Reader Request: Incorporating Oddballs

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Bubu e-mailed me this question:

My mother-in-law asked if I’d be interested in a leather jacket [then] she showed me a knee-length black leather a-line coat with a tie waist and a black fur (real? i think) collar. It fit me surprisingly well – a bit loose in the waist (though I can tighten it with the belt), good length, and, key for me, well-fitting in the shoulders. I said I would take it and I’m kind of tickled because it’s like nothing I own and nothing I would pick, or could afford to buy. Plus I know the fashion mags say accents of faux fur are big right now, and that’s not the kind of thing I would generally go for, but why not take that trend for a spin for free? READ MORE

Originally posted 2012-02-09 06:18:12.

A Pass

Since you are, no doubt, your own harshest critic.

Since you often look at yourself and see a mass of flaws.

Since your body-centric frustrations seem impossible to shake off.

Since constant self-loathing can exhaust you into depression.

Since permission can be key to unlocking self-acceptance and forgiveness.

Since you are so much more glorious than you realize and so much more worthy than you know, I am giving you a pass.

Today, whenever you look at your thighs and wish they were smaller, look at your wrinkles and wish they were gone, look at your reflection and wish it was different, I want you to think of me. Think of me saying, “YOU! You’re amazing. You are a stunning, luminous creature of beauty and there is no one else like you in this big, beauty-filled world. I see exactly how gorgeous you are, and I celebrate you.” READ MORE

Originally posted 2011-05-26 06:17:06.

Thriftable Classics

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Now, you all know I’m no fan of the must-have list. There is no one-list-fits-all set of classic items that will suit every possible body type, budget, and lifestyle. Plus, so many must-have lists overlook bodily diversity and try to shoehorn a huge array of body sizes and shapes into a single mold. Nevertheless, these lists can serve as good jumping-off points if you’re just beginning to build your wardrobe, or looking to take your style in a more conservative direction. And, of course, many “must-have” items are beloved by individual women regardless of their fashion-sanctioned status. READ MORE

Originally posted 2013-06-10 06:14:17.