Here are Husband Mike‘s thoughts on my six-month shopping ban. PROMISE that I only edited for grammar!
- At about month 3, things seemed to be pretty tough for Sally and there seemed to be an increase in requests for gifts and discussions about ways to justify purchases. My favorite was, “If you buy me some black tights, I’ll buy you something that costs the same.” This did not work and she made do without new black tights.
- Sally was significantly less worried about money. Many people use money for things other than clothes, and Sally was soon talking about buying concert tickets, getting cable TV, and even buying an actual TV (which is awesome; how I ever watched TV on a set smaller than 32” I will never know). This change of view helped me out as well. We began living life more fully when we weren’t worried about money.
- Sally was able to be more selective in her purchases. She knew when something was important to have, and when she had enough. Shoes seem to be an exception, but I do not really understand women with regards to shoes.
- Sally now seems more relaxed and secure having built a financial safety net as a result of not spending so much on clothes. It’s amazing to know how much better one feels when you know that you can pay for a major car repair without having to charge it.
As most of you know, we were in San Francisco when the banned ended. We scheduled the vacation around the ending of the ban, like any normal person would, and this was a good idea considering the good shopping that was to be had. (I bought a new hat.)
On the day the ban ended, Sally and I took a streetcar to an outdoor market to look around. It took Sally 11 minutes to buy 2 necklaces. I timed her. I tried to discourage her initially by saying that the first necklace looked like a string of cocktail weenies, but she still bought it. The green turquoise necklace that followed was awesome, though.
Sally’s post-ban shopping activity was completely reasonable and rationally paced (after she got those two necklace purchases out of the way). It is great that she had her bloggy friend Audi to shop with since I do not have much patience when shopping. I hung out with Audi’s S.O., Mark, who is interested in all things and was a great travel companion.
As I write this, it is a week or so after the ban, and things around the house seem pretty normal. Sally seems excited to have money and realize that she has choices with the things she buys, and that the things she buys do not have to be clothes.
The greatest change I see in Sal’s post-ban life if that she is conscious of the choices she is making and aware of her feelings and motivations around her purchases. Her growth makes me want to try a life experiment of my own. I’m open to suggestions.