Our brains are constantly being filled with information about aesthetics, dressing, sexiness, trends, fashionability, fitness, and beauty. There are too many sources to count, and they’re all dumping powerful – and sometimes contradictory – messages about style and figure flattery into our psyches. It can get damned overwhelming, and make a girl want to wear the same black pants and gray cardigan every day from now until forever. And style blogs like mine contribute to that morass of confusing information, I know. So here’s a bit of an antidote:
Fashion may exist as an art form, but clothing exists to make you look your best. Any clothing that does not make you look your best is absolutely not worth your time. When you look amazing, you feel amazing, and clothing that works with your natural assets – not against them – will help you look and feel amazing more often.
If you hate skinny jeans and prefer bootcuts because they balance you out, wear ’em and screw the trend-hounds. If you want to wear foofy vintage dresses every single day because you feel fabulously feminine in them, do it and screw the buzzwreckers. If you think your collarbone is the sexiest thing ever created, wear scoop necks and boat necks and square necks and never ever don a collarbone-masking scarf, and screw the naysayers. Whatever you dislike, avoid it. Whatever makes you feel delighted to be alive, wear it. Whatever aspect of yourself you love best, celebrate it.
Find what works for your fabulous figure and sassy style, and embrace it with both arms. But don’t be afraid to try new styles. In fact, do your utmost to try new styles ALL THE TIME. Because your body shifts and your style shifts, and something that looked a mess on you five years ago could be just the ticket right now. Try things on at stores, borrow from friends and sisters, experiment with stuff you already own but seldom wear. Your fabulousness is a work in progress, and the more garments you amass that make you feel powerful, princesslike, and phenomenal, the better.
Style should not feel oppressive, it should feel liberating. It is another way to celebrate your body, your identity, your self. It is the simplest way to communicate to the observing world who you are, what you like, how you feel about yourself. It is a tool for self-expression and self-love, and it should buoy you constantly and never drag you down.
Looking good and feeling good are linked.
Wearing clothes that fight your figure is a surefire way to look AND feel bad.
Wearing clothes that work with your figure is a surefire way to look and feel fantastic.
So learn what suits you, wear what suits you, feel awesome.
The rest is just details.
All photos from the Wardrobe_Remix Flickr pool. If you feel like mags and TV aren’t representing your body type, aesthetic, race, height, or shape in any way, do peruse this group for a while. Stylish people of every shape, size, and background are contributing.