Focus is a choice.
When you look in the mirror and see nothing but cellulite and wrinkles, chin hair and knee fat and tiny boobs, it may feel like you’re seeing these things because they’re SO obvious, or SO horrible, or SO defining. You may assume these things are all there is of you to be seen.
But you are, in fact, choosing to focus on those aspects of your physique. You need to learn about your entire body – both the things you adore and the things you resent – in order to nurture and understand it. But while acknowledging the aspects of your body you don’t adore can be a helpful practice if you want to maximize your figure and look and feel your best, obsessing over them can become dangerous and counterproductive.
Practice looking in the mirror and focusing on your favorite physicalities: Your glistening hair, perfect complexion, sculpted shoulders, long legs. List them off mentally – or even out loud – when you study your reflection each morning. And make an effort to include THEM ALL. Don’t gloss over your healthy nails, graceful ankles, or long eyelashes just because they may seem like minor details. Run through the litany whenever you pass a mirror for more than a moment, and eventually the good will naturally eclipse the bad. It may take months or years, but it will happen if you let it. And what a gift to see a version of yourself staring back at you who is chock full of physical prowess and grace and beauty.
Train yourself to celebrate the good instead of lamenting the bad. Choose to see your strengths, embrace your enviables, and acknowledge your assets. Focus your attention on the body you love, and let it blossom.
Image courtesy Christi Nielsen.