Guest Post: Kelly with Dressing Tips for the Large of Boob


So this post was a good reminder that theory and practice are wildly different, and that I sometimes miss the mark when I offer advice on topics that don’t affect me personally. But it did draw a few reader e-mails about general dressing tips for the large-of-boob, and recommendation requests for bloggers with abundant boobage.

And I sent every one of them to Kelly.

I’ve known Kelly online for at least two years, and I look forward to the day when we will finally get to hang out, paint each others’ toenails, and eat whatever homemade treat she’s baked for me. Because girl can cook. She’s also hilarious, brainy, drop-dead gorgeous, and extremely well-endowed. After I’d sent two or three readers her way and she emailed suggestions about clothing that suits an abundant rack, I realized it was high time I got her to guest post.

She went above and beyond, and I hope you large-of-boob gals will find her tips helpful. Oh, and she provided the visuals herself. See what I’m saying about the hilarious?

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When Sal asked me to consider writing a guest post on dressing a larger chest, I didn’t have to think twice! I have a pretty hefty chest and I put a lot of thought into dressing it. I just hope that if I share my favorite tips I can spare you similar frustration!

TV makeover gurus will tell you to wear v-necks, stock up on wrap dresses, and bring everything to a tailor. Those are good suggestions, but they are also boring and simplistic. (And honestly, I’ve only gotten things tailored for my chest a few times – the results haven’t been impressive enough for me to make a habit of it.) There are more options out there!

DO:
Brands for Big Boobs: The easiest way to get clothes to fit your chest is to purchase from a company that makes clothes for your proportions. Try Bravissimo, AJ Rumina, Urkye and Carissa Rose. There are even some Etsy sellers who will make you a garment to your exact measurements.


Deep Necklines and Camisoles: It doesn’t matter whether you wear a v-neck, scoop neck, deep square, or sweetheart, just give your neck a little “breathing room.” The important thing is not showing a lot of skin, but to visually break up your great expanse of chest. Invest in a few camisoles so you can opt for more coverage (when you want it) while still reaping the visual benefits of the deep neckline. In the summer, a Cami Too or a bralette over your bra is cooler than a whole extra layer. Or even just fasten a pretty scarf to your bra. If your camisoles ride up and create weird lumps under your dress, substitute slips or chemises with cami-like necklines (like this one).

Stretchy Knits: One of the biggest challenges of dressing a large chest is the fact that many garments will tent out over your boobs and make you look much larger and boxier than you really are. The easiest way to combat this is to choose knit fabrics in fitted silhouettes that will “snap” back in to your ribcage after stretching out over your chest. I’ve had luck with tees from Alternative Apparel and Victoria’s Secret.


Waist Definition: If you want to wear a more structured garment, you will probably need something to pull that fabric back in under your chest or around your waist (unless the garment is already tailored well) just to make the point that it’s your chest that’s big, not your whole body. Look for tops and dresses with back ties, belts, or gathered elastic (like this Trashy Diva dress).

Long Tops: Look for tops that are a little longer than most, like tunic tees. The simple fact is that you have extra surface area your shirt needs to cover before it meets the waistband of your pants. Longer tops will also elongate your torso, which is more flattering to your large chest. This also means you must tread carefully with anything high-waisted, because it can have the opposite effect!

Good Bra: You need to be in the right bra. Every single thing you put on will look dumpy and unattractive if you aren’t properly hoisted up underneath. I know you probably get this lecture all the time, so I won’t ramble on (like I really want to), but just please promise me that you will make sure you are in the right bra. Promise!

DON’T:
High Necklines: If you wear a crew neck or a turtleneck, your upper torso will take on the appearance of one huge shapeless boob mountain. So don’t.


Designated Boob Room:
Avoid anything that has a decoration or construction that indicates where the designer thinks your boobs stop, like empire waists. Voluminous busts rarely fit into these designated areas and that throws the whole garment out of whack – it simply won’t fit correctly.

  • Still want to wear it? Here’s a workaround: The big-boob brands mentioned above take your chest size into account when they design their empire waists, which means this isn’t a problem when you shop there. You could also try wearing an a-line or trapeze top and “creating” an empire waist yourself with a wide ribbon.

Graphic Tees: I love a cute graphic t-shirt, but let’s be honest: They are usually boxy, ugly, and not quite long enough. They are simply not made for your figure.


Boob Decorations: This one pains me because there are so many cute tops right now with pleating, ruffles, flowers, etc. along the bust. But your chest is already large, and it will only look extra bulky if it’s decorated by pockets and flowers and beads.

  • Still want to wear it? Here’s a workaround: Look for cute fabric brooches (try Etsy), then pin them on a flattering location (usually a little closer to your face).

I’ll be honest: I know that a lot of this information comes down to “wear boring shirts.” And sometimes I get so annoyed with the limited choices that I “rebel” and wear a graphic tee or a high collar or a boob decoration. But you know what? Every time I catch my reflection that day, I know that I don’t look my best. I think those rebellious days are OK as long as they don’t become the norm. In a lot of ways, tops do have to be a little more boring on a busty figure just because we already have so much going on already.

But there are so many more components to an outfit where you can show more personality. If you have fabulous earrings, layered necklaces, and a wild patterned skirt, a solid color v-neck tunic tee in the middle is the canvas they all work off of. Not only that, but a plain top gives your fantastic figure the spotlight!

Product images courtesy Bluefly.

  • Kimberly

    GREAT advice! Have to second the "get the right bra" comment. I finally got fitted last December – turns out I had the wrong cup and band size. Now that I am wearing the right size and wearing higher-quality bras (Wacoal), the girls look much better. The trick is to get a professional fitting, buy one expensive bra in the store, and then find new bras in your size on eBay.

  • La Historiadora de Moda

    I love Kelly's blog, and she is gorgeous!

    I have large-ish boobs, and I do agree with most of Kelly's tips. However, I will say that I think I look fantastic in turtlenecks, and I wear them in spite of the fashion rules that say that I don't.

    I do wonder if these rules aren't just social conditioning in the way that we're supposed to make our legs look long rather than short and our figures look hour-glassy rather than straight.

  • Ger

    Excellent post! I'd be interested in more posts along this line, of dressing differnt body shapes. How about the "large all over" or the "large (not pregnant) belly" next?

  • RuZanne

    All good stuff. I want to add though that one should still try things on because some no-no items can surprise you.

    I am thinking of a mock turtleneck sweater I have that looks great on me even though I am large of boob. It's VERY fitted and black, with narrow horizontal mesh "stripes" throughout. I think it works because the black lets my whole top recede visually and I'm not as in-yo-face that way.

    The other item I'm thinking of is an empire waisted jersey blouse that is simply so well proportioned (and well designed, with a flattering gathered scoop neck and raglan style sleeves that are forgiving to this body type) that it totally works where most empire things have way too small a boobal area. The band that goes all the way around the ribcage even sits evenly without hiking up in the front. And the bottom part of the blouse is not voluminous but with plenty enough ease to be, well, easy. I was amazed.

    So yeah – I think sometimes it is worth giving things a shot but then one must be totally honest about the result and ONLY keep what really truly works.

  • Kelly

    Sal, you seriously had me blushing with your intro! Thanks again, this was fun!

  • Rad_in_Broolyn

    Interesting post. Proficiscamur is really smart and has great pointers, but I also noticed that she's quite hourglassy. One of my bff's is larger chested, and she'd disagree with a few of these pointers. We've had long convos about our various wardrobe guidelines over the years. She carries more weight on her shorter upper body and has super slender hips and long legs. First, she never wears knit shirts (other than as a layering device) because knits and stretchy materials cling to your curves, and thus emphasize them (both breasts and any tummy extras). She also dresses to minimize her chest and some of the weight she carries in her midsection, so she definitely rocks the "designated boob room" style tops, because they float away from her bust line over her midsection. Drapey materials, like soft woven cottons, linens and silks, are her friends. (She often layers these under opened structured jackets and slender pants. No one knows that she's large chested or has a bit of a belly. They just think she like empire styles and hippie elements).
    Rules are great, but I guess every woman has different challenges and different guidelines.

  • A-C

    yay Kelly! New blog to add to my list!

  • Lady

    Thank you so much! so many of your points i've learned thru trial and error but there were a few tips that I'm excited to incorporate with my 38I chest.

    Today I'm sort of rebelling with a colorful printed knit top that gives me great waist definition but the neckline is crew. I both love and hate this top. I've been wearing a long necklace to try to break up the boob mountain and create a visual "V". It's better but not perfect. Another tip for those rebelling days. ;)

  • The Raisin Girl

    I love this advice. LOVE it. Although I've never had any problem wearing graphic tees. A lot of stores make them in cuts that are flattering to the female figure, and long t-shirts are "in" right now. In the fall or winter I still like to layer an extra-long tank under them, especially if I'm going to be in motion a lot, but all-in-all they're still quite possible, just as long as the graphic doesn't end up stretched weird or bunched up oddly around/under your boobs.

  • pretty face

    Thank you for this great post!

    I think the thing about curves, be they boobs or hips, is that that's not how clothes are generally cut. And so for me, the only way forward is to try *everything* on, because I have no idea how it would look on me. I don't have a mind that finds patterns in these sorts of things, which is why I haven't really got any established rules. So I find these posts so interesting because they do something I cannot do very well at all! xx

  • Anonymous

    very good discussion. i agree with La Historiadora that you should try on things you like, because there are always those few things that 'break the rules'.

    this suggestion is EXTREMELY CONTROVERSIAL. but it does work. i wear a 34D, yet people are always surprised when they see me without a top – there's a lot more there than they suspected! it's because i have very large shoulders, which detract attention from the breasts.

    so you can use this tip by inserting (small, please!) shoulder pads or choosing tops with a strong shoulder line: cap sleeves, boatneck, ruffles or pleats at the shoulder, puffy sleeves, etc. try combining the strong shoulder with a non-crew neck and some waist definition or you could look like a linebacker, though! steph

  • Sal

    I've asked Kelly to stop by and respond to questions and comments when she can, but wanted to chime in a few things myself, too!

    Overall, please bear in mind that all style and figure flattery rules should be taken with a grain of salt. I've said this absolutely ad nauseum, but clearly, it bears repeating.

    It would be impossible to create a set of "rules" that would apply to all women with large breasts, because no two women carry their breasts the same way and no two women are the same height, weight, shape, etc. That doesn't mean that an exploration of possible dos and don'ts written by a woman who has large breasts herself cannot be valuable and interesting. And it doesn't keep women with large breasts from requesting advice specific to their figures again and again.

    Take what applies to you, discard the rest, and assume positive intent.

    La Historiadora de Moda: It could be argued that all fashion guidelines are socially based. Fashion is social, dressing a dialogue.

    RuZanne: I COMPLETELY agree. For anyone and everyone of all shapes and sizes. Rules are mere guidelines, and if something catches your fancy, give it a whirl. You just never know what will work with your unique body.

    Rad_in_Broolyn: Neither Kelly nor I was attempting to create a set of never-to-be-broken rules about flattering large boobs. Just offering some possible suggestions. Thanks for sharing your friend's tips and workarounds – sounds like she is balancing several figure-related priorities at once!

  • Future Lint

    "Boob mountain" had me laughing, because that's what I call it when I wear high necked things too! I agree with most of the tips, but I'm always willing to try things on to see if I can make them work! Certain things though, like smock or tent dresses, will never be nice to the girls, so they are forever banished!

  • lauren

    the tops i try to stay away from are camis with "shelf bras," spaghetti straps, and shirts with designated boob sides. shelf bras are the worst! either they aren't big enough to encompass my chest (38DDD) or they pull the straps of the cami down making my chest heavier than it already is, even while wearing another bra. i can and do find some empire tops that fit well and i love when i do since that silhouette works well for the rest of my body (i find empire waist dresses draw attention away from my chest).

    a lot of people are surprised to hear my bra size and i do a lot to achieve that effect. wearing minimizer bras and a yummie tummie over that reduces a few inches. keeping them as strapped down as possible has been the most comfortable for me.

  • CarolAnn

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for including this guest post!

    Everything in here is so true. I've struggled a bit in the past in finding things that look good on my chest, too.

    My number-one pet peeve: tops with pre-cut boob holes. They just never fit.

    Loved this post!! Kelly is knowledgeable, funny, and awesome, and you rock for sharing her with us!!

    Love,
    CarolAnn
    http://CharismaU.com

  • Allison

    Great advice! I have big honkin boobs, and most of it sounds like what I've figured out for myself.

    In regards to tops with predetermined boob areas, I've found that maternity tops usually work well. Obviously, sometimes they just look weird, without having a baby to fill them out all the way, but I have a few empire waist tops that just look nice and blousy.

    I'm also a fan of laying graphic tees, like you said. I've had so-so luck with how Threadless's shirts fit me — the good is very good, the bad is very bad, and I can't figure out the pattern — but today, I'm wearing one with a long tank underneath it. They're nice to keep for days when I want to look more casual, and simultaneously not show my entire chest to the world.

    But yes, awesome post. Thanks especially for the links to retailers!

  • RiAnge Creations. Ltd.

    Great post. I definitely use some of these tips when dressing. I did read somewhere about doing a cleavage reveal test. I am usually sitting at work and therefore tend to be approached that way. Most mornings, after dressing, I bend forward towards a mirror and look up into it. This exercise shows the view from your approaching colleagues perspective.
    Angela

  • Hundy and Undy

    Great post.

    I have a few shirts that I've cut the neckline out of to make it more flattering, but I still can't quite wear them without help. Usually I'll pair those with a tailored jacket (like your cardi suggestion) or at the least a long layered necklace to help break up the space a bit. (the one shirt is horizontally striped, so that's an absolute "don't wear on it's own!" shirt!)

    hundy&undy

  • Kelly

    RuZanne – definitely agree that trying things on is key – there are somethings that look awful/awesome on paper and when you put them on they somehow magically work!

    Rad in Brooklyn – Agreed, I guess I was drawing off of my own experience with this one. "Rules" definitely aren't one-size-fits all!

    pretty face – I think keeping these patterns in mind makes it *much* easier to shop just because then you don't have to try on every single thing in the store. But sometimes it does take me an awful long time to notice the patterns!

    Anonymous – I've actually never considered the broad shoulder thing. My shoulders are a bit more broad than I'd like, which may explain why people just flat-out do not believe my bra size sometimes. I do know that there are shoulder pad things that are made to attach to bras, to keep them in place.

    Lauren – Shelf bras are the pits. I just cut them right out!

  • Kelly

    Allison – that's interesting that you said it's mixed with Threadless. I had a few bad fit experiences so I just quit ordering from them altogether because I figured they just weren't cut for me.

  • Amy

    Thanks soooooo much for this guest post! I have bookmarked Kelly's blog since she and I have much in common in terms of size and fit. Love her insights!

    Being big of boob is not so fun sometimes, with the majority of clothing at places like the Gap being designed for those with smaller chests. I've spent a lot of time finding what does and doesn't work (the tenting out from the boobs and hiding the waist problem? I feel like I invented that!) and being sad if certain trends are not for me. Also, thank goodness belting is in style now – waist definition was sorely lacking without it!

    I had all the usual big-boob probs while wedding dress shopping recently, it was a total nightmare. Nothing fit right and was either huge on me but fit the girls or pinching them to death. Getting a dress made instead – cheaper and cut to my measurements! The ladies making my dress helped me realize why I've had shopping issues all these years (perhaps you other ladies who are large of boob have a similar prob) – my bust and hips are a size 14 but my waist and shoulders are a size 10. I will certainly be taking greater advantage of a seamstress/tailor in the future, and trying not to be as grumpy about the way clothing is cut for the masses. :)

  • The Patersons

    Yay for the boobular community! Hey Sal and Kelly, thanks for the focus on this again.

    I don't have anything in particular to add fashion wise but just to say, whatever it is, throw in a bit of attitude, hold your head high and work it ladies!

    Cheers from Down Under,
    Michelle

  • The Patersons

    Oh I lie, I do have something to add. It's probably more appropriate for winter (and it is winter here!) but layering with more structured pieces e.g. blazers and tailored vests can be an option to try some of the trickier pieces.

    This year for the first time I also broke the mock turtleneck rule but I wore a really fine knit, and it's primarily for wearing under structured work dresses, breaking up the er, expanse!

    I find chunky knits generally aren't good on me either but you know what if I've learnt anything from reading all your lovely blogs, it's to take chances, have a bit of fun, and give it a go.

    Michelle

  • Hannah

    I didn't think I'd have anything to comment on in regards to this post being that I am definitely on the small end of the boob scale, but I have to chime in and say don't feel bad that those shirts with the built in "boob areas" don't work if you have a large bust because they don't work for me either! Either my boobs can't squeeze in there, or because they're so small the "under boob band" rides up to mid boob…not so attractive. I tried on a dress in a store recently that wouldn't even button over my boobs but was huge everywhere else, like it was designed for a teenage boy; that time and so many others I've found myself saying "but what if I had average sized boobs! or big boobs!" Do designers think that if they just ignore boobs they'll go away?

  • Vanessa

    I <3 Kelly and I'm so glad you got her to do a guest post! These are some great guidelines she came up with and that I really agree with as a fellow well endowed woman. I liked your post as well, Sal, but I think this was a great addition since some of your picks probably WOULDN'T work on my chest. I think a lot of stuff works in THEORY, but then we you actually take your DDDs out to try on dresses, you realize how different the PRACTICE part can be. Thanks for recruiting someone with personal experience!

  • Elle

    Oh, how I WISH big boobs were my problem! ;)

  • robin

    THANK YOU so much for this post! Dressing my 34DDD chest has been the sole issue around which my fashion life has revolved since my early 20s. Your tips are fantastic. I especially appreciate the boob-friendly brands you mentioned, which I will most definitely check out. I look forward to following Kelly's blog. Thanks Kelly and Sal!!!

  • tinyjunco

    La Historiadora de Moda's comments on the social aspects of dressing our breasts got me thinking. the main reason i'm so good at hiding the size of my breasts is because of social attitudes/prejudices about large breasts – they mean you are a slut, stupid or ditzy, just want to use your sex appeal to get ahead instead of working hard, etc.

    and these prejudices are attached to large breasts themselves, in my experience, not just any old breasts that are overly 'showcased' or not covered up enough. in this way it's a different figure area than, say, a short waist or skinny calves. no one thinks you're dumb because you have skinny calves. aesthetically i'm just fine with my breasts, but i don't like dealing with other people's attitudes so i downplay them a lot in public situations.

    it even shows up on this blog, i have to say. what's up with all the jokey 'boob' names? i can see a joke now and then, but does EVERY reference to breasts have to be via joke? sorry to be a little cranky about this, but it seems out of kilter with the stated purpose of this blog – body acceptance and self-love. our breasts can use some respect, too! steph (yep, it's anonymous steph from above – i just got a Google account!)

  • virago

    Kelly and Lauren — Shelf bras MUST DIE! I look at old pix of myself in cute strappy tops w/shelf bras, and I cringe. Boobs heading south ≠ Flattering look. (Can you say "in denial"?)

    "Do designers think that if they just ignore boobs they'll go away?"

    Hannah — This is why I am seriously regretting my lack of sewing skills.* Being able to make tops/dresses to my measurements would save me a lot of frustration. I'm seriously considering having one or two nice things made to measure on Etsy. (I just got my tax refund back, so after banking most of it I wanted to treat myself.)

    *(Though after I get out of grad school, I'd like to learn to knit — anyone have any tips for left-handed novice knitters? My mom and sister can't show me how to cast on because they're both right-handed.)

  • Sahitya

    Wow great advice. Thanks
    Keep in touch
    xx
    Sahi

  • Jesspgh

    What a helpful entry! I realize that I break the rules as often as I follow them, as a large busted lover of ruffles and rosettes. But I think that is ok too. Occasionally I want to make the decision to not highlight or "flatter" (in that confining way) my larger breasts. That can feel liberating, in its own way.

  • Elissa

    EXCELLENT post! I heartily agree with everything… empire waists just don't work, graphic tees look dumpy and gross. I love horizontal stripes, but be very careful of the scale. Beware any patterns which will become distorted when stretched over the boobs! If you are wearing a shirt with pockets on the chest, make sure they are located high on the chest, nearer the shoulders, so that they are not dragging the girls down. Epaulets, and big shoulder styles and interesting collars are always excellent. I find that wrap dresses are weird on big boobs, they divide your bust in half and draws too much attention. It is depressing to consider that big boobs really can limit your style options, but as long as you dress flatteringly, you'll always look terrific. Rebecca of the Clothes Horse is really petite but has ample boobage… she is a great example of someone with a diverse style that dresses her bust flatteringly. Last but not least, the best advice out there is to cultivate EXCELLENT posture!! Hold your head high and the boobs will follow!

  • Anonymous

    Anon/Steph-
    What makes "playful boob references" and body acceptance and self-love mutually exclusive?

    Lighten up a bit. The blog uses humor to keep people interested.

  • Fia

    Thank you for this post. As a former A who is now a breastfeeding mama with new found boobage, I sometimes wear things that USED to work but now are just all wrong. I've gotten better with practice but it's great to get tips from women who have years of experience.

  • Karla

    Great post and very useful! I totally agree with every single rule and thank you for restating them.

  • janiece

    Fabulous post, thank you both!

  • V

    38DDD here. If you want to wear a graphic tee, you can, but you have to make your own, because nobody makes good ones for busty women. Take one of those solid color V necks (I like Lands End Modern Fit; they run huge, I take a L and my bust has me in 16s mostly) and stencil it. A large, irregular, centrally placed shape will work well — I have a rooster shirt and a hedgehog shirt (google something like hedgehog silhouette and sort through till you find a good one). Avoid symmetrical shapes, because they distort when placed over a convex surface and the distortion emphasizes that convexity, same as with stripes; you want to break it up a bit. Avoid text. And obviously avoid anything with a shape where your boobs are one color and your shirt is another, it's too ridiculous. But if you choose wisely you CAN have graphic tees and they're actually kind of flattening and very young and fun.

  • Mindixy

    Thanks for this post! I appreciate that everyone has fit/style challenges, and this post definitely addressed mine. It's really hard sometimes to not be discouraged – I'm a 32K and pretty much anything with a zipper or buttons fits everywhere except around my chest. I was thrilled to see the links to sources that might have professional looking blouses that will fit me. Thanks Sal & Kelly – I'll be adding Kelly's blog to my daily list. :)

  • The Patersons

    exiJust in response to Steph, firstly thank you for sharing your experience. I have not had the same experience as you in terms of prejudices – but I think like a lot of well endowed ladies (or any woman for that matter), I too have had a journey towards self acceptance, and appreciation of my breasts.

    I just wanted to say that I find the humour and jokey names actually uplifting (pun not intended) – it helps to look at my breasts in a fun way. I see your point of view about not every reference needing to be a joke but it's just a different sense of humour at play i think – I don't think it is disrespectful or out of sync with Sal's aims. It's just her unique vehicle.

    I think if you read the blog regularly, you'll see the spirit of it shine through, even if you don't agree with the specific phrases used.

    Cheerio.
    Michelle

  • Someone

    @ virago –

    You could try knittinghelp.com – and if you sign up for ravelry(.com) you'll find yourself in a huge knitting community with all the benefits – and want fashionable knits? That's the place. :)

  • Jenniferocious

    I am definitely not "well endowed" (34 B here), but I still really enjoyed your post! And I had to say, that first outfit photo? GORGEOUS. I love it! Also, the nifty green shoes in the 3rd photo. I'm a sucker for anything green. :)

  • Kelly

    Jenniferocious you're too sweet! The first picture was what I wore on Easter this year. The green flats are from Target – I got them just a few months ago so they might still be around!

  • Audi

    How fun to see you turn up on Sal's blog, Kelly! Your post made me thankful once again for my small rack — I want to run home right now and adorn it with piles of ruffles!

  • hope505

    wow…great post. I always fall for the ol' empire "waist" or designated boob area….and then cry when the empire part rides up to my nipple area instead ~ waah! ~

    Apparently here is my solution: give it up. *haha!* I guess I needed to hear the hard truth! well now at least I know…and if it's written here, I'm probly not theonly one…*heh*

  • Sarah

    Of course, all "rules" should be taken with grains of salt, but…

    No ribbed knits…

    No cable sweaters…

    Belts are your friends…

    and whoever invented the shelf bra should be hung in the public square.

    I do stubbornly hang on to a few turtlenecks. It gets cold here in Buffalo!

  • -B.

    Well, I think it all depends on what else you have with the large of boob. I know for me, I have almost the exact same problems as Kelly, except I lean more towards the plus size. I'm a 40DD to a 40DDD., and I really can't ever go without a bra. I have bordered into the shelf bra area for underwireless(a no-no I know!) but it helps to have them supported constantly. They stretch out after about 3 months though.

    I can't do most empire tops because of the space, but I ALWAYS have trouble finding pull-over sweaters that are long enough. I can't do a turtleneck either, but it's because I have a shorter neck and pointed chin. That combo just doesn't work for me.

    I do have a question to piggy into this post–what do you do for supportive sleepwear? I can't go supportless anymore, but being a size 18/20 kind of prevents the pretty supportive nightwear. Lane Bryant does not work and is too expensive.

  • Kelly

    -B I'm with you, I can't sleep without support. It's just too uncomfortable! I usually wear a soft cup bra. They're wireless so they're comfortable to sleep in. Sometimes they're a bit hard to find (at least in my size) so when I find one I like, I buy it in a couple colors. Here are two that I like that also come in your size:

    http://www.bravissimo.com/products/lingerie/soft-cup-bras/fantasie/soft-cup-bras/fad3-details.aspx?colour=nude&ck=sAsXPHl5MdeMLHnGOHRPez1gPrjneEbGgMZP/CyMqZ68dvVZHQ3pqYNw5AFavvtB

    http://www.bravissimo.com/products/lingerie/soft-cup-bras/panache/soft-cup-bras/pnm1-details.aspx?colour=fuchsia/peach&ck=sAsXPHl5MdeMLHnGOHRPez1gPrjneEbGgMZP/CyMqZ68dvVZHQ3pqYNw5AFavvtB

    Sexy? Definitely not. But I put it on right before I hit the pillow so thankfully there aren't many waking hours that me or my boyfriend have to look at it ;-)

    (Oh, and when shopping make sure that you're not buying a nursing bra! I've made that mistake a few times. Even if it's labeled "soft cup" instead of "nursing" read the descriptions and look at all the pictures just to make sure. I've found that usually there are soft cup versions of nursing bras so they look pretty similar, but the nursing bras fold down for breastfeeding and the soft cups don't)

  • b.

    Thanks for this post, Sal! Everything Kelly said rang true for me.

    I wanted to recommend a brand I've had good luck with: Daisy Fuentes, at Kohl's, of all places–their stuff seems to be cut for curvy girls. You get what you pay for, so these shirts aren't going to last forever, but this is my go-to line for basic t-shirts in cute cuts.

  • MaryMary86

    I loved this article and especially appreciate the list of clothing makers for the well endowed! I'd like to add that dark turtlenecks work for me too. Maybe that's one that should be in the "try it out – ya just never know" category? Two of my tips – Some J.Jill tops have been working well for me and if you sew, there are lots of resources. Pattern makers are starting to recognize this niche and there's a lot on the internet to guide you into altering (the much smaller sized) patterns you'll buy to make room for the girls!

  • Anonymous

    VERY GOOD ARTICLE!!! Thanks for this :)