Lovely Links: 10/31/14

Happy Halloween! Here’s one of my favorite late fall, rustling leaves, early darkness songs:

Weekly Kitten


There is a compartment in HM’s camera bag that is perfectly Harriet-sized.

Some fun tips in this post about how to tuck, tie, roll and twist your clothes like a stylist.

Layers of plaid and windowpane with red accents make this outfit eye-catching. Also love this sheer windowpane dress with tough accents.

“Technicolor hair is mainstream now, but back then, it was reserved for freaks and weirdoes. Dyeing my hair pink felt like claiming the label my classmates had given me for my own. I was done trying to change the strangeness that made other kids hate me. Now I was embracing it.” (Discusses self-harm)

Great reminders about the complexities and impact of fat talk, and suggestions for re-routing those thoughts and conversations.

I love the look of split-back tops, but loathe the fussiness. Style Crone found one with a built-in contrasting insert that looks phenomenal on her.

I’m a proud Capricorn, and swooning over these super subtle zodiac rings and necklaces.

“So while the man mentioned in the first paragraph may feel as though he’s doing a good thing by sharing his appreciation for the way women look when they are out for a run – and some women might actually appreciate that too – for me personally, I’d rather not hear it. I’m not out there to look pretty. I’m out there to run.”

E. is all about the cozy knits these days, and I’m right there with her.

At long last, Gap has some high rise skinnies on offer. And they come in three inseam lengths as well as tall and petite cuts. Hoping to try these soon and will report back.

Chastity gives her thoughts on the Kelly Osbourne for HSN line.

The implication is that dressing in a more conventionally feminine way is somehow more frivolous, and can undermine perceptions of a woman’s intellectual and professional skills. Dressing in order to be taken seriously indicates that the spectre of older, more explicit forms of sexism still hovers over us: a woman who adopts a more feminine style is too preoccupied with pretty things to be a serious academic, because a woman can’t be both attractive and intelligent – if indeed she can be intelligent at all.”

What’s the difference between a tint and a tone? Learn more about color terminology right here.

I love everything about this outfit of cognac leather, stripes, and distressed denim. Well played. Jean.

“Sometimes I say chubby or curvy but today I’m going to say it. Fat. There are so many assumptions that come with that word, or when people see fat bodies. That you don’t take care of yourself. That you don’t love yourself. That you are ashamed. That you are not healthy. That fact doesn’t mean that I don’t love myself, that I don’t take care of my body or that I am not worthy. You see, I’m slowly learning how to not be ashamed of it. I’ve spent 15 years of my life bullying myself in the mirror and I’m done. I’m not playing that game anymore.”

Such a fantastic interview with Mode-sty founder, Zahra Aljabri.

I’ve purposely avoided most of the media storm that arose when Renee Z was photographed after drastic plastic surgery, but found LPC’s musings on ageism, beauty obsession, and the need to be recognized compelling.

The sassy asymmetric closure on Jyoti’s sunshine yellow coat makes it even cuter.

Break in case of fabulous.

I made it my fall mission to track down a fabulous metallic leather handbag. This one from Boden turned out to be far too shiny and cheap looking. This Vince Camuto one, however, is perfect – a little weathered, slightly metallic, and wonderfully roomy. (It was 50% off on 6pm when I bought it … fingers crossed it still is by today!)

17 promises to make to your body today. I’m especially fond of #3.

Burgundy and black is such a sleek, chic pairing, especially when there’s a little bit of leather involved. Though black and gold is pretty rockin’, too.

Never forget that you absolutely can wear sleeveless clothes regardless of your size, shape, age, or anything at all.

“I have a feeling that without Rei Kawakubo’s clothes, it would have taken a much longer time to realize I was queer. I identify with her designs because she queers fashion by destabilizing the meaning of clothes and creating her own ideas of what they stand for. I queer sexuality through my incapacity for picking one gender to be attracted to, or assign to myself. Kawakubo’s clothes made me feel brave enough to accept the parts of myself I otherwise thought were too strange to explore.”

Stasia is working on an extensive exploration of body proportions over on Thrift Me Pretty. Parts one and two both have some truly useful tips.

Completely agree that color can be an important element of flattery, but what matters most is how colors make you feel. Black is tough on most complexions, but if you love it, by all means wear it!

And from the Department of Random: A serenade.

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Insomniac Sale Picks: Wide Width Smoking Slippers

*In this late-night feature – which will run on Tuesday and Thursday of each week – I’ll gather up three fun items that are currently on sale online and share them with you! I would LOVE suggestions: Stylish wide-width pumps? Classic v-necked sweaters? Chandelier earrings? Petite dress slacks? What would you like to see featured?*

Roselyne requested a few picks for wide width smoking slippers, so here we go:

comfortview smoking slipper

Comfortview Wide Beth Studded Smoking Slipper – was $80.77, now $39.77 – $56.56

You all know I’m a sucker for studs, and that croc trim is so fun, too. These vegan-friendly smoking slippers have padded insoles and extra cushioning at the heel and toe bed. Available in this red as well as caramel brown or black in sizes U.S. 7 – 12, including C/D and E widths. Size availability varies by color. Also love this allover-stud version in W and WW.

aerosoles betunia

Aerosoles Betunia – was $80, now $17.99 – 69.95

Slightly higher vamp on these, but they still have the slip-on style and telltale notches of a smoking slipper. These have got a double-padded memory foam insole for cushy comfort, and come in a huge variety of colors and finishes from tiny sequins and suede to brocade, studs, and animal prints. (Amazon has these under three listings, so check all three for the full gamut.) Available in U.S. sizes 5 – 12, including C/D widths. Size availability varies by color.

van eli sely

Van Eli Sely – was $89.95, now $62.97
with code HALLOWEEN (also gets free shipping)

That toe looks a little pointy here, but it’s actually a rounded almond shape. These slippers feature a lightly cushioned footbed with built-in arch support and a flexible sole. Available in this gray as well as red, black, or navy faux snake prints in sizes U.S. 6 – 11, including N and W widths. Size availability varies by color.

Other not-currently-on-sale resources for wide width smoking slippers:

  1. Amazon – More than 30 options, in addition to the ones above. These Cole Haans are so classic.
  2. ShoeBuy – Plenty of great pairs, including this sleek snakeskin pair.
  3. Footsmart – It’ll take some searching, but the “slip-ons” category includes a few smoking flats like these fabulous two-tones.

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Body Shifts


Around the time I graduated from college, my body shifted. I hadn’t gained any weight, but I noticed that my clothes were fitting my curves differently. They were snug where they’d once been loose, loose where they’d once been snug. I mean, I didn’t go from an A cup to a D cup and suddenly lose my hips altogether, but there was definitely some shifting. And it wasn’t weight-related, and it wasn’t immediately visible when I looked at myself naked, and it wasn’t particularly troubling or worrisome. I’ll admit that I can’t remember the specifics of the shift, but I remember the sensation of realizing that my physical form had changed. Markedly. It struck me as odd because in the past, any body changes I’d experienced were mass-related. In this case, mass remained the same while shape shifted.

About ten years ago, my body shifted again. My legs thinned out a bit and my bust rounded somewhat. Again, no drastic change in weight, but my clothes began to fit differently and styles that one suited me looked odd while others I’d long shied away from started to appeal. Once again, I was perplexed. I talked to girlfriends and asked if they’d had similar shifts, and many of them had. We chalked it up to aging, hormones, changes in activity that we weren’t hyper aware of.

I can feel my body shifting again now. I’ve stayed at a pretty steady 150 pounds for many years, but somehow my size 10 pants are becoming ridiculously uncomfortable and I’m having to trade up for 12s. I haven’t noticed any softening of muscle or even a noticeable difference in the size of my hips and thighs, but wow. Pants fit differently now. And several pairs have been donated once that realization sunk in for good.

Although I do my best to love and accept my body, these shifts are a little unnerving. I don’t feel the need to control everything my body does or even keep careful tabs on its various statistics and measurements, but when it does change I like to know why. And although I’m sure that hormones, aging, and activity shifts could be contributing factors, it still feels strange to observe changes that aren’t the result of purposeful action or inaction. I feel detached and disconnected observing these shifts, like my body is making decisions behind closed doors while my brain waits outside in the lobby.

But because I’ve gone through several rounds of body shifts, and because my doctor assures me that I’m in good health, and because many of my women friends have been through similar changes, I am trying to look at this as an exercise in trust. I do my best to listen to my body and respond to its needs, but also know that some changes are silent by nature. I have no idea why this could be important, but perhaps there’s a biological reason why some of my personage needs to settle in around my lower body. So I’ll trust that my body is making informed decisions, and head for the size 12s.

Image courtesy Steve Maher

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