When I first started buying female clothes it was such a thrilling experience to finally allow myself the freedom to actually do it, it was almost overwhelming. At the time, it really didn’t matter that the clothes didn’t fit all that well, and that they didn’t really coordinate with each other to create outfits. All that really mattered was that they were female and that I had bought them for myself. This was more than twenty years ago, when I was in my early twenties and it was such a newfound freedom that I was fairly giddy with the excitement of it all. Not a sexual excitement as many cross dressers are prone to, but an excitement of unbridled freedom. Freedom of finally allowing myself to do something that I had longed for the vast majority of my life.
If you’ve been waiting for me to say something about the U.S. election, here it is: I don’t know what to say. I also don’t know what to do. In a time when unity and acceptance are more important than ever, I see angry people yelling at each other about doing ally-ship wrong. In a time when many are struggling to listen and help and be supportive, I am reading frustrated backlash over misguided, useless, or hollow actions. In a time when any gesture of solidarity should be welcomed, I’ve seen more vehement privilege call-outs than ever before. And as a deeply privileged person – white, cis, able-bodied, more – I feel completely frozen. Useless. Fully aware that those call-outs have merit and register important views, but also aware that my desire to do what’s most right and most helpful means that I cannot find any statement to make or action to take that someone somewhere hasn’t already deemed inadequate, insulting, or downright counterproductive. Maybe I’m reading the wrong websites or listening to the wrong radio stations, but I feel like much of the current post-election rhetoric is corrective instead of collaborative.
*In this late-night feature – which will run on Tuesday and Thursday of each week – I’ll gather up three fun items that are currently on sale online and share them with you! I would LOVE suggestions: Stylish wide-width pumps? Classic v-necked sweaters? Chandelier earrings? Petite dress slacks? What would you like to see featured?*
Tracy requested a few picks for utility/military jackets in colors other than olive, so here we go: