren

    Nice set of links. I really love the ‘non-sexy’ costumes one. My mother wants to have a fun costume around for parties, but needs a little inspiration. I tried to convince her to go as ‘Diana’ the goddess of the hunt, (because my mom’s name is Diane) I think she’d like this link as well.

  • Tara

    Awesome link to the Halloween costume ideas! I have zero issue with sexy_fill in the blank costumes, but variety is the spice of life. This year I’m going as (non-sexy) Hello Kitty. So excited! I love Halloween. Past years I have been: Medusa, Tenderheart Bear, a monarch butterfly, a spooky rag doll, a kind of dominatrix bat, “the cat’s pajamas” and probably dozens of other things I can’t remember. I love new costume ideas.

  • http://hereslookingatmekid.com Mandi

    Thanks for including my blog, Sally! I really admire your own, and especially your writing style. I first found you a few months ago and am so glad I did!

  • Tracy

    Just wanted to let you know how much I enjoy your Lovely Links posts. You always have some great sites I would have never discovered otherwise. I look forward to them every Friday!

  • Josie

    Thanks for the “not sexy” Halloween costumes! It’s getting a little out of hand….Sexy Fighter Pilot?? How is that practical??

  • http://youlookfab.com/ angie

    Always a fab set of links!

    Thanks for sharing my rocking 70 year old client in her leather sheath with your readers :)

  • A.

    thank you for sharing the weight-loss comment article. if there is one topic that i think should be banned from the proverbial dinner table, it’s the body weight of people around you. my best friend lost a lot of weight a few years ago after struggling her entire teenaged-into-early-twenties to keep her weight steady. the guy that i was dating (and had been for several years) would comment about her weight loss and how good she looked EVERY time they saw each other. it wasn’t until after my ex and i split that i heard about how she felt every time he made those comments. a lot of her feelings are echoed in that article. what’s interesting is that my ex struggled with his own weight problems for many of the years we were together, and had lost a good amount of weight before we met. it never dawned on him how condescending he came off by continuously bringing it up, especially after she had stopped losing weight.

    • J.B.

      Yeah, my wake up call on that was when my sister told me her best friend was bulimic and when she was at her low point, people kept constantly complimenting her. But I also have an overweight friend who is so hurt when no one notices her efforts at weight loss (she feels like people don’t even see the difference between 220 and 180, that they still only see a fat woman). So my current approach, and still I only do this with friends because it is creepy to comment on the bodies of people you don’t know well, is just to acknowledge weight loss, but without any compliments.

      My mother-in-law once commented in a complimentary way that I had lost a few pounds (maybe five?). The fact that she would even notice made me super uptight, because when I am heavier, she must notice that too, and not look favorably on it, even if she doesn’t say anything.

  • http://aris-tgd.dreamwidth.org Aris Merquoni

    Thanks for the link roundup as always–and thanks for the link to Gray Skies, who is local to me!–but the whatiwore2day link popped up a bunch of alerts from my anti-virus software. Just so you know.

    • Snapper

      Same for me with the alerts. :(

      • http://www.alreadypretty.com Sal

        That is SO WEIRD! I don’t get any alerts … I’ll let Kasmira know.

    • http://whatiwore2day.blogspot.com/ Kasmira

      I’d like to fix this bug! Please let me know the text of the alert or send me a screenshot so that I can troubleshoot. Thanks!

    • http://aris-tgd.dreamwidth.org Aris Merquoni

      Just so people checking these comments know–the alert has vanished as mysteriously as it came, so I think it was some kind of third-party widget or ad–that actually happens a lot, and it means that someone probably alerted the culprit directly and it got fixed. So it’s TOTALLY SAFE–and that was a really terrific outfit post!

  • Kenzie

    YAY A Portland blogger! Having just moved here I’m still seeking out the best places to shop and especially thrift. Gray Skies has been bookmarked :)

    • http://aris-tgd.dreamwidth.org Aris Merquoni

      Welcome to Portland!

  • http://www.oranges-and-apples.com/ Franca

    Thanks so much for including my ethical shopping post. It really is overwhelming and confusing!

  • Marti

    I voted for you. I really like your blog. But why oh why did you have to pose pigeon-toed? Do you really naturally stand that way? And the same for the gal in plaid in your link.

    We have all these ‘love your body no matter what’ blogs and conversations and observations, but what does posing pigeon-toed say about us? That we wish we were younger, like a kid? Or are we trying to say we are shy, timid, fragile little flowers?

    I want to scream: stand tall, stand proud, stand like you have self confidence. Imitating skeletal models in bizarre fashion shoots is just so wrong on so many levels.

    • http://www.alreadypretty.com Sal

      I appreciate your vote and support! I receive comments and e-mails every week telling me to vary my poses, to pose with my hands down at my sides so people can see the clothes in their natural state, that my smile is fabulous, that smiling in every photo is boring, that I should look directly at the camera, that I should wear more makeup. I’ve even been told by a reader that posting my own photos on a daily basis degrades my body positive message because I’m too “thin and pretty.” In this case, I was asked to submit three photos showcasing three different looks. I did so utilizing three different poses to mix it up.

  • Carrie

    TakeBackHalloween.org is the best site I’ve seen in a long time! I’ve been on the look out for something like this for years. Thanks for finding it & sharing.

  • Sarah

    The weight loss compliment article is awesome. Thanks. I honestly have always felt awkward about commenting/complimenting weight loss in friends and family. It’s not that I don’t see their accomplishment. It’s just that I see this as a sensitive subject which they may not want to be a focal point of conversation. Also, being on the other end and desperately *needing* to gain a few pounds (not easy to do for the chronically underweight), it gets really tiresome hearing people comment on *my* weight. There really is no “right” way to talk about it sometimes. When I get complimented for being skinny, I think “Well, being allergic to gluten makes it hard to stay at a healthy weight” or “What happens one day when I’m not this size?” When I get concerned looks or comments about how I am too skinny, I feel ugly and helpless and like I am defending my eating habits. (“No really, I do eat enough calories. I eat way more than is recommended, actually. No I am not binging,” etc).

  • http://www.gray-skies.blogspot.com/ Stacey

    Well it has taken me forever to comment on this, but I just wanted to say thank you for mentioning my blog in your link roundup!