Rising Price Thresholds

by Sally on May 24, 2013 · 34 comments

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Ages ago, I wrote about my internal price thresholds. Mostly, they apply to lunch. It still burns me that lunch at restaurants and take-out joints is so expensive. In my mind, lunch should be $5 because that’s about how much I paid when I first started paying for lunch out of my own earnings. (As you can imagine, I wasn’t dining at the fancies. What with being 13 and all.) But these internal price thresholds also apply to fashion purchases. I am still stuck on the idea that jeans should be around $40, and am perpetually surprised that they’re generally more like $70, even at the Gap. When I first started buying shoes on my own they were right around $40, too. (Though I spent my money at Payless back then, and you can still nab new kicks for that amount now at your friendly neighborhood Payless.) My shoe price thresholds rose quicker than my clothing price thresholds because I could see the direct correlation between paying more and getting better quality and construction.

Recently, I realized that most things I see and covet hover right around the $100 mark. I WAS HORRIFIED. When did “stuff” get so expensive? And what am I, made of money? How did this happen? I mean, I still thrift like a pro, nab bargains on eBay, and shop the sale racks, so I’m not saying that everything I buy is $100 or more. But many, many things are.

And, ya know, inflation happens. Lunch isn’t $5 anymore because 23 years have gone by and everything is more expensive than it used to be. Also I’m a grown-up now (or so I’m told), and my tastes have become more refined over the years.* I have a defined style and more adult tastes that weren’t present when I first began to shop for myself. So there are larger forces at work, here.

But some of it is also acceptance of what the market has deemed “normal.” Dresses? $100. Dress pants? $100. Cashmere sweaters? $100. Casual, unlined blazers? $100 or more. Many tops cost less than $100 and many shoes cruise past $100, but supposedly mid-market brands like Banana Republic, J.Crew, and Ann Taylor are consistently pricing clothing basics at fairly high price points. In a down economy. And people are somehow paying for them. So to be clear, I’m not shopping at super high-end boutiques and Net-a-Porter, friends. I’m looking at the same mall stores and ubiquitous shopping options that much of middle-class America uses to procure new duds. And I’m not ending up with fantastically high-quality purchases, either. I’m getting the same middle-of-the-road design and construction we’re all getting these days.

There are many ways to get great clothes for less. Buying used is the big one, but making your own is another fabulous option. Clothing swaps, repurposing what you already have, and clipping coupons can help you stay on budget. But there’s no denying that prices rise, and the market expects us all to keep up.

I’m curious if you’ve seen your own internal price thresholds rise over the years. Do you see your fashion-related purchases hovering around a certain price point? Do you set that point yourself, or does it rise (or fall) on its own?

*Sidenote: I remember being a kid and eating frosting out of the jar with gleeful abandon. These days I scrape off most frosting because it’s too sweet and makes my teeth ache. Literally. Frosting hurts my teeth. Is losing the taste for super-sugary foods an aging thing? Is that palette refinement? Or is it just me?

Image courtesy Anthropologie. Striped skirt? $98. Very close to $100. Paid it. (Then returned it because that skirt felt like it was made out of burlap and looked absolutely comic on me.)

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Dressed for: Almost Myself

by Sally on May 23, 2013 · 11 comments

Already Pretty outfit featuring collarless tweed blazer, white tee, black cropped ponte pants, black pumps, rhinestone brooches, Rebecca Minkoff MAB mini

Blazer – thrifted – similar
Tee – Amber Sun via Nordstrom
Pants – Jackie Ankle Pants courtesy Karen Kane
Belt – thrifted – similar
Pumps, Etienne Aigner via Ideeli - similar
Bag - Rebecca Minkoff Studded Mab Mini - via eBay
Brooches – thrifted – more rhinestone brooches
Earrings – Old Navy (no longer available) – similar

I wore this to a preview event of the new Lily + Violet boutique in the Linden Hills neighborhood of Minneapolis, which I attended with the lovely Sarah Von. I’ve felt pretty schlubby at the past few events I’ve attended, so I wanted a more polished look for this one. I seldom tuck shirts into my pants and haven’t hauled out my brooches in ages, so it felt fun to dress up as someone who looked a lot like me, but with a few newish twists.

Have you been pushing your sartorial boundaries lately? Ever dress up as someone who looks almost like you for a night out or event?

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Gracey on Riding in Skirts

by Gracey on May 23, 2013 · 20 comments

As many of you already know, I commute to work on my bike.  I’m lucky enough to have a fairly short commute (only about 12 minutes each way) so I’m able to commute year ‘round (rain, snow or otherwise) and in my work clothes (skirts, heels, what have you).

I’ve been bike commuting for a few years now and have figured out what works and doesn’t work for my bike commute.  Hopefully some of these tips might work for you as well.

Embrace pleats.  Trust me on this one.  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, pleats can help add volume to a skirt without adding bulk.  You want a more voluminous skirt when riding so it can fall (or, as my fellow Oregon bike rider, Val Sparkle, suggests, be pinned) between your legs when you ride.  It’ll help protect your modesty.  And a full, pleated skirt is, usually, a heavier skirt and less likely to blow around (again, pinning will help with that as well).

My perfect pleated bike riding skirt is the one on this dress:

Fashion for Giants outfit featuring printed, pleated vintage dress, metallic cuff & gray suede boots

The pleats are flat and sleek, but there is a LOT of volume hidden in that skirt, making it perfect for bike riding.

Avoid pencil skirts.  I know, I know.  Everyone loves pencil skirts.  So professional.  So flattering.  So hobbling.  You know how you can’t run in a pencil skirt?  Well, you really, really can’t ride in them.   Trust me, I’ve tried and it’s awkward and strange and if you had to change directions quickly, it could also be dangerous.

But, if you insist on pencil skirts (and sometimes an outfit does), then I suggest knit pencil skirts:

Fashion for Giants outfit featuring gray sweater tunic, burgundy t-neck, herringbone tights, belt & cuffed boots

Fashion for Giants outfit featuring kelly green skirt, blue stripe bow blouse, leopard belt & yellow platform sandals

Fashion for Giants outfit featuring cream lace blouse, black pencil skirt, cognac belt & JC sandals

I have ridden in all of these with varying degrees of success.  The black is a very tight, thick knit and a little restrictive, but the others are great.  Enough give to allow me to pedal without losing their shape for when I’m off the bike.  I’ve tried biking in non-knit pencil skirts as well and it was terrible; these are the only pencil skirts I’ll ride in.  I save my very few others for those days I drive in.

Knee length, no more than tea length.  Bikes, can, of course, be ridden in any length of skirt one wants to wear.  However, I suggest knee length, no more than tea length, when riding a bike, for both modesty and practical reasons.  With a skirt shorter than a couple of inches above the knee, it can be difficult to pin or tuck the skirt, risking your skirt flipping up and scarring those passing school children for life.

This dress?  Not good for bike riding:

Fashion for Giants outfit featuring tropical print dress, coral belt & pewter sandals

If the skirt on the dress were fuller, the length wouldn’t have been as big of an issue, but it’s both just a bit too short and not quite full enough.  I may have given the kiddos an eyeful in this outfit.

And with a skirt longer than tea length, you probably won’t have a problem with it flipping up, but it could get caught in your chain or your pedals while riding.  If you do wear a longer skirt, I suggest pinning, clipping or tying it up while riding so it doesn’t get caught.

This skirt?  Also not great for bike riding:

Fashion for Giants outfit featuring vintage harlequin sweater vest, black turtleneck & full Ralph Lauren skirt

Although I am a proponent of volume, this skirt is extremely full, which, coupled with it’s more-than-tea-length length, made it very hard to ride in.

And here are some other skirts and dresses that I’ve found do work well for bike riding:

Fashion for Giants outfit featuring vintage tropical jacket, Karina dress, black tights, cuffed boots & coral necklace

Fashion for Giants outfit featuring vintage scarf print blouse, black pleated skirt, black tights, patent NW belt & animal print booties

Fashion for Giants outfit featuring black & brown 70s dress, eye of sauron belt, black tights & black booties

 As you can see, they’re all either pleated or full and around knee length.

I also recommend the wearing of bike shorts, pettipants, bloomers, whatever, just in case you do flash a passerby or two.

Xoxo,
Gracey

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Uniform Behavior

by Une Femme on May 22, 2013 · 9 comments

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On those workday mornings when I find myself up against the wall time-wise, my Business Casual Uniforms save the day. I’m fortunate in that on non-meeting days, jeans are acceptable in my workplace, but I try to keep the overall look polished. Here I’ve paired with a simple tee, black knit jacket and low-heeled patent pumps.

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I love mixing a bit of shine and sparkle with my denim, here have added some rhinestone earrings, a gold watch and cuff.

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Have you formulated one or more uniforms for work days?

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Earrings: kate spade, no longer available. Similar.

Jacket: Eileen Fisher, here.

Tee: Eileen Fisher, similar. I love these tees not only for the super comfortable fabric, but also for the ease over the tummy.

Jeans: NYDJ, here.

Shoes: Stuart Weitzman, here.

Watch: Michael Kors, here.

Cuff: Ann Taylor, a few years old. Similar.

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Photography and Body Image

by Sally on May 22, 2013 · 26 comments

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Back in March, I linked to Anna’s post in which she discussed what she learned from taking a photo of herself every day for a month. And even before that, a friend sent me this post about feeling too fat to be photographed. Both women’s perspectives have been rattling around in my brain ever since. Ultimately, both came out in favor of photography as a positive force for preserving memories, self-reflection, and even body positivity.

At my last office job, I was the staff photographer. Whenever a new employee came on board, it was my responsibility to connect with her/him for a headshot that would be used for internal communications. Wanna know how many of these new hires enjoyed being photographed? That’s right: ZERO. It didn’t matter how old, young, fat, skinny, or traditionally attractive they were, they all loathed the process. Looking back, I wish I’d thought to poll them because I’m sure they harbored a variety of reasons for fearing the lens.

For five of the six years this blog has been up and running, Husband Mike has taken near-daily photos of me. Full-body, head-to-toe shots that show my face and figure in all its perfectly imperfect glory. He was a professional photographer long before we met, so I knew going in that I’d be featured in lots of photos. Couldn’t have predicted it would be this many or that I’d be posting them to a website. As you can imagine, I’ve grown used to being photographed myself, and don’t much mind it. Most of the time. But I can see definite pros and cons, learning opportunities and self-image pitfalls inherent in being regularly (or even irregularly) photographed. Such as:

Photographs offer a different perspective

PRO: What looks great/awful in the mirror can look awful/great in a still image. When I do style consults, I photograph all the outfits we create so my clients can see what they look like from a perspective that differs from their own. They are a fabulous teaching tool when it comes to understanding figure, proportion, and flattery.

CON: Photographs are fixed, so it can be hard to determine if they are a “truer” representation of how something/someone looks than the real, living thing. Additionally seeing a photograph that doesn’t align with your internal ideas of how something/someone looks can be incredibly jarring and upsetting.

Photographs capture moments in time

PRO: Well, you want some moments captured. It’s that whole memory-preservation thing. And it can be rewarding and eye-opening to see snapshots of your former self and consider how you felt at the time. Most women I know have shared stories about looking at photos from high school or college and realizing that they were lovely, radiant creatures back then yet still hated their bodies. Also many of us were awkward as youngsters, and it can feel good to know you’ve outgrown some gawk.

CON: Some moments get captured against your will. In fact, “captured” is all too apt in these cases as bad photos can feel like emotional jail cells.

Photographs remind us what humans look like

PRO: I’m assuming that, like me, you don’t have professional hair and makeup before and professional Photoshop retouching afterwards. The photos we take of ourselves and each other are great reminders that magazine and online photos we see of the rich and famous have been altered beyond the humanity threshold. It can be good to see photos of regular people – even ourselves – because they remind us that people have pores, fat rolls, flyaway hairs, and all sorts of other horrifying things that celeb and ad photos make us believe are heinous.

CON: Comparing a photo of yourself to a professionally retouched photo can lead to nasty, comparative thoughts. It all depends on your mood.

My biggest hang-up about being photographed? Total lack of control. I trust HM to take the best possible photos of me, but am much less trusting of other photographers. And if HM approaches me with a camera before I’ve showered or on a day when I’m especially cranky or at a time when I’m just not in the mood to be photographed, I get downright hostile. For me, I see this reaction as being linked to my own utterly false belief that I control how others see me. Minus the camera, I feel in control of my image. Once the shutter starts clicking, I realize that lighting, body position, and countless other uncontrolled factors may affect the finished, permanent image.

Interestingly, I’d say I was less anxious about being photographed before the advent of digital. When someone started snapping photos with a film camera, I knew it’d be ages before I could gauge my photographic fate on a glossy print, so I just went with it. Now, I need to see the shot right away. And, of course, knowing that digital photos get Facebooked, Tweeted, and Instagrammed at lightning speed makes the process all the more perilous.

Despite all this, I do agree with Anna and Teresa. I think that if the average person were to undertake a daily self-portrait project, she would round it out feeling happier and more confident than when she began. We are our own harshest critics, and seeing an alternate presentation of self can quiet that critical voice. Also fear of photography breeds avoidance of photography because so much of what we’re dreading is the act itself. Allowing ourselves to become accustomed to regular photographs makes the process feel less scary and fraught with expectation.

And because of my own experiences with my own image and its relationship to my self-esteem, I think that photography can be a helpful tool for seeing myself. When I’m feeling awful about my body, I don’t want to look at it. I hide from mirrors, cameras, anything that will shove my own image at me. But looking at myself is vital because – for me – it breeds acceptance, tenderness, motivation, and care. To look at myself is to confront myself. Photos force that. For those of us who struggle to feel good about our physical selves, this can be downright terrifying. But unless we see ourselves, how can we be ourselves?

How do you feel about being photographed? What do you love about it? Hate about it? Would you ever undertake a daily self-portrait project? Do you agree that lack of control is part of what breeds photo fear? Are you more anxious about photography in the age of digital cameras and social media?

Image courtesy Nikon.

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Insomniac Sale Picks on Break This Week

by Sally on May 21, 2013

Back next week! Been getting some fun requests and can’t wait to tackle ‘em …

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Dressed for: A Subtle Mix

by Sally on May 21, 2013 · 5 comments

Already Pretty outfit featuring navy cardigan, coral polka dot tank, olive green pencil skirt, cognac leather belt, Faryl Robin Suzu pumps

Cardigan – thrifted - similar (navy)
Tank - Boden
Belt - Gap (had it since high school) - similar
Skirt – via eBaysimilar
Necklace - Fossil (no longer available) - similar
Bracelets - Bracelets - Bibelot and Sage K and Co
Earrings - Urban Outfitters (no longer available) - similar
Shoes – Faryl Robin Suzu via eBaymore printed pumps

I wore this for a quick Fox 9 Morning Show segment to demonstrate that separating two related prints with a solid can make print and pattern mixing feel less daunting. You hardly even notice there are two prints in this outfit, but they both add a bit of interest and energy to the look.

Anyone else like to put some nice, soothing solids between prints to make a more subtle mix?

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Already Prettypoll: Your Colors

by Sally on May 21, 2013 · 45 comments

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: Color is emotional. Very emotional. And wearing color can impact how you’re feeling, so I’m loathe to tell women that they should avoid wearing certain colors at all costs. If it makes you happy, does that outweigh the fact that it clashes with your complexion? I believe it does.

But many people disagree. And many more point out that looking good in a certain set of colors can help you feel good about yourself. Others feel that knowing which colors suit them best makes shopping and styling SO much easier.

How about you? Do you have a certain set of colors you know work best for you? Do you stick to them? Exclusively? Have you had your colors “done”? What was that like? Helpful? Confining? A bit of both?

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