Lovely Links: 6/17/11

I’m a bit stunned to see that I got a shout-out in The Chronicle of Higher Education, in a fascinating article on dressing, power, and feminism in academia! Some of my favorite daily reads were also highlighted, including Academichic, Threadbared, In Professorial Fashion, What Would a Nerd Wear, and Fashion for Nerds. (Cheers for the heads up, Susan.)

Wondering how to create  a long leg line with cropped pants? Here are some tips.

Check out these five great sources for custom-made clothes. Spendy stuff, but nothing beats a tailored fit!

In response to this post about how loads of women are dressing and acting like little girls, Tami points out that this trend seems to bound by class and race. Your thoughts? (Both via Yum & Yuk)

Imogen has just released a new, 100-page eBook titled “The Finishing Touch: How to Accessorize,” and it’s just fab! (Just like everything she does.)

I met some amazing gals at the Bali Style Summit this week, and am especially enamored of Cynthia from Addicted 2 Etsy. She’s got style for miles.

It’s official: Brazilian Blowouts are hazardous to your heath.

New-to-me blog J’s Everyday Fashion has a great selection of magazine, catalog, and fellow-blogger-inspired outfit shots. Side-by-side imagery shows how J’s take varies from the inspirational ensemble.

Simone discusses the relatively recent spate of fictional female characters billed as ugly, awkward, and/or geeky but played by beautiful actresses, and ponders this phenomenon’s ramifications on female self-esteem.

This WSJ article details the perils of summer footwear, and offers some solutions for rubbing, blisters, and shoe-related soreness.

College Candy gives us eight fun feathered pieces for under $20 a pop.

When you feel your inner voices starting to criticize and nag, see if you can get the real you to speak up instead.

I can’t help it. I completely love Zarna’s exaggerated flare jeans.

Deanna shares her tips on how to pack a single carry-on bag for a conference that includes casual, business, and formal events. AMAZING.

The Budget Babe tried out a dress recycling service called NewlyMaid.com that offered a discounted price on a NEW dress for sending in an old one, and felt a bit duped by their confusing pitch.

“Huma Abedin is beautiful. But bringing her beauty into the discussion of her husband’s behavior is disrespectful to her as a wife and a woman. Beauty will not help her handle this situation; only her character will.”

This double-loop belt knot is absolutely adorable. (Via The New Professional)

Anika’s love letter to personal style bloggers is simply marvelous.

More than a little jealous of this handmade robot-print dress. (Via A Dress a Day)

Miss Plumcake shares five fabulous swimsuits for plus-sized women … in gorgeous colors. YES!

Amber has launched a Virtual Body Image Book Club, and it sounds utterly amazing.

Corporette asks: Can shorts suits be worn in a professional setting?

And from the Department of Random: Newly in love with comic Josie Long thanks to Mighty Girl.

  • Rebecca

    Great links, but I do want to point out that feathered jewelry is not always cruelty free, please do your research and find designers who use only molted feathers. Compassion is always in fashion!

  • Tara

    eShakti makes affordable custom-made clothes. http://www.eshakti.com

    I think what’s less feminist than women wearing girlie clothes or liking kittens is assuming that said women are doing it for attention from boys. Ugh. Not everything women do is motivated by trying to get the attention of the opposite sex.

    I am 35 and have always enjoyed vintage puppy pins, barrettes, baby doll dresses, mary janes, etc. I admit that as I age, I have to be careful that I don’t cross over into “Whatever Happened to Baby Jane” territory, but I’ll never give up my girly flair all together!

    My two cents.

    • pope suburban

      Yes! This is a problem I have around Halloween every year. I am a big fan of Halloween, see, so I always find myself at a party, which means I’m likely to be pretty toasty most of the evening, what with all the moving and the crowd. On top of my temperature concerns, I like revealing costumes because they are so far from my very modest daily wear. It’s the huge difference that I find fun; I get to break out of my usual rut in every way and I find that helps me get creative. I don’t care what men think, I just think it’s fun as heck. Seeing the annual hate-parade about how every woman who just *has to be* smarter than me (because only dumb bunnies wear short skirts, blah) just *knows* that my only motivation for my costume is to troll for men makes me sad and angry. Sad they’re all so competitive and bitter, and angry that they feel it is okay or necessary to tear other women down. Like, people, seriously, it is just a costume, let’s not read too much into it or decide I have to be some complete idiot bent only on making strange men happy because that’s where my self-worth comes from. Blar. My cat and I are not amused.

      • Anonymous

        Pope, we think a lot alike! I am also a fan of the sexy Halloween costume and won’t be deterred by the haters. I have always dressed for one person: ME. Too bad so many “feminists” are boggled by this concept.

  • http://www.curvyyoga.com Anna Guest-Jelley

    The Chronicle! Love it!! ♥

  • pope suburban

    That Jezebel article left a bad taste in my mouth. I love kittens, Girl Scout cookies, Converse sneakers, bake sales, crafting, and etsy jewelry. I am also a college-educated professional who doesn’t take guff from anyone wanting to disrespect me. To imply that all these things are somehow part of an elaborate lie to make boys like me is insulting and, I feel, just as bad as letting those hypothetical boys dictate how I act. It has nothing to do with “dumbing down” or acting twee so my brains don’t scare people, and everything to do with the fact that gee whiz, I just like that stuff. This all feels like a restatement of the old trope that traditionally male activities are good and praise-worthy, while traditionally female activities are intellectually weak and useless. I’m not buying it. While there might indeed be a time and a place– I’m not going to wear my graphic tees to work– and while there is nothing wrong or icky about growing older, that’s not what I see being put forth here. It’s just more of the same old pressures to act and look a certain way if you want to be “good enough.” I’ll take my properly capitalized e-mails *and* my whoopie pies, thank you very much!

    • http://www.alreadypretty.com Sal

      Well said, my friend!

    • skalja

      Yeah, I gotta agree. Tami points out that people’s personal choices are affected by their societal context, and she’s right, but how is the conception of adulthood that she and Julie Klausner accept by default not influenced by society as well? There’s nothing inherently childish or immature about cupcakes, ukuleles or buying jewelry on Etsy (that one’s particularly bizarre — supporting independent craftspeople is immature now? Say what now?) without the values the community we live in ascribes to them.

    • Cat

      I felt the same way about the article, and you’ve said a mouthful much better than I could.

      • http://impybat.blogspot.com Terri

        Yeah, pope suburban totally nailed it!

    • http://elizabethbiro.wordpress.com Liz

      God, that article has left me fuming! I am so glad someone else beat me to this. I second everything pope suburban has said and would like to add that this final sentence – “It’s much harder to bring down a woman, or to call her a moron, when she’s not in pigtails and Ring Pops.” – is about the least feminist thing I’ve ever read, and for Jezebel to endorse that women can’t have respect if they chose a certain hairstyle or junk food is just plain insulting to both women AND men.

  • http://www.byanika.com Anika www.byanika.com

    Wow, sweetheart, thank you so very much! I love the other links you have included as well. I have been thinking about you, I love what you are doing here chez toi, we seem to advocate the same thing you and I; self esteem and dignity. Lovely. Big hugs coming your way from Oslo

  • http://www.fashionforgiants.blogspot.com Gracey at Fashion For Giants

    Wonderful links once again, Sal. Congrats on the mention in The Chronicle of Higher Education – that’s fabulous! And I have to say that Anika’s post was just the best. I loved it so much and am thrilled to see you include it here.

  • http://www.geekthreads.blogspot.com Audi

    Woo-hoo, thanks for the mention! I’m always thrilled to see my posts make the cut, because you round up such great stuff.

  • http://whatwouldanerdwear.blogspot.com what would a nerd wear

    holy crap I had no idea about the chronicle of higher ed piece! thanks for the link, sal!

  • http://www.wardrobeoxygen.com Allie

    As always a great round up, many articles and blog posts that I too read and inspired me, made me think, or made me react. Looking forward to some more thought-provoking reading from the links you have that I have yet to experience!

  • Cat

    I felt the Jezebel article was very judgmental and negative. I may not be the type to exclaim over kittens and wear rompers, but I’m not going to assume anyone who does fills their whole life with silly, childish activities. Who’s to say the tattoos girls get are ones ‘they will never be able to grow into’ and what’s wrong with being addicted to something like L.A. Noire? I enjoyed the other article you linked to, the one that was a response to the Jezebel one. Tami’s article made my think about the points she raised, and even begin to wonder what the source of this girlish fascination is.

  • http://pregnantandbeautiful.wordpress.com Tabitihia

    Loved these links! I agree with pope suburban about the “women acting as children” article though. I quite like birds and rompers, but my husband and male co-workers respect me for being so “feminine” when it’s time and working just as hard as them, if not harder when it’s time.

    I also agree with the beautiful women playing “ugly” women article. Or thin people playing people that are suppose to be “bigger.” I haven’t watched True Blood, but I love the books it’s based off of. I have seen who plays Sookie, and she is thin and beautiful. The book describes her not as ugly, but about a size 10-12 (average weight), larger hips, and pretty but not traditionally drop-dead gorgeous. Anna Paquin is beautiful, but does not fit that description. And if I see one more “plus-sized” model that is a size 8 at the largest, or has no tummy at all, I may scream.

  • JRose

    Hm, I take issue with that article on beautiful actresses playing ugly women. I definitely agree that “ugly women” in movies aren’t really ugly. (But then you can’t really tell a famous actress, ‘you have the perfect face for the ugly character!’ Directors sort of have to take what they can get, you know?) But my real problem is with quotes like this: “These types of representations set women up to fail because they cannot even achieve ugliness.” Simone acts as if women are already lightyears away from the beauty of actresses. I disagree. Sure actresses have Hollywood diet regimens, spanx, and million-dollar makeup artists, but aside from suspiciously lumpless waists and perfectly luminous skin, the “average” woman you see on the street is quite as beautiful as any of the women mentioned. Simone essential says that beauty is unattainable. Maybe that’s not what she means, and yet…To me this feels like a concession: whatever the actresses have is “beauty”, and the audience is “average”. In other words: “plain.” Which is nonsensical because as I say, the average woman is beautiful.
    Simone is well intentioned, yet I can’t help but feel she does as much harm as good by supporting the idea that celebrities are beautiful and we are not.

    • http://www.alreadypretty.com Sal

      I totally hear you, and can see how that message might seep through. I can’t speak for Simone, of course, but my interpretation wasn’t that she felt non-celeb women are incapable of celeb-level beauty, but instead that non-celeb women don’t believe they can ACHIEVE celeb-level beauty. It’s not the actual, it’s the perception; The notion that someone like Tina Fey is a regular-looking or even plain person makes the Hollywood beauty standard seem even more remote and lofty.

    • http://www.bonjoursimone.com Simone

      Hi JRose,

      Sorry for the late reply… I just noticed today that Sally linked to me! I definitely did not mean that non-celeb women are not or cannot be as beautiful as celebrities. Sally clarified nicely, but to add to what she wrote:

      In my post, when I refer to beauty and ugliness, I am referring to the impossibly narrow “conventional” beauty standard set by the media that more often than not is “young, white, slim, cis-gendered, well-proportioned and able-bodied, with long shiny hair and smooth skin” (source: http://bit.ly/bBBZqA). To continue with the Tina Fey/30 Rock example, Tina Fey more or less adheres to this standard, yet Liz Lemon’s looks are mocked pretty heavily on 30 Rock. Sure, she’s not young by Hollywood standards and wears glasses and an unflattering wardrobe on the show (which are meant to make her appear less attractive) but really, Tina Fey doesn’t stray far from that limited definition of beauty. When beautiful women play characters who are meant to be unattractive or unconventional-looking, it makes that already impossibly narrow definition of beauty even narrower. That standard of beauty is difficult to achieve… a lot of gorgeous women- celebrity or otherwise- don’t even fall into it. It has nothing to do with what you or I or a thousand other people think is beautiful; it’s an arbitrary standard perpetuated by the media.

      I think that beauty is much more diverse and varied than that, which is why it is so frustrating to see these sorts of things.

  • http://keladry-lupin.livejournal.com/ Keladry

    I shall go to work Monday morning and read the article in the Chronicle (my library subscribes to it).

    I’ve been in love with Josie Long since I saw her in “Never Mind the Buzzcocks” a year or three ago. She’s so delightful!

  • http://youlookfab.com/ angie

    A super, super set of links and thanks for the mention, Sally. Big congrats to Imogen and the launch of her fabulous new ebook!

  • http://consumerconsumed.blogspot.com/ jesspgh

    Congratulations on the Chronicle of Higher Ed mention! That is so cool!

  • http://www.insideoutstyleblog.com Imogen Lamport

    Thanks so much for the comment on my new book! Really appreciate it. Also congrats on the article!

  • http://bellisk.blogspot.com/ Rachel

    I’ve been lurking here for about a year and firstly wanted to say thank you, Sal. I love your blog and it always gives me lots to think about. Thought you might like to know I wrote a response to the Jezebel and Racialicious posts at my blog: http://bellisk.blogspot.com/2011/06/girls-geeks-and-maturity.html.

  • Kat

    I love Josie Long – she used to be my house captain at school when I was an eeeny weeny 12 year old and she did the BEST assemblies ever!

  • http://www.bonjoursimone.com Simone

    Thank you so much for including me in this post! I am beyond flattered that you found my post worthy of link-age and I can’t wait to read the rest of them. Congrats on the Chronicle of Higher Education shout-out, too. What a cool achievement!

    -Simone

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