I’m getting increasingly annoyed with style guides and experts that only ever steer women in this direction. If you WANT that, go for it! And honestly, I do want it for myself most of the time. But my body has some hourglass-y leanings naturally and it’s not a huge stretch for me. Tall, thin, hourglass is a huge stretch for the vast majority of women. And it’s not the only option, not the only figure with inherent beauty, sensuality, and appeal.
Allowing women to embrace and flaunt their varied body types instead of masking them furthers the goal of expanding the global definition of beauty. Convincing women that the only way to look great is to wear clothing that makes them appear as tall, thin, and hourglass-y as possible fosters feelings of shame about the figure shapes they naturally possess.
I don’t believe that style gurus are perpetrating some giant, insidious movement designed to give women inferiority complexes. But I do believe many of them are not on board with a diverse beauty paradigm. The idea of female beauty as a vast, encompassing, diverse concept is harder to fathom, messier, new, and foreign. But it’ll be the paradigm of the future, if I have anything to say about it.
There’s nothing wrong with dressing to make yourself appear tall, thin, and hourglass-y. But there’s nothing wrong with making other figure flattery concerns your priority, either.